So for this college program I am in, I was an orientation staff member for a retreat we had. There was a group of 19 people and one HB girl. Because of the group I couldn’t really use to many routines or anything on her, but I made her laugh a lot and was getting I.O.I’s. I caught her many times looking in my direction especially when she would laugh. An example, say if someone else in the group said something funny, it always appeared that when she was laughing she would look over to me. When we had dinner I sat down at the table first and she came and sat across from me. One tease semi-NEG I said to her was that we were sleeping overnight in a church, and I said “I bet that you snore loud” with a smile on my face. She got really enthusiastic and was like “Noo! I don’t snore” with a smile on her face, she reiterated this again later with a smile again on her face to me it was her trying to prove herself to me. Because of the structure of the group I was never able to isolate her and I am still having trouble doing that. After the orientation I saw her at the gym, when I saw I was about to pass her, I took out my phone to make it look like I wasn’t paying attention to her, she said enthusiastically, “Hey look who it is!” we talked a little and I asked what she was doing tonight. She said she was getting together with some people from the program for pizza and that I should come. Since I commute to college I cant let myself into a residence hall, so I said that I had no way of getting in, and I didn’t know what time to get there, she said “oh well I can give you my number and I can let you in” so I put my number in her phone. At the “pizza party” we were again in a group setting. I am afraid because we keep hanging out in a group setting that I will fall into the friend zone. Also its very difficult to isolate because since I was a leader in the program we’re in I cant really alienate the other members by asking her to hang out solo after were in the group together. I cant tell if these are actual i.o.i’s or she just looked up to me as a sophomore leader of the program.
I've also noticed that a lot of the other guys were trying to hit on her, none were sucessfull expect for one guy, it seemed like she was giving some similar I.O.I's to him as she was to me.