New to the PUAForums, so HI!!
I am seeing a girl from time to time, maybe twice a week over the past month as she is best friends with my current house-mate, and she comes over for dinner and we go out and see gigs together etc. I am moving out in a week to another apartment. All good.
I took us all out to see a friends band play and she was blissing out and really loving it - DHV, kino etc. She texted me the next day saying thank you and that she would love to hang out this week.
Recently we went out to "hang out". I am new in town so she took me to a decadent restaurant, which really got us groaning and stimulating our senses together. We then went and got gelato and flirted etc. All good, great IOI's, kino, cokcy/funny...all good.
She ends up telling me that she really likes me, is interested, likes my smell. I kiss her and we make out for a small bit.
But then SHE says: "that if she knows a guy is interested in her, then it makes her disinterested."
ME: "lucky for you I'm not interested"
HER, smiles: "knows I want a committed GF, and she doesn't work that way. She is seeing other guys and is in two very open relationships."
ME: "I don't expect anything from you. I would have loved to be married 2 years ago, but I am not. I know I like you and it feels good to be with you. I am just happy to be."
HER: "I'm complicated and I don't want to put us in a position to hurt you. I don't know. I have a self low worth."
ME: "You know how I feel about you. (smile)"
She then kisses me very softly, sensually and long a few times, then says "Till next time." and she goes inside her house. We text for the next few days saying hi, and talk about shiatsu, making sure I talk about how I am feeling after the shiatsu etc.
I texted her last night wishing her a happy New (Jewish) Year. Nothing back, then this morning she texted me asking me to come over for tea tonight after dinner?
It will be very late when I finish dinner tonight and I am not sure I would want to, or be able to go to her place after dinner for tea. We both have quite early starts.
I would much prefer, Whiskey and an erotic massage.
Was she sh1t-testing me about being disinterested?
Is she interested? (I feel like we were made for each other)
How do I show disinterest while still being or showing interest?