Re: Need help following up on HB Sorority girl
Glad to hear you have had some success!
You need to disqualify her. Do something that makes her second guess your interest, but don't make it look intentional. Nothing mean. A good way to escape the Friend Zone is to stick her there first. I would personally respond something like:
Yeah, You better believe I don't take all of my friends out to such nice places.
Then you made it sort of a joke, called her a friend, so you disqualified her first. But the wink face will make her wonder what you mean. Then you will appear as a challenge again and she will wonder how you see her.
Once you see positive behavior it is o.k. to give her another IOI. It is actually good to work disqualifiers and signs of disinterest off of IOI's back and forth to create Push Pull.
I don't think that text was bad though, but I know what you are saying as far as it looking like it could be pointing toward the Friend Zone.
Good job Kiss closing on your date. I will tell you though, I don't normally do dinner on a first date (I actually don't usually do "dates" at all.), it is too formal and can scare girls away. It is also a little AFCish. So is a movie, movie dates are the kiss of death(just for future reference). Coffee or lunch "hang outs" tend to be better and more casual at first IMO. Or skipping dinner and just doing drinks (maybe ask if she wants to grab a bite later in order to move to another comfort building location). It is important to build up her comfort at first. "Hanging Out" is actually the better approach from my experience. Girls love to sit there and wonder "Was it date?" if you tell her it ruins it for you because you lose some of your mysterious persona. You also look like you are looking to her for approval. She should be looking for yours. I don't actually mean ask her if she wants to "hang out" just say "Hey you want to go get some coffee at X?" or something like that.
Keep The Cat string theory in mind. You want to be the moving string that a cat will chase. If you just lay a string in front of a cat it will lose interest. If you move it, the cat will chase it endlessly. Taking her out and asking if it was a date and stuff makes you the string laid out in front of her.
Another mentality that is good to adopt is this. This is YOUR reality and people are just here as your guest. They should all be looking for your approval. Own that, and people will know. It is ultimate Alpha.
Keep me posted Jonathan08
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