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    How do you respond to girls who insult your personally and not as a joke but really seriously. So this one girl(friend of mine for couple of years, i had a crush on her tho, but she friend zoned me, so i'm kind of a AFC for her) was really pissed on me(Don't even know why) and made fun of me of being virgin at my age, which is still not old enough to drink(I'm OK with that and don't find anything weird about that) and me being ugly and boring(I don't agree with her, i might not be the best looking guy but i'm not ugly and if i'm so boring why would she even talk to me?) So how do you respond to insults like this? She's not that good friend and we don't have many mutual friends so it's OK to delete her from my contacts. Actually i did it later but i felt weak and didn't know what to answer to things like this and kept saying sh1t about her too and i find that's not how an alpha male would've acted...

    So not a very big problem but just curious of how you guys respond to this kind of action.

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    I would have done exactly what you said. The answer is in your own post.
    (I don't agree with her, i might not be the best looking guy but i'm not ugly and if i'm so boring why would she even talk to me?)
    To project this thought all you would need to do it say it in a way that backfires on her. For example:

    If she is right in front of you and within ear shot you hear her say to her friends "He's boring, he's stupid, he's fat..blah blah" I would probably say something like:

    "Well gee, if I'm so |repeat what she said about you|, where does that leave you? After all this time you still hang out with me. *laugh* Apparently I'm not that bad."

    If you want to take is a bit further you could say something to the effect of:

    "*cough* Excuse me, but point one you don't seem to mind because you still talk to me and point two you should stop trying to bring others down because you can't deal with your own insecurities... Please, you are embarrassing yourself. *Roll eyes and walk away*"

    Obviously one is harsher than the other depending on what you are trying to accomplish. I've said something like this to a disrespectful girl I was trying to meet and her friends actually came after me to apologized for their friend's behaviour. The rest is a fond memory.

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    Alpha male response : Whatever

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    We were talking through msn because we don't live in same cities and she said all the things to me, not her friends(but i'm sure she has done that too, don't give a fark, because i don't know them).
    Yea, "Whatever" would be good, but if i just say it and then block her, i would look offended and weak?
    I want her to know it too that i'm not ashamed of myself and she can't just say things like that to me...

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    "Whatever" works nicely as simply a dismissive comment. But from the sound of your original post it seems like she was on a bashing spree which is rather childish behaviour and I would elect to call her out on it. But hey!... that's ME

    I don't need people who drag others down in my life so they either shape up or ship out.

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    I wouldn't block her as that takes too much effort. Only block if she is harassing you, but nobody said you have to respond to her IM's after you put her in her place. Also just because you choose to remain silent doesn't make you weak... you are the only one that can make you weak. Remember that.

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    Having confidence in yourself will really help the way people perceive you. Reading "the game" and learning some NLP really helped me with my confidence and i can see people acting differently toward me in a positive way

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    Spool is right. What I'd like to add to what he said is that keeping the "whatever" attitude makes her look try-hard.

    Something similar happened to me a few years back It was my cousin's 18th birthday and one of her friends complained that I don't chime in to get her a present and said that she thinks I'll buy her something cheap. This was on IM too.

    So I basically said to her in a polite tone that it's not her business what I buy for her birthday and told her to never talk to me again. She insisted on bashing me and kept going really good with until she said something that deeply offended me ( I think her actual words were "What are you going to buy her? A cheap $10 shirt?" I told her to (#*$*@) and blocked her.

    sh1tstorm ensued the following week with phone calls from my cousin and my aunt and grandmother and friends too. That stupid girl that I told off actually told my cousin that unless I apologize, she won't come to the party and none of her stupid friends will come either ( which was a significant percentage of guests she invited, probably 70-80% ).

    For a whole week, my cousin just asked me to apologize to her and I didn't want to. But then she broke down into tears and told me that she doesn't want her 18th birthday to be this sucky. I still stood my ground ( actually I said "I'll think about it", but she knows this means "no" ).

    Eventually, pressures from my family, my cousin's family and the stupid girl's family forced me to apologize.

    I was and still am very happy for what I did ( insulting, not apologizing ), but I I'll choose my battles next time sh1t like this happens.

    Anybody learned a lesson from my "mistake"?

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    that was ridiculously manipulative of that girl. She should not be socialised with. Its sick how girls can manipulate so badly sometimes.

    And guys will do what the girls want alot of the time. I def dont take that kinda shit off people if i can help it.

    After the party i probably would have told her off again the stupid bitch

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    Default Re: Alpha male response

    The alpha male wouldn't be spoken to like that.

    She did what you allowed her to do. If you don't like it, that's at least a start.

    You need a major self-assessment.
    I have failed more than most men have tried.

    Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.


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