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    jonsteve is offline PUA in Training
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    Default need advice on stunning girl

    hey,

    Recently, I have been facing several issues I have never faced before with women, but there is one in particular that i need advice with.

    I met a stunning, intelligent girl at my university a couple of months ago and hit it off with her. She told me that she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to cheat and said that she wouldn't see me any more. Although i really liked her, i understood, and got on with my life. A week ago, she facebook's me telling me that she wants to meet up, but that i must behave and not try anything. I met up with her and really did nothing forward as i wanted to be friends with her. She obviously thought different and didn't know what she wanted, as she changed her mind from "wanting to just be friends" to being a "booty call" to being "a one night stand where we would never talk again afterwards".

    We were on the latter, but got interrupted when her bf called her, which obviously didn't feel great. She spoke to him and lied where she was, but once she hung up, she gained a concious and didn't want to do any more than we had already. Before she left, we talked, and i asked her whether she wanted to be with me instead. She said she would think about it and told me that she really liked me, but that she also liked her bf.

    Then she left.

    I want her and know that the best thing to do is to not text her. However, I hate the fact that i don't know whether she will text me, and i hate the idea of just waiting forever.
    I don't know how i feel about the whole situation either and would really appreciate any advice.

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    Default Re: need advice on stunning girl

    gut instincts and act as if you have nothing to lose, because that IS the situation. She may never leave her boyfriend unless you do something bold and make it a big statement that you are worth her while.

    When a girl is with a guy, they see them often and in order for them to pick you over him, you must be special and outduel him? how by being yourself and being everything he is not.... for now, tell her you want to know her better as friends and that you want to put this all aside, because you rather have a friendship than nothing with her...

    this will mask your true plan, and kill it from there once she gets to know you well....

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    Default Re: need advice on stunning girl

    Thanks for the advice! I agree that i have nothing to lose, however its hard to make my inner drives realise this. Sometimes it feels like i need to do everything i can to be with her, which is ridiculous!

    ----------------Update------------------
    I was planning on not speaking to her for a while, however, I woke up the next morning with a facebook message from her boyfriend. It basically said that i played a part in ruining his life and that he wanted to know from me what happened. I didn't want to kill any chance i had with her, so i phoned her in the evening and told her that her bf had contacted me.

    She was panicking on the phone, saying that she wanted to be with him still but then saying she was confused. (I have to admit, from here on, i was trying to score some points with her for the remainder of the call). I said that she can tell me what to write to her bf on my facebook. it turns out that she told him everything when she went home that night. I said that i would take the bullet for her and lie, by saying that we were friends, got drunk, and that I made the first move (there's not much chance of us meeting so i didn't mind taking the bullet for some points). I asked her whether there was any chance we would be together in the future. She said that she was scared to tell me as i could really ruin their relationship. After telling her that i would do the right thing anyway as that is who i am, she said that if she stayed with her bf then we would never be together, but if they broke up then maybe we would have a chance. I told her that he seemed like the kind of guy that would take her back no matter what she did (to kind of make him look a pussy if he did accept her back). I also said that i would like to remain friends with her as i dont want to lose her and that i would rather have a friendship with her than nothing at all. I think all of this must have worked at least a bit as she said not to tell her bf ( she was still scared i would ruin it for them) but that she does like me and is very impressed at what i had said to her and taking the bullet etc. and that she would definitely consider remaining friends if nothing else.

    I did the right thing and took the bullet although he has not replied to me. The last text i got from her that evening (tuesday) was her saying that she thinks my theory about him taking her back was wrong as he hasnt called her. i replied saying that he hasnt replied to my message and probably hasnt seen it. That she will be ok and that il let her know if he replies (which he hasnt).

    Right now I'm kind of just waiting. My emotions are driving me crazy, wanting to know what has happened and whether i could be with her, and really just wanting to talk to her. I havnt acted on these emotions however. I was thinking that i should either wait infinitely for her to respond or to wait a week or two and send her an innocent text of hope everything got resolved or something like that.

    what do you think i should do?

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    Default Re: need advice on stunning girl

    you made a rookie mistake, never take a bullet like that ever again! it's very nice of you, but it's only helping HER cause and leaves you in the dark, because my last response was BE UNIQUE and be everything he's not.. you're like fueling his attractiveness by trying to be a good guy.

    I admire it, but if you want her, it's a stick and tough situation, you MUST distant yourself or go hard or go home. There's no being nice here... because as a result, it's a waiting game for you. I'm not angry, my thoughts are pouring out.. lol.

    Text her saying, I don't want to hear your problems with your boyfriend or how you are confused. Sort them out on your own, in the meantime, I think we should start fresh and hang out for coffee.... or freezeout for 3 weeks. pick one.

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    Default Re: need advice on stunning girl

    lool i have probably ruined it anyway now lol.

    I text her saying "hey did you end up working everything with your boyfriend out?"

    Then after getting no response i began thinking that i was being a pussy for saying that, got annoyed and sent her a sex message lol

    said something like "i want you to hear my breath in your ear while you whisper french in mine. your eyes will roll back as our bodies touch like silk... Meet me, i want do nasty things with you ;-)"

    so yeh, probably over lool, i doubt il hear from her after that!

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    Default Re: need advice on stunning girl

    All is not lost homie ,u can still fix it by
    1.Not mentioning her bf eva again or dat specific information
    2.telling her to change the subject if she tries to bring em up
    3. Start attracting her again ,build genuine intrest
    4. Get another gal ,probably one she knws nd preferable one she doesnt like ,believe a gal will always hav a gal she does not like
    Dont have routines as the cards in your deck ,have skill instead ,because once a routine is done ,its done ,you cant do it again in the same interaction ,but skills can be done over and over ,so then you could play a card twice.

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    Default Re: need advice on stunning girl

    if she doesnt respond at all.. it's game over.. there's only so much patience and optimism we can have.

    Good news is you learnt and she'snot the only good looing girl out there in this world.. state for that matter.

    chin up.... we all succeed and struggle, it's all part of the fun!

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    Default Re: need advice on stunning girl

    The best thing you can do is keep dating and f-closing other HB's while this plays out. In my experience, you'll get her to come around some more, but not very much or at all if you come across as needy, which is exactly what you'll be if you're not getting laid and hung up on her. Enjoy the time you get with her as a spontaneous bonus, and as someone else already said, don't talk about the BF. Change the subject and always be fun.


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