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    Default Met a girl, added her on FB, deletes me the next day

    No idea what is going, bad luck just seems to follow me. I met a girl outside of a club waiting for a cab and go talking, got really close where our faces were almost touching and it felt like it was on. But then she said she has a boyfriend but didn't move or anything. She did like me, I think.

    Anyway i got her name and said I'll add her on facebook so I do that the next day. I send her a cheeky message about something we talked about the other night. 2 hours later I find she didn't respond to my message and deleted me as a friend, question is, why?

    It all seemed to be going well

    Did she see me as a threat to her relationship or something else? I am 99% sure she was into me the other night, we had long intimate eye contact and all of that mumbo jumbo. If anyone has an explanation for this happening please tell me.

    Also would it be a good idea to ask her why she deleted me?

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    Default Re: Met a girl, added her on FB, deletes me the next day

    She might have a boyfriend who is extremely controlling and saw it and got mad.

    From experience, and again, I am no expert on human psychology or a am I a relationship therapist, but a lot of times when a girl is seeking out attention from another guy when she is with "someone", there is a key component missing or void from her relationship so she innately seeks it out in other men.

    This also goes for men who are missing something from their ladies.

    Perfect example. The other weekend, I went out to a beach bar with my one buddy. A girl I slept with years ago in college was there. She approached me. We chatted it up a bit. She was feeling me and all. She was on her phone at one point in time for a while, texting someone back and forth. I ignored it and just chatted her friend up. She eventually came back and was a little off and weird. I ignored it because 1) I didn't care enough to worry, and 2) it is none of my business. From her being all weird, the vibe kind of just died down, so my buddy and I walked away and we decided to chat up other girls. Eventually, the girl I knew and her friend found us and began talking to us again. It came out in the conversation (me and her were off outside at this point alone) that she has a boyfriend. Since I already slept with her, I honestly didn't care much about trying to do it again. So, she began asking me questions about my love life. I kept it short and brief telling her I haven't found the right one that is worthy. So our conversation led to our old college memories where we kept joking with each other. She eventually hugged me and didn't let go. I kept the hold there. She then went for a kiss. I pulled away (I know, sounds gay, but read the rest).

    Out of curiosity, I wanted to know why she wanted to kiss me if she had a bf. I am truly fascinated by it, and this is where my conclusion leads. She said "I don't see myself being with him because I can't see myself settling with him. We barely talk. It's more for the comfort of it all. Our conversation are boring. We don't do anything fun. It's just comforting knowing I have someone."

    So, getting back to my point. Girls who have "bf's" and who are out chatting up with guys, getting close to them (as the girl did with you), may mean that she is missing a key component in her relationship. In your instance, you gave her something that night that her bf hasn't in a while. Whatever it may be, you were offering it. Now, say her bf is a controlling freak and made her delete you. That's possibly why she wants to head out to bars, finds an interesting guy with confidence, charisma, and charm, and have a special moment with him. He might just be overbearing on her and she need that escape

    If you really want to message her on facebook and ask, say something witty and funny. Not to seem so desperate (however, I would ignore her if she defriended me.) Say something like, "Oh, so you don't want you cool status on facebook to go up so you deleted me as your friend."
    Use a variation of that, but again, you have to remember the reason why she did it. It has NOTHING to do with you or what you did or didn't do. It probably has something to do with her, and her own little relationship she is dealing with.


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