Hi,I'm new here and, looking for a little advice.
So first, I'm not looking to, "pick up a girl," I already did. We met online over a year ago and have been talking almost everyday, by skype or phone. We're friends but not in the, "LJBF" category. She has stated clearly that she thinks the best relationships start as friends and believes strongly that guys and girls simply cannot remain just friends forever. Something happens and they either get closer or it ends. So that's encouraging. That she feels that way and also knows I am attracted to her and hasn't brushed me off. She even said to me once, "I know you are a good man and will make me happy. Just trying to convince my heart too." In her head she knows. But until now, our relationship has lacked any real chemistry and that I believe because we are separated by 7500km of ocean and 2 continents. But, we have made plans to meet in a few months. I'm going to visit her and we are taking 2 weeks to spend together.
Normally, if this were any other local situation, I wouldn't take it so seriously but, shelling out all this cash for the airfare, rental car, etc. I need to use every, "weapon" at my disposal because this might be my only chance. It's not like I can fly out every weekend to go for pizza if we hit it off. I want to spend the next 5 months bringing us to just the right place we need to be and then, step off that plane ready to, "complete the task" so to speak. And I don't mean to get some action. I really do love this girl. I'm thinking long-term.
So basically, looking for advice/guidance to help bring us to the optimal, "place" emotionally for when we meet and then, best way to proceed. I already have my own ideas. Things seem to be going well on their own but again like I said, this trip is everything. Not saying I need it to be perfect and plan every detail but, it's the most important 2 weeks of my life.
I know I didn't give a lot here so if you need anything clarified, just ask. And thanks for taking the time.