Hey what's up guys,
I'm meeting up with a girl I msg'd on okc tomorrow. I'm not sure if I'm playing my cards right
We are most likely going to go out for drinks and food. I was wondering about the paying situation. To build more attraction I shouldn't being paying, right? But from this conversation it seems like she's expecting me to pay:
ME: Hey what's up, how are you? Are you practicing law in Lodi?
HB9: I was going to, until about 5 days ago, when the firm informed me they are closing down. AGONY But I'm here now, and looking for jobs, and available for drinks and/or food with charming and/or handsome men, preferably both. Yes?
ME:Ahh I'm sorry to hear that. That does sound agonizing. But... If you try hard enough, compromise a lil and remain optimistic, something always comes up. So go get 'em tiger! Are you free sometime this week? I come to the Stockton area quite often. My rlly good friend lives there
HB9:I'm free pretty much all the time right now... So yes, definitely let me know when you're in town! You're in Merced, right? An hour and a half...that's not TERRIBLE. My number is (***) ***-***4, and my name's **na.
ME: 1.5 hrs.. Yeah I think I can handle that, it's hwy 99 so bleh. I'll let txt you soon and hopefully we can come up with a game plan. Nice to "meet" you lol I'm Del, btw
I wait about 2 days and text her this:
ME: This is Del from okc lol. How are you?
HB9: I'm good, how about yourself?
ME: I'm good, just stuck in traffic. I'm on my way home from the bay area. You have an OC number? I recognize the *** area code. I used to live in costa mesa
HB9: Yes, I'm from there. Born there and went to UCI for 5 years...I miss it! Really hope I can move back soon. I just moved here from the bay area, incidentally
ME: Really? Yeah, living in that area was a blast. There's a big chance I may be moving back to southern cal soon. You're starting to sound like me... I just moved back to Merced from sf! Are you able to hang out tomorrow?
HB9: No, I have plans...but after that I'm free. I'm also trying to move back to OC/LA soon. Lol
ME: K how about Wed? I can't do Thurs or Fri. And since I'm coming to you, you can pick the place (: How did you end up working for a firm in Lodi of all places?
HB9: It's a long story... Wednesday works for me.
ME: Sounds good
I'm sure that she's dating other guys too bcz of her free time. I'm sure those guys are also paying for her dinner. Although money isn't an issue for me, I wanna build the best possible attraction. Should I pay or not? I don't want to look desperate. I am also driving 1.5 hrs to go see her. What do you guys think?