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    Default My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    Honestly, being myself never got me any women, but my friends keep telling me to be myself when I approach them and bam!!!! Crash and burn every time. Are my friends failing me????

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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    Your friends are right. The thing is that it's REALLY HARD to truly understand how and what does it mean "to be yourself". And the range of responses you get from asking 100 guys/women is 100 different responses.

    What worked for me is discovering what traits I have and how I can fine tune them to be at their best anytime anywhere. In which case, it should be called "to be your best self", in one way or another. It may or it may not work for you. It's a personal journey that one has to take in order to discover himself and what he is capable of, not to be taken from a forum, book or whatever.

    Go out there, go for the prize, but also don't back down when sh1t gets rough, embrace failure as many times as possible. It's this way that you discover your self. Once that essence of self is discovered, only then you can truly be self you want to be and mold it like you desire.

    What your friends tell you is most likely something they've heard somewhere before and liked how it sounded, so they share it with everybody. Most likely they don't really know how to be themselves if the situation was the same with them.
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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    Thanks for the reply Sitfab. to tell you the truth, those friends I have are naturals, they been used to women since they were 11 or 12 according to them, me in the other hand, only slept with 2 women that weren't hookers.
    the strategy I'm following to get out of this hell is to learn routines and use them. I'm also reading books about NLP.
    Are you already a PUA or you still learning?

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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    I had a gut feeling they were naturals. Nonetheless, they're still right.

    I've been in the game since 2005, been off from it for an accumulated two years, because of relationships I wanted to have with the HB's in cause. Started with Ross Jeffries' NLP routines, after a ( very ) short while switched to Mystery Method and that kept me going until I got natural. Still use some routines, though, either when conversation is stalling, when awkward silences occur or when I'm not feeling it.

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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    Wow, amazing, reading to your replies are giving me more motivation, before I read the book "The game" I was hopeless and growing tired of my friends bragging about the women they were getting and sending me pics of them half naked. I fell in a deep depression for 4 month.
    Thanks for replying to my post man. Thanks for giving me hope

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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    If you want to do yourself a favor, drop the NLP Routines and go for the Mystery Method.

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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    I agree with you, but wouldn't NLP help me when it comes to further deal with the HB?? Let's say I use Mistery Method in the beginning and then use NLP afterwards if I want to keep the target around for longer

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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    NLP in Pick-up is manipulative and sleazy, not to mention creepy. It might do good for you if you're a motivational speaker, a salesman, or something to that extent, but big no-no here.

    The only thing that can keep a HB is your personality and how you carry yourself. If done with authenticity, she'll be interested in you, no doubt about that. Neither will "keep" the HB.

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    Default Re: My friends always tell me to be myself???????

    I agree, now that I think about it, the idea gave me some goosebumps, it's creepy to use NLP for that purpose.


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