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    Maikar is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need help with a girl that we were hanging out and I don't know what happened

    Met this girl a few weeks ago and was texting her and she was laughing at my jokes and usually seemed to be having a good time with our conservations. Went out Thursday night for college night at the bar and met her there. Had a few drinks, danced, went to a party after, then went back to my place and cuddled. In the morning laid in bed for a while and talked a little for around an hour. Get up, she leaves after I take my shower and says she wants to hang out again that night.

    That night me and some friends went out to a party and I invited her and she came too. We rode together and my friends rode in another car. On the way there she was having a good time talking to me. Get to the party and about half way though the time we were there she starts acting different. I get up to go to the bathroom and one of the guys that came with sits down right next to her, no big deal I go off and talk to some other people and drink my beer. A little later I sit next to her again ask if she needs anything and talk to her a little more. Then my friends start telling her to come sit between them, and some other stuff I can't remember any more.

    We go to leave the party to go the casino and they convince her to ride with them in their car leaving me to ride alone, She gets in their car, mid you she's drunk at this point, and I went up to the car too. They tell me to drive my car so they don't have to drive back. She gets out and we both walk to my car I tell her I'll drive us there, but they yell at her to hurry up and she gets back in the car with them. This point I'm pissed off and my other friends that own the apartment have me ride with them. We talk in the car about what is going on and they calm me down.

    Get to the casino and they are all already walking around in a group. So me and the 2 I rode with go walk around and talk on our own. Meet up with everyone again at the tables and I sit next to her and talk a little bit. She says she has to go to the bathroom and my "friend" says to take someone with her so she isn't walking alone, I offer to walk her and she says yeah.. I figure I finally have a chance to talk to her a little with out everyone else around. Not 10 seconds later one of the guy's wives and her 2 friends come running up and go with us to the bathroom, then when we get out the four of them walk to her car together... Who the hell knows what they said in the bathroom... I walk off by myself and meet up with the 2 people I rode to the casino with and we go talk for a while. Meet up with everyone again and walk to some slots looking for people so we can leave. She was sitting in a chair and could hardly hold herself up so I sat down next to her and was going to stop her from falling out of the chair. That may have been a mistake on my part, but after a few seconds my friend starts poking her and joking and gets her to stand up and mess around fake kicking at him. She kicks him and then runs off and hides behind a row of slot machines, and he goes looking. While I just sit there and watch him stab me in the back..

    We go back to the apartment and she gets her purse and stuff from my car saying that they said they will get her home. I try in a feeble attempt to get her to ride to her house with me but she says no. I didn't push the point and we say bye we hug and she says she wants to hang out again, promise. At this point my friend who owns the place stops them and gets into their face about making me drive home alone... Finally the one "friend" who was instigating all the time with her and his car gets out and gets in mine. On the ride home I ask him what the hell was going on tonight, and he says, "you were being clingy from what I could tell. Just back off." Now if he could see that when we were at the party wouldn't a real friend go hey man, back off a bit, no he just starts flirting with her and says nothing to me.

    I've talked to a few people that I know, one says he thinks she has a crush on me. Another friend says that the one "friend" at the party was trying to scare her away from me and that I should still talk to her. My brother says I do get a little clingy when I'm drunk, and looking back I can see how I may have been and how to change that. Also though that our one friend is a gigantic cock block and if he sees you talking to a girl he's going to try and get her, even if he says he's helping you out. If he can't have her no one can..

    Since that night I tried imitating a text with her on Sunday and Tuesday but she didn't reply so I didn't try again after the 1st one. Monday night was out with some friends at Hooters and one of them invited her out. We said hi and bye but couldn't really talk to her about anything in a setting like that. Plus she was across 2 tables from me. She texted me for a little bit that night, but it was nothing like it was before. She also told me her and her bf just broke up.

    There is a good chance I will see her out again Thursday. I really do like her, but I still have no clue what she is thinking about me, if I see her Thursday should I just ignore her? I really want to talk to her, but at this point I'm afraid I'm just gonna push her away more.

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    Enigmatic is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help with a girl that we were hanging out and I don't know what happened

    Tricky situation man. You came off as a huge beta. Maybe it's the style or structure of your post, but that's the vibe I felt. You could have banged her that night you two cuddled, easy. Escalation would have done you wonders. As for the party you two went to, it was almost as if she WANTED you to bang her that night you two were cuddling, and because you didn't do it she partially lost interest. Here comes along a guy who's alpha, not shy, and down with flirting openly with her (IE: Your douchebag cockblock friend) and of course she's going to feel attraction for him. She gave you your shot, and you didn't take it out of respect for her boyfriend, or your friendship, or whatever the hell the reason was you two didn't fuck like rabbits.

    If you want to recover, I'd start being majorly alpha. Text her something like "I should have got you naked that one night." or something balls-to-the-wall gutsy. Get out of that friend zone man, GET OUT.
    Long time PUA, first time on this specific site. Seduction forums is where I hung out.

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    Maikar is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help with a girl that we were hanging out and I don't know what happened

    I know I'm a huge amateur, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, never really have a girl interested in me. This girl was just all dumb luck. As for not banging her I just didn't try hard enough to get her naked. Didn't care she had a bf, I just didn't know what I was doing. I tried to get her shirt off, but she said it wasn't the time for that right now she was tired.. though it was 8am and she pretty much passed out after 5 min of laying down.

    I'm wondering if there is something I can try at the bar Thursday night with her to maybe spike her interest again, or if just going cold to her for a week or 2 would work better. Then try and initiate with her again.

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    Default Re: Need help with a girl that we were hanging out and I don't know what happened

    If she stopped you, pull a freezeout and re-escalate. Like I said before, the only way you're going to pull this off is to totally alpha up. She needs to see you as top dog. Socialize, lead conversations, and don't ask, just do. Work some kino in there while you're telling a story or isolate her in the bedroom by asking if she wants to see something in that bedroom (like a kitten or a deck of cards for a magic trick, etc). When you and her are alone, just go for it.
    Long time PUA, first time on this specific site. Seduction forums is where I hung out.


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