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    Default what can i do? i just dont understand!

    i have been talking to this girl for 3 months. it was her idea to take things slow and see where things end up. last week i took her to six flags great adventure with me, we has a blast, she kept innciating kisses, holding my hand, etc. 2 days later i took her to manhatten for a very nice diner, later on i surprised her with broadway show tickets to see jersey boys, because i know how much she loves frankie valley and the 4 seasons music. we has a great time. she was smiling the whole time. it was amazing. later on she tells me she really likes me, and she even wrote Tammy <3 pauli on the chaulkboard while we were waiting for our car. i know its childish but there had to be a message behind that. later on around 3 in the morning i had to drive my bro and his girl to the airport, so she took a ride with me. this was the first time they have ever met, on the way there, they were asking her to go away on vacation and sh1t, they were scaring me, let alone i dunno what they were doing to her. prior to driving them to the airport me and her agreed to hangout the very next night and waqtch a movie. noth only did we not hang out the next night, 2 days later she TEXTed me we should be friends. i know she likes me, we have a great time together, always smiling and laughing, we have so much incommon. i dont understand.
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    Default Re: what can i do? i just dont understand!

    It's great you two did awesome and cute things together. But from what it seems, you did SO much for her in a matter of like 2 days.

    This is just a speculation, but you went WAY over the top on this. Should of taken it a little slower. Done the 6 flags thing, and that's it. Or just the broadway play. Sounds like you just dropped 400 on this girl in one weekend. She is looking at you like, "i got him."

    I am a huge promoter of being respectful and cute and sweet and romantic to women, but, all in moderation. The more you give them the taste of it, the less they want. Imagine eating the SAME cereal every single day, every single meal. It gets annoying after a while. She might of felt overwhelmed and disinterested. Regardless of the signs she was giving to you, What you did is not make her pursue you one bit. You needed to make her pursue you. You completely gave yourself to her for her own desire and pleasure.

    I have a good friend, and all he does it takes girls out on expensive 200 dollar dinners for first dates. Yeah, great, thats cool, but she just sees you as a money bag at that point. Some girls may be impressed, but you don't need to spend 200 dollars to impress a girl.

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    Default Re: what can i do? i just dont understand!

    Also, do you know how many of those girls he takes on those expensive dinners he is still seeing... None.

    And then he wonders why he dislikes women's attitudes so much.


    What you did for her this weekend is stuff you should do for a girl you have been dating for a long time.
    This is just my opinion and from my personal experience. Think of it like this, say you two end up dating... What will you do to make valentines day better than the date you just mentioned? Or, her birthday? Or your 1 year anniversary?
    It will be hella hard. Money doesn't buy girls.

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    Default Re: what can i do? i just dont understand!

    Alls I wanna do is make her smile. Do u think my bro and his girl got her scared with what they were saying. And what can I do to get her attention again? I don't wanna come on too strong this time.

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    Default Re: what can i do? i just dont understand!

    Quote Originally Posted by pauli gee View Post
    Alls I wanna do is make her smile. Do u think my bro and his girl got her scared with what they were saying. And what can I do to get her attention again? I don't wanna come on too strong this time.
    It could of been just the overwhelming attention you just gave her. It might or might not have been your bro and his girl. It could of added to it.
    I would possibly try to spin it on your end. Flip the friend zone on her and make it seem like you want it to be a friend zone. Showing her that you aren't interested in the way she thinks you are will make her, inside, feel like she was wrong.

    The harsh reality of it may be that it may be too late. She might have made up her mind. But if I were in your shoes, I would flip the "friend zone" on her. I would ask to hang out, but not pay. I would make it more casual. Don't open up the way you did.

    In a relationship, it is ok to open up a bit. But keeping yourself a little hidden is key also. It adds to the mysteriousness of yourself. Girls don't want an open book. They want to figure you out.

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    Default Re: what can i do? i just dont understand!

    I'm gunna try the friend zone thing, bit do u think it's possible she's scared because prior to us talking she was in a long relationship 3 months earlier.

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    Default Re: what can i do? i just dont understand!

    Quote Originally Posted by pauli gee View Post
    I'm gunna try the friend zone thing, bit do u think it's possible she's scared because prior to us talking she was in a long relationship 3 months earlier.
    Possibly. She might just want her own little space. Maybe she just doesn't want to jump into it right away. There are hundreds of circumstances that can make a girl do what she does. It's real difficult to find out why or what it is, but that can be a possibility.

    I can only take it from my own experience. I ended a 2 year relationship in March. I do NOT want to get back into another one. I eventually will, but a time will come when it's the right time. As of now, it's not. I also haven't found that special someone or spark/connection.

    But advice from my personal experiences, be careful with girls that just ended a relationship. If you are truly into her and want something more than a hook up, be very very careful. You don't want to become that rebound guy (unless it's just for the fun of it, then by all means, go forth. However, from what it seems, you are into her more than just for the momentary fun)

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    Default Re: what can i do? i just dont understand!

    She did say she spoke to her bro right before and that is what she decided. But I phuked up, when she said she wants to be friends I told her I have enough friends. Stupid! What I didn't like is that she did it over a text out of the blue.


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