This could be a long story, I will keep it short but try to get the important facts in. almost 2 yrs ago I met a girl who was much younger then me, I was 47, she 24. We became friends, what I thought and she always said, very close friends. As a side bar it never bothered me that she was so young. She was mature for her age in many ways. The only problem was she had a 7 yr old son and a boyfriend who is the boys father. They were not married at the timeÖ.as her and I grew closer which seemed to be within mths, I became concerned that we were beginning to have feelings for eachother. I lectured her on several occasions how I was concerned about this, and she was also.
Background info: she was going to school partime, the boyfriend was not making much $$ at all. They lived together in the basement of her boyfriends fatherís house. Not much rm, mattress on the floor , no bedrm furniture , cloths piled everywhere. She was always complaining about him arguing with her. So, you can guess where this one is going, we did get involved for a year, even after she married this guy, which I begged her like a total afc not too. We called eachother every day, we saw eachother every day since we worked in the same office, it couldnít be helped. Since Iíve been searching around on these types of websites I realize now that I was a total afc, put her on a pedestal. I fell in love with her and I fell hard. She told me she loved me all the time all the time, like every day she told me. We made love 2-3 days a week, just about the best s***x Iíve ever had. We both agreed the s***x was great.
I would take her to my home all the time, I would have to meet her and she would follow me there, if I didnít she was always afraid she would get lost. I would bring her coffee every day at the office, buy her jewelry. I bought her a small diamond which from some recent pics I saw she still wares it.
So towards the end , (and after reading all that Iíve read from this website and others I should have backed off and saw it coming) she became stressed and moody all the time. She limited the time spent together , she blamed it on school. Of course she was married then, and I should have baled on her when that happened. I honestly tried, I probably told her it was over a doz times during those last few mths, but she always cried and begged me not to go. Well, one night she chatted me up, and told me it was over, she said she couldnít do this anymore, that even tho she was still in love with me she owed it to him(now her husband ) to stay w him. She said she needed to take care fo her family. Well, of course I said ok..see ya and all that. But a few days went by and we began talking again although she said she had to stick to what she said no matter what. She graduated from school finally got a very good job in the health care field that pays well.
She asked me to be a friend to her, she told me if I really cared I would. I refused of course.
That was back in Feb 2010, I must have did no contact with her and blocked, unblocked and blocked her profile on FB 20 times. I texted her once In Aug 2010, she was just a bit***ch, she said for me to loose all her info, emails, phone#, she said she was very happy and that she doesnít need any reminders of us.
So, of course that was enough said for me, I have stayed no contact since. I did chk her FB profile about 2 mths ago and saw she had another child, the stupid thing is, they are now living with her mom in an old beat up small home in the nastiest of sections, just a flat out bad neighborhood.
She would have had it great with me, a nice home etc. She choose to stay with him, a loser w no financial means hardly at all. She told me at one time that her mom need help financially. Well, lately some weird things have been happening that has put me back into oneitis again. In the last 2 mths, Iíve seen her car drive by my home about 7 or 8 times. She knows no one out near me at all except her sister works about 2 miles form my home but is over to the opposite side of where I live. I.ve been wanting to call her to see how she is doing, but would feel like sht if she hung up on me. Her sister posted some pics of her on fb and she still looks great even with the now 2 childran. Im thinking maybe she wants me to see her drive by or maybe shes reaching out, or am I just wrong on this. Would I be a fool just to call her to say hello?
I was maybe thinking email her sister and just ask how she is doing? I donít know, I know im still very much in love with her thatís for sure, I wish I wasnít. Help!
Because of the drive bys, im thking she's not as happy with her current circumstance as she thought she would be. Any ideas or advise?