So here is the story...
I was hooking up with a girl at my law school, and she had a BF (also at my school), he found out, they broke up, got back together, broke up, got back together etc. until she finally ended it for what I thought was the last time.
She corners me at school, tells me that I am the one she wants to be with, that she is through being dishonest to people, wants to be in a healthy relationship (with me). She also said that she wanted to work on being friends with her now ex-BF. I said cool, and we agreed to start dating on the sly.
We had been 'dating' for a month, and she became distant, the exact opposite of what she had been before. I now know that it's because I gave up power, decision making, and the willingness to walk away. But in any event, I found out that she went to his family's house for thanksgiving, then when they got back, she spent the night at his house.
I confronted her, she said she jumped into a relationship with me too soon, and that she still had unresolved feelings for her ex that she was trying to work out (He's a punk who continues to beg her to get back with him, despite her cheating). I told her that I don't take a backseat to anyone, and that we were done, but that I still wanted to be friends with her. She asked me for a second chance, I said no. My problem is that I am still in love with her, and want her back, but want her to end it with her BF for good. It's been 3 days, and I've been doing non-contact, she'll email me and I respond with emails that are polite but short and don't require a response from her. I give her a head nod when I see her on campus, but nothing more.
Will this work? How long should I do the NC? Won't it just push her into her ex-BF's arms? What else can I do?