well, here's the story
i met this girl around 3 weeks ago
so anyway, i kinda like her, and so far, i can tell that she is interested in me as well, i can tell by the way she speak to me, and how when i speak to her, she kept smiling and then playfully punch me when making a joke, then keep on asking me what's my plan
and she always say i am a funny guy, and she seems genuinely happy when is with me..
but the thing is, there is another guy which is after her, and they knew each other for longer than i do, they knew each other for 6 months and me only 3 weeks, so i am obviously outpaced right now with their longer relations
then comes this night, i was accompanying her in library ( she is kinda a study nerd ) and i thought that day i was gonna be with her until i walk her home,
but to my surprise, when we're about to go, the guy showed up, now i imagine that maybe the guy offered to walk her home earlier ( and in the end we ended up walking to the subway station, and i had to back off because they are going north and i was going south )
because i was thinking, if i offer to walk her home, that would be awkward, because the guy seemed to have asked to walk her home first, and as a new guy, i played it cool and backed off, of course i was pissed inside, because she is the one asked me to join her in the Library, so i expect to walk her home instead of me looking like douche 3rd party in the end that i am the one not to walk her home...
ok, that have passed, i played it cool, because i dont want that kind of small stuffs to distract with such simple stuffs
so far, the text messages we've been doing, it looks like she is really interested in me, like she can text me asking like what i am up to today, or even remind me that it's raining and asked me to bring an umbrella, well, a text that would make a men thinks they like you
but since girls are so tricky, i dont know if she's only doiung this because she is bored in the library or i am just being a scapegoat for her boredom, i still couldn't tell as i knew her only 3 weeks, and so far we've only been going out around 5x
my question is
should i just play it cool with her? like you know, play a bit class, not being a needy by replying everyday or calling every day
because i kinda did that during the 2nd week, i called her like 4x in a week, and then i realize i should just play it like as if i can still have fun without her
make her more curious about me? although deep inside i will be happy when she text me or call me
now, i heard from her friend that the other guy is a bit aggressive, and maybe she doesnt like it so much ( speculation )
so i just dont want to be like the aggressive kind of guy, cause i know some girls hate it, and it kinda show your neediness?
what do you guys think i should do to win her heart from the other guy which chasing her
well, i know that i just have to be myself, do what i do like usual, dont fake it or anything and dont be too aggressive, ( maybe in between )
as long as i can show her that i can still have my life beside chasing her,
becasuse i know most woman are more interested in a guy which is a bit cool than the one that shows neediness and less class by saying yes to everything she say or ask
so yeah, any advice is welcomed