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    newyorkguru is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    I met this girl three months ago in London. We hit it off immediately and saw each other every day. Within two weeks we were sleeping together and she spent nearly every night at my place. This went on for about two months. She then had to leave to go back home to America and not be back for two or three months. We agreed that we would keep in contact but now she is cold

    Any advice please?
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    Default Re: A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    I don't know shit, but it sounds to me like you're not actually in such a bad situation. Your girl still wants to see you, she just thinks you're coming on to strong. Some people might not think texting and/or talking everyday is needy, but this girl probably does. I suspect that previous PUA relationships have given her that idea.

    If I were you, I would call her and tell her to pick you up at the airport. Tell, not ask. That way, it's less needy, and girls like being told what to do. When you get here, be a bit distant. Have other shit to do than spend all of your time with her. Maybe suggest that she go out with her friends one night soon after you get here because you have some other stuff planned.

    I don't know from first hand experience, because I've been in a relationship that just ended since before I'd heard of this stuff. Since then, I haven't really been able to internalize any of it. But if what I've read is true, that plan should work. If not, a month in a new city isn't the worst thing in the world.

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    newyorkguru is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    I have tried to distance myself for the past 48 hours so I don't come across as needy at all. Trying to flip her back. She's obv not planning of jumping straight into bed with me if she's asked if we can "not jump straight back into it but see how it goes"
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    Default Re: A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    I'm seriously just guessing, but I would still tell her to pick you up. Probably makes sense to just drop it if you get any push back, like it's not a thing. You can tell a person to do something and still take no for an answer. I think the thing to do is be as casual about it as possible. If she does pick you up, and drive you to wherever you're staying, (and again, I'm just guessing here--I honestly only know what I've read on these forums) you should casually act as though you expect her to come up with you. If she doesn't come up, then you should act like it's no big deal and just tell her to text you later. Maybe then be busy when you get that text.

    Also, I wouldn't use the term "manic." I don't think I would mention it at all. Just act like this is life as usual. But again, I don't know much about this particular situation, and I only know what I've read on these forums about this stuff.

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    Default Re: A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    Hey. So i havnt contacted her or she me in 3 days now. Im supposed to be getting on a plane in 48 Hours to go see her. Do I make contact? Should I delay the trip a day or so? Need advice please!

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    Default Re: A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    It seems to me that you are putting an unjustified ammount of effort into this woman. What part of the us are you in?

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    Default Re: A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    Im in London. But going to a small place near California. Just want advice on what to send her in a text and how to reiniate. Also how to act?

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    Default Re: A big big mess. I really need advice please!

    I still think you should text her to tell her to pick you up at the airport.


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