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    jonsteve is offline PUA in Training
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    Default friends ---> more than friends

    hey,

    I met a girl at my university tennis club. We got on extremely well, went out to a club as a part of a social and i tried it with her. Unfortunately she said that she was seeing someone. We remained friends, but a week or so late she said that she broke up with him. I invited her to go out with me and my friends on a night out. We went out and ended up kissing a lot, went back to hers, although nothing happened and i ended up going home early in the morning. Although i was excited about her, i think i was blinded to what was happening. the next day she facebooks me saying that she wants to just be friends because she really likes me but doesnt feel anything for me... that hurt. After a bit of tension, we became friends again, and i sometimes teach her how to improve on her tennis. Recently, I have been involved with someone else but now that has broke down, i wanted to try with her again as she seems like a great girl. I have become a lot more playful, flirty and laid back with her for the last couple of weeks. I asked her out to dinner which she said yes. However, i get a flake message from her yesterday saying that she has to go to her friends birthday. I bust on her a bit and teased her. We then rearranged to meet up the same day but earlier for lunch. I also told her that i dont like flakes.

    I feel like im doing the right things now, but that its not working as well as i had hoped. what should i do leading up to meeting her and what should i do when we do meet to try and attract her. Right now im confused. She flirts with me and has fun with me etc. plus i bring value to her through tennis. yet it still feels like im having to try hard to get her, and that she has all the power in the world to reject me.

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    you right you gave her the power, recommend to make her work a little for you, treat her like your little sister ..Need to comeback soon has posible, has time goes by harder is to be with you....the image of you will get saturated in her (the friend) and will be dificult to bounce back to that kiss again.... hope it helps

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    how do i make her work for me?

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    iam working on that myself, but this tips mite help you. Most of the time dont do what she wants. when your having fun with her and she is enjoy it TAKE IT AWAY so she can think about you in a different sense. And be unavailable for her dont take it to far Calibrate.

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    update
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    I met up with the girl for lunch, leaned back, flirted and had fun with her. She seemed like she was having a good time. She was playfully hitting etc. However it just didnt feel natural to escalate or "make a move" like kiss her, especially as it was in a pub/restaurant. She might like me but im not sure. We both had things to do as we were in there for a good few hours and left. During lunch i mentioned that i was going out for my flatmates birthday tomorrow and asked whether she wanted to come. She said maybe, but might just go to the uni club later. Im also meant to be meeting her at our tennis club sunday.

    Do you think i should ask her tomorrow whether she wants to come out with us or not talk to her untill we meet up sunday?

    also, as we had a good time and established more of a connection and hopefully more attraction, do you think i should ask her out again and go for it after some time or wait and see if she comes to me?

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    dud let me know about you ------that happen to me a week ago.....i made a mistake which now i learn that if you start to give them to much attention and you come to them, they go away. So becareful.....i recommend not to be needy, and let her this time come to you, if she does not you have not acomplish the complete attraction face. Need to star from were you left off........by the way MAYBE= good is like a (yes) Dont ASK HER AGAIN= to needy.... wait until sunday

    tell about you great expirence and she next time will come with you......dont say :next time can you come with me.NO NO

    Let me know you expirence dud, tell what have you done since and what you think dint work.

    thanks

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    will do, im going to wait till sunday, flirt with her then, tell her i had a good time saturday if she doesnt come. then wednesday, il say that we should hang out after tennis (which is wednesday) and that she can eat with me and my flat (we usually cook together). see what happens

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    I went out that night and didnt talk to her, although i ended up talking to her on fb while i was drunk that night. its ok though, i checked what i said the next day lol, i just flirted with her for a bit then said friends were calling me and left fb. today, i didnt go tennis as had football matches instead. I called her after, turns out she didnt go either. i made fun of her a bit and got her laughing a lot like normal, and told her of the funny stories that happened the other night, like my flatmates friends spraying our house with a fire extinguisher lol! I said that i want to go ice skating next friday and that she should come because it will be fun. she said she isnt sure as she has a lot of deadlines coming up and she has her greek society that night, which is annoying. I just said that i was planning on going midday so thats ok and that it will be very funny so she should stop being lazy lol (in a funny way). thats kind of how its been left.

    im finding it hard to treat her like a guy friend but its so straining as i like her. I was thinking of ignoring her for 2 days, hopefully see her at tennis wednesday but if not then just call her and convince her to go.

    all advice is appreciated!

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    you need Pro. advise on this, but mine would be dont show to much that you like her, woman love to work for something valuable, something not easy. Dont sell your self easy, if you do is less actrative. lets us know your fate with her.

    good luck budy!

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    Default Re: friends ---> more than friends

    how did this turn out? It seems that you get the point of ignoring/freezing her out for a little while, which you should do, but ignoring for 2 days isn't going to get it done I don't feel. I would've hoped you could ignore for more like 2 weeks and that isn't even that long when it comes to these situations. im no pua, just someone kind of in a similar situation and reading up on similar scenarios. gl


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