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    Default Help with disinterested girl, by my interest in her

    Hi All,

    New to the PUAForums, so HI!!

    I am seeing a girl from time to time, maybe twice a week over the past month as she is best friends with my current house-mate, and she comes over for dinner and we go out and see gigs together etc. I am moving out in a week to another apartment. All good.

    I took us all out to see a friends band play and she was blissing out and really loving it - DHV, kino etc. She texted me the next day saying thank you and that she would love to hang out this week.

    Recently we went out to "hang out". I am new in town so she took me to a decadent restaurant, which really got us groaning and stimulating our senses together. We then went and got gelato and flirted etc. All good, great IOI's, kino, cokcy/funny...all good.

    She ends up telling me that she really likes me, is interested, likes my smell. I kiss her and we make out for a small bit.
    But then SHE says: "that if she knows a guy is interested in her, then it makes her disinterested."
    ME: "lucky for you I'm not interested"
    HER, smiles: "knows I want a committed GF, and she doesn't work that way. She is seeing other guys and is in two very open relationships."
    ME: "I don't expect anything from you. I would have loved to be married 2 years ago, but I am not. I know I like you and it feels good to be with you. I am just happy to be."
    HER: "I'm complicated and I don't want to put us in a position to hurt you. I don't know. I have a self low worth."
    ME: "You know how I feel about you. (smile)"

    She then kisses me very softly, sensually and long a few times, then says "Till next time." and she goes inside her house. We text for the next few days saying hi, and talk about shiatsu, making sure I talk about how I am feeling after the shiatsu etc.

    I texted her last night wishing her a happy New (Jewish) Year. Nothing back, then this morning she texted me asking me to come over for tea tonight after dinner?
    It will be very late when I finish dinner tonight and I am not sure I would want to, or be able to go to her place after dinner for tea. We both have quite early starts.
    I would much prefer, Whiskey and an erotic massage.

    Was she sh1t-testing me about being disinterested?

    Is she interested? (I feel like we were made for each other)

    How do I show disinterest while still being or showing interest?

    Game on?


    Thanks guys!!

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    Default Re: Help with disinterested girl, by my interest in her

    I think she is into you, but that she is telling you the truth. You have a good opportunity here. If you keep it open you can date other girls without her caring.

    If you are hoping that she is only going to be yours and be your GF then...no. I do not think that is what she is hoping for, or going for.

    sorry if that disappoints you. I wouldn't get your feelings too invested into this girl, or you are lining yourself up to get hurt.

    Years ago I dated a girl like this, so I talk from some experience.

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    Default Re: Help with disinterested girl, by my interest in her

    Awesome, thanks for you reply.

    What do I say/text do about tea tonight? I want to escalate it, make it sound fun and attractive.

    QUESTIONS and how to DEAL with them...
    Was she sh1t-testing me about being disinterested?

    Is she interested? (I feel like we were made for each other)

    How do I show disinterest while still being or showing interest?

    Game on?

    Rocky

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    Default Re: Help with disinterested girl, by my interest in her

    I suppose she was sort of Sh1t testing you. She was seeing if you were going to turn into pudding and be a needy whiney little biotch. That is the worst thing you could possibly do. She will revolt like hell if you do that.

    I don't think you need to do much as far as texting about the tea thing. I think you just go over there and escalate once you get over there.

    I think she is interested in fooling around. Win for you buddy. Just don't mess it up by trying to get her to commit to a relationship because it won't happen. If it does she would be a cheater to be sure.
    There is no such thing as rejection, only feedback.

    Be the flame, not the moth.

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    Default Re: Help with disinterested girl, by my interest in her

    Thanks for the quick reply. Good stuff!!

    How do I show disinterest while still being or showing interest?

    Rocky

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    Default Re: Help with disinterested girl, by my interest in her

    Just play hard to get, Don't always be available for her.

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    Default Re: Help with disinterested girl, by my interest in her

    Ha! I did that last night by total accident. Got home way too late after dinner to go to her place.

    She sends me a message saying she is going to sleep, we'll speak tomorrow.

    Cheers guys!
    Rocky


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