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    Default Some girls control me and I don't know why

    As the topic says, some girls have control over my feelings, it's like they got my balls in their hands, and that wouldn't be wierd at all, if it wasn't for the fact that I'm NOT EVEN INTERESTED IN THEM. I've met about 3 of these girls, and sure, one of them is of interest, but not the other two. They pull me into some state that I don't like at all. It's like I become super anxious without even being interested. Does any of you recognize this? I loose control over my feelings totally. Why?

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Because your inner game needs to be more fully developed. Since it's not, you are allowing chicks that don't even interest you to dominate your thoughts and emotions. Work on yourself more and this problem will disappear across the board--with girls that you are and aren't interested in.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Any ideas on how to work with it?

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Please be more specific. Do they create situations you feel like this? Do they push you around, or corner you in some way? Do you feel manipulated?

    From what I can gather, this is sort of "approval-seeking behavior" combined with "being a wuss" and a "push-over". Definitely not a good combination.

    They don't have you by the balls, YOU have yourself by the balls. You actually allow yourself to let them HAVE your balls. Either that or you actually have social anxiety.

    Once you take your balls back from them, will you be free.

    Put a prize on yourself, build integrity and self-assured behavior, call on their bullsh1t and do things on your terms ONLY.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    There are lots of great books and resources to be found on this site.

    A few general questions about you, though: What do you like to do? How old are you, what do you do for school, work, fun, life, etc....

    In my definition: Your inner game is a reflection of who you are, what you do. It's your essence and where you derive confidence and strength. As people, we are multi-faceted. There are many building blocks that go in to making us who we are. Your inner game will be built through these building blocks because it is a reflection of you. Gather and stack enough of these building blocks in the right configuration, you will develop into an alpha male. A guy who leads other men, doesn't fluster around women, and one who is not controlled by chicks. This is where you want to be.

    So, as an example, part of where I derive my inner game from is my practice of martial arts. It is part of what I do and also a part of who I am. Not all of who I am, but a part. As a result of my practice, I have a great physique and I am confident in myself and my abilities. Chicks catch that vibe. If I take myself off the open market for an LTR, I maintain my martial arts practice because it is part of who I am and part of what I do for myself.

    There are other things that go in to developing my inner game....but I hope my example makes sense. Maybe martial arts aren't your thing. You could be an artist, bull fighter, poet, tree-hugger.....whatever. You can still build inner game from that.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    The thing is that, if that's true, I don't even know that I need their approval. For me it feels like they think I'm interested in them, and that's what affects me. For me it's easy to pick up what other people think. When this happens i try to resist it and think "I hope it doesn't look like I'm intersted" and that makes things worse.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Yeah, I'm 23 and an artist. A guitar player and singer. That's a big part of my identity and a lot of people respects me for my ability to play. I got a great job and my own appartment. But I't doesn't affect me that much, it doesn't make me an alpha male. Actually I know that many girls like me, and want to be with me, but in some way I stay away/destroys it. I think I'm afraid of intimacy and being popular (though I am in some ways), sounds wierd, I know. Any ideas on working on "allowing" yourself to be popular, and allowing intimacy?

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    I don't even know that I need their approval
    You don't have to know that you know that you need their approval. It just happens in very subtle ways that obviously affect you.

    The thing is to not resist your feelings. Once you do, they'll just curl inside of you, get agitated and when you crack, they burst right out full-on.

    Don't care AT ALL about what people think. In fact, be oblivious to their thought. Act as you're the master of the universe and don't give a sh1t.
    Last edited by Sitfab; 08-04-2011 at 05:14 AM.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Quote Originally Posted by Graar View Post
    Any ideas on working on "allowing" yourself to be popular, and allowing intimacy?
    Ah, alas, an artist.

    Yeah, one word. GROUPIEEEEEES.

    I'm a musician too, a drummer in a metal band.

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    Default Re: Some girls control me and I don't know why

    Dude....seriously? If I played guitar and sang, I wouldn't be able to hold a day job b/c I'd spend all my time in bed with chicks. Musicians can nail anything and everything that moves. They come to my house and the gold fish stop swimming.

    As for allowing yourself to be popular, think about it kind of like Sitfab has said....believe that you deserve to be popular. You are the master of your universe and it is only a matter of course that you would be popular. Don't think too much about it, just embrace it--kind of like how you play music. When you throw down a serious lead solo, do you think about it and each note, etc....or just let it flow?


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