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    Groovy is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default need help getting a girl to come to my house

    okay, so I have taken a girl out on 3 dates. She is HB8 and honestly kinda out of my league, physically speaking. Anyways, I kiss closed her on our second date, and our third date she asked me to spend the night. Nothing really happend that night. I left in the morning pretty early because she had another guy coming over to take her to church, believe it or not. She has made it clear she doesnt like needy guys or guys texting all the time. So i havent really done anything to push the relationship.

    She lives about 30 min away from me, and I would like to get her over to my place. The problem is she plays an awful lot of games, how can i ask her to come over without asking her? Or should I just see if she wants to go on a date out here and then move it into my place. We seem to have a fairly blunt relationship, and talk about pretty much anything, so i even considered asking her if she wanted to come spend the night. I just dont want to sound needy.

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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    it doesn't sound like there's enough comfort built into the relationship. the process goes, attract, build comfort, seduce. if the attraction is lagging then work on that. if it's comfort then use kino on her in smooth ways. keep kissing her if she continues to give ioi's. but don't just spring it on her. you have to build up before the kiss. make her anticipate things by talking slowly. having her come to your place might be uncomfortable. try and coax her into going back to her place again. but be careful, you don't want to develop one-itis with this chick. roll off and push her away a bit. if you're coming off as needy then you've left your confidence at the doorstep.

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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    Well I called her last night and she didn't answer. I didn't leave a message either. She usually would text me or call me fairly quickly after. She never did, I don't want to call her or text her for fear of coming off needy. Is there anyway I can DHV at this point? Should I text her, call again, or just leave it be and move on? I am pretty attracted to her, and would like to get some. But I also have my pride, and I don't want to be the guy that's always calling her and she really isn't into.

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    beenderew is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    there is one method in robert greene's book that throws out a lot of pickup advice altogether. it's called showing her you like her and she'll automatically like you back. i did this once. kind of worked. kind of didn't. she was my ex though and i was the one that broke up with her. i don't know how to get around girls' shields after i break up with them. cause i'll want them back but have never actually gotten them back. i'm somewhat of a classic romantic and i say you lay it all out on the line on the answering machine. she'll probably reject you or something but at least you can put some key words into her mind about the direction of the relationship.

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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    Thanks for the advice, but I really don't think that would work on this girl. She has made it clear she isn't looking for a relationship. In fact I think that may be why she didn't answer, she thinks I'm getting too invested. I've been considering a couple of things, let me know what you think.

    1. Asking her advice about another girl I'm dating. I think this could do 2 things. First possibly make her a little jealous, and second show her that I'm not that interested in a relationship with her. I'm sure there is possibility of this blowing up in my face, but any thoughts?

    2. Just flat out tell her that I'm not looking for a relationship, and I just want to spend some time with her because I enjoy her company. This seems a little weak to me, and I'm worried it will push her away even more.

    3. Telling her that her ignoring me makes me more interested because girls almost never ignore me.

    Be brutally honest with me I'm a noob to the pua stuff and need some critiquing for sure.

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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    i've studied the game and the first option is your best bet. you be the prize. make her jealous. she might not respond to it accordingly immediately but if there is any future with her then you're in prime position to treat her like your little sister, which is what you want to do. it's a playful tease that i've seen done.

    i'm reading into prizability and it states that no matter what, she has to be the one to match your standards. i tried this tonight at wal-mart and there was a chick with her boyfriend that was giving me some ioi's. her value went down and mine went up. like poof. ignorance of the girl is bliss for the pua. yet, you have to perform regular checkups to show at least some interest. and if you're ever face to face with the girl, try the dog training technique. make eye contact until she looks away. it's hard at first but it's so worth it. also, you want to make her feel a lot of emotions. so, possibly leaving her out in the cold is the best option for now only to hook back up later. or you can just change the subject entirely. talk about family values or whatever. take her mind so far away from the concept of sex that when the escalation does occur you'll be more surprised than she is. there's all sorts of tactics and gambits to employ. i'm kind of at the end of the beginning stage in pickup and i'm trying to learn a lot these days. must be the weather. but you'll want to employ cat string theory. never let her think that she has you. make false time constraints. there are times when flat out lying is very beneficial in pickup. that's all i've got for now.

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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    Nigga u made 3 vital mistakes
    1. You think she is outta your league thus puting yoself into a pshcological disavantage ,
    2. How can u spend the nyt wit a woman nd nt get anythng ,wer u cuddling all nyt or wat? Uh uh brada ,saying no wud be betta option.
    3. Texting a gal alot or all the tym does not show neediness ,it depends on the medium ,is it im or facebook ,a guy only shows needines by for example askin a gal if she lyks him ,dats y 'bad boys' r preferd by women they dnt care women think they proclaim they are the best
    Dont have routines as the cards in your deck ,have skill instead ,because once a routine is done ,its done ,you cant do it again in the same interaction ,but skills can be done over and over ,so then you could play a card twice.

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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    Dude, if you ever spend a night at a girls house and things don't escalate into sex, get the FCK OUT! She will know you left because there wasn't gonna be any sex. Leaving shows her, among other things, that your accustomed to going over a chicks house and fcking them, not cuddle buddy shyt. Anyways, OVERSELL OVERSELL OVERSELL. You want her back to your place, OVERSELL it and make it sound like theres something really awesome that she must come over and see or whatever. Also don't ask her advice about a girl your seeing, instead make a statement about this girl u went out with and how she kept trying to make out in public but not inside the car and she's all hands on when people are around but not in private, and be like yeah so whats up with that, you have any idea. I think thats a better way to elicit jealousy without being obvious.

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    Default Re: need help getting a girl to come to my house

    Thanks guys. That night we fooled around some, I her shirt off, and started kissing her stomach when she said she was on her period. I don't really believe that, but whatever do yup nothing else. She said she wouldn't do anything if she couldnt get anything.

    In hind sight I sooooo wish I would have left, or not gone in but that's why it's 20/20. I really like the statement of the over girl also that shiz is gold. Do I just start texting her and see if I can insert it into the convo organically? Honestly I'm not sure she will even respond, I'm thinking of letting it go a few more days and see if she texts me.

    Thanks for all the info


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