So lately I've been meeting girls at night clubs and what not. It doesn't really matter where I meet them. The girls that i've met out at clubs, i've kissed already, so there is obviously a barrier already broken there - I invited each of these girls back to my place some time later in the week after meeting them (1 girl at a time obviously) and I can usually lay them first time.
My problem arises when I am meeting girls that I haven't kissed yet or I haven't actually been out with yet. The previous two girls i met with, i'd bantered with them on and off for some time on facebook/text. Finally I ask one of them to come back to my place for dinner.. casual fish and chips (no biggie).. then did some painting for a bit.. I ended up escalating with her and brushed her neck a bit.. then ended up kissing for a bit.. i ended up getting her to take her top off.. mind you, it sounds like i was being a massive creep, but i was doing it all in good humour. Soon, she said I have to go without an explanation (i'm not too sure if it was because she may have heard my housemate say she had to leave or what).. but i felt the vibe that i came on too pushy and sh1t.
The other girl i'd met for a coffee one day, was a bit awkward but turned out alright. Then she texted me late one night after work. I asked her what she was up to.. she said she was driving around... so i told her to come over. We went for a bit of a drive, looked up some sh1t on youtube, played some instruments blah blah.. she ended up sitting on my lap, and i subtely kissed her on the neck. She turned around and blah blah, it was on. Then I took her top off.. she had no problem with it.. then I was just teasing her and making her want it.. then she said i really have to go (even though she wanted to stay).. i just ignored it haha.. kept going. This repeated for a while.. i ended up releasing her from my talons and she left. She texted me how bout we get to know each other a bit. I joked around a bit saying she was coming on too strong. Now she doesn't talk to me.
I want to get the girl to the point where she forgets all her restrictions and constraints and just says screw it.
What/where would be the best way to meet a girl so that you can escalate with her but not come off too sleezy or too strong?