Hello all, first time post. I have a quandary about how to handle a fairly vague response to my first phone call to a girl I've been getting to know.
The story: met her at a friend's party, had a good chat, connected on FB a couple days later. Chatted some more there, then saw each other at an art event soon after. Because of mutual friends, we ended up hanging out all night and she was giving me good signs of interest (asking to go see painting with her, sitting next to me and engaging me at the after party).
She's an illustrator and a surfer. We have some overlap cause I'm a graphic designer so it's good. She told me she was working on paintings for a show at local gallery.
The following week, I flirted a bit on FB and she reciprocated a tiny bit. I asked about her paintings and show, etc. Then we saw each other again at a book release that week. She found me right away and approached me. At that point we were stuck together the whole night. We shared a cupcake, more or less shared a meal at the after party later. Talked a lot, felt like we connected. We chatted about her paintings again. When we all left, she hugged me, and I felt like it was time to escalate a bit. I asked her if she wanted to get together for a drink the following week. She said "Yeah, sure... do you have your phone?" And gave me her phone number without me having to ask for it. I thought that was pretty good.
It was a Friday night, so I waited until Monday night to call her. When I did, she took a moment to recognize my name and then we chatted about the weekend. She told me what she did, offering up info, I told her about mine. She told me she hadn't slept well the night before so she was really tired, just making dinner. Then I brought it around to getting together. She said "Oh yeah, well, I don't know if this week will be really good because I have to finish these paintings, but after that's done, I can let you know?" Then she got me off the phone by saying she needed to finish dinner.
The thing is: I know the thing about the paintings is at least valid, because the deadline is this weekend, so I could see how she would be busy every night that week. She was still friendly and normal on the phone, but she did sound tired and a bit distracted. I felt like all the indicators were there that she was interested. And then the very fact that I basically asked her out and she said yes AND offered her number was good.
I probably made 2 big mistakes: 1) not doing some touching escalation (although the cupcake sharing was kind of a intimate bonding) and 2) not asking her to do something specific and interesting on a specific time frame.
Am I worried about nothing? Or am I skirting close to friend zone? Thanks for any thoughts!