I always feel like if I ask a girl out, its implied that there is some long-term potential down the road, and that if she knew that I had no interest in the possibility of a long term relationship, she would be offended.
However, I'm in a place in my life where I'm not interested in that, and I just want to fool around, live in the moment, and learn about the opposite sex. The last part is matters because I'm not sure what qualities are important to me in a wife/long-term girl.
Also, I imagine the type of women who are open to flings frequent nightlife, and 1) I'm not into it, 2) I don't drink and 3) as a condition of my probation, I can't go into bars/clubs. If it wasn't for probation, I'd be willing to adjust.
Still, ideally I'd want to be myself. While I'm social, I feel disingenuous hanging out in a loud place where I can't converse and I feel out of place since everyone is drinking.
Also, I live in Houston, TX. So, firstly, in Houston (a little more conservative than the west and east coast) roughly what percentage of women would you say are interested in a fling? secondly, how do I distinguish those who are and those who aren't? thirdly, how do I make it clear to a woman I'm just getting to know that i'm not looking for anything serious?