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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Thanks for the answers.
    Yeah, that's right, when I play guitar I just let it flow, but it's my emotions and mental blocks that doesn't allow me to always let it flow with women. But sometimes it flows, it just happens and I don't know how I do it. But that's kind of rare.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    So, you know what to work on and you know what it feels like to get it right....keep working to improve it. You have experienced some successes, build on them. Remember, you are in charge of your emotions and you are in control of your life.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Thanks dudes for your help!

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    no problem, dude

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Keep building yourself up.....the confidence will flow from it.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Yeah had a similar problem I guess. There was a girl who was completely into me in highschool (which was like 10 years ago). Anyway, we hit it off right when we graduated HS, had sex and what not, but went our separate ways. I was always a decent looking guy, muscular, popular, etc. But I lacked A LOT of confidence. In confidence, I mean my inner game.

    So, college roles by and I graduate and see her again eventually. We hang out and have sex again. Except, this time, I felt like I was trapped. I yearned for her approval. Next thing I know, I would text her and try to hang out and be blown off.
    Now I look back and feel sort of sorry for myself, but I learned a valuable lesson. The only person who has control over your feelings, is yourself.

    Now, I see her every once in a blue, but instead of me hitting her up on texts, she hits me up, especially when she is drunk. I NEVER ever text her first anymore. WHy? Because I am comfortable in my inner self. I have at any time 4-6 girls texting me at once. I don't need her text to justify my status, or inner being. Sometimes, she will even text me when she is out, and I won't even respond, even knowing she is an easy lay for the night.

    Girl play some weird games. And as much as I want to say I can understand them, they will always play those games that leave guys guessing. That is why I decided to become and practice the ways of PUA. It's almost like a counterbalance to the ways of women. I will never let a women control me. I want to be who I am for me, not for a "her". The best weapon you have is yourself man. Keep rolling with it and practice becoming who you want to be. Control your emotions. Men are logical creatures while women are emotional ones. Leave the emotions to them
    (Not saying that if you want to fall in love and all that, by all means, go for it. But in the meantime, never lose your inner game)

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Thanks

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr8Hyde6 View Post
    I will never let a women control me. I want to be who I am for me, not for a "her". The best weapon you have is yourself man. Keep rolling with it and practice becoming who you want to be. Control your emotions. , never lose your inner game)
    Exactly right. Do what you do for you, and chicks will be the natural by-product.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Yesterday I got a big aha when I met one of the girls I was talking about, thanks to you. It's actually the one of them who has caught my interest. I realized that the feeling she "made" me feel actually WAS approval seeking, without ever realizing it before. This allowed me to turn it around and make her want me. She is close to a perfect 10, so it's kind of nice. Later she succeded with the test again though, so I guess I gotta work at it some more. It was kind of funny that everything has to do with NOT needing her approval. If you don't need it, no "techniqes" are required. When I felt I didn't need it I was naturally cocky and funny. Do you have any more tips in working with your confidence?

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    You're slowly but surely getting your balls back, Graar.

    Actually, you DO need to practice "techniques". Sometimes when trying C&F, either you'll come off as just cocky or just funny. You need to develop both traits and many other traits, like :

    - positive energy ( mandatory )
    - quiet confidence
    - someone people would WANT to be around
    - comfort in own skin
    - no fear that talking slow will lose attention of girl or group
    - no fear of "awkward pauses".. let's them linger if he wants
    - rarely laughs at own jokes or C&F comments, while others laugh
    - totally in control with absolute security of positive end result
    - knowing confidence/smile/breathing
    -peaceful look, like from "Meet Joe Black", but with an ultra bad-ass
    cocky/confident/playful an unlimited ammunition of bad-ass C&F lines
    -ability to switch gears without warning.. "You're silly... goof.............. (change tonality to sexual) I want to see you."
    -does not look around at other people, or look concerned or threatened by anyone else.. very much in internally-centered

    Here's an example : if you set up the frame that she is ALREADY attracted to you, and act in every way congruent with that frame, then it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It all comes down to how you project yourself from the inside out. And this takes time to fine-tune it until you get consistent results.

    Here's a little thing I've read somewhere that I really like :

    Watch your thoughts, they become your words;
    Watch your words, they become your actions;
    Watch your actions, for they become your deeds;
    Watch your deeds, they become your character;
    Watch your character, it becomes your destiny!


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