Very complex situation.
I was seeing a girl for 3 months and we broke up. Now, 4 months later, we have started seeing each other again.
This girl initially chased me down and asked me out and showed immense interest, she is an HB 10 and a lot of fun to hang out with.
The reason we broke up was because she didn't want to have sex with me but before she was seeing me she was very promiscuous, she used to talk about her past sexual experiences in front of me which made me feel like crap because I wasn't getting any. Another thing that bugged me is that she hated me talking about anything sexual while she found it perfectly ok acceptable for her to do it.
Anyhow, she explained to me the reason she didn't want to have sex was because she was sexually abused by family members when she was a child. She said that her past lovers didn't mean as much to her as I did but it was really hard for her to go there with me because it feels unnatural for her to have sex with someone who she really feels emotionally attached to.
I ran into her at a party a few weeks ago and we ended up kissing at the end of the night, she walked me to my car and kissed me and held me tight. I initiated contact with her after that and suggested we catch up. I went to her house and she cooked me dinner and then went for a long walk....this is when she told me she is definite that she wants to try sex with a woman and that her best friend (gay) wants to sleep with her. I reacted totally shocked and when she asked me why I said it was because I was still emotionally attached to her and I hadn't been with anyone since her, she started crying and said she hadn't been with anyone else either and she wishes she hadn't told me what she did.
Since then, I've been on this site learning texting tricks and just general flirting and things have been going well (although we haven't slept together and I'm not intending on initiating that unless she's comfortable) but her comment has been haunting me. I'm concerned that in her confused state she may actually sleep with a woman and I may loose her all together. I know there are guys out there who might think this is great or that I should suggest a threesome but I know for sure she wouldn't react well to that.
How should I deal with this situation? Should I just ignore her comment and continue seeing her and see what happens? It freaks me out to think she might have sex with a woman while I"m with her, in which case I'd feel totally ripped off by being the 'nice guy' hanging around for her. Yet, if I bring it up in conversation I feel it would totally ruin the vibe because I'm clearly not cool with it. It wasn't a passing comment, it was something she'd really thought about. Also, because there is no guarantee we'll have sex, should I continue seeing other people? She wouldn't be cool with this, it's something I'd have to do on the sly.