Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Results 1 to 8 of 8
  1. #1
    gingu is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 72, Level: 1
    Level completed: 44%, Points required for next Level: 28
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Posts
    3
    Points
    72
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default from casual friend to lover, help

    Hi everyone! i'm new on this but really want to improve my game, I have read something from DeAngelo, now reading "The game" and watching stealth attraction every night.

    By the way, I'm not very social, specially in groups, something like a lonely wolf. Also not considered an ugly guy (told by girls), some cultural and maybe a little geek.

    I've has some successes and now I can approach a girl and start talking (not always closing), that way I met the girl I'm going to talk about.

    I mostly work by challenges, so I proposed to myself this challenge:
    I know this girl I like, she's not so pretty maybe a 7, but she's damn smart, every time I want to game her she find her way out and brake my balls with some joke and make me want to find a fast answer but no one comes out.

    I've dated this girl maybe 6 times, we chat, we have fun, but I'm not able to escalate. I was at some moment, but tried to kiss her (on 3rd date) she told me that was too fast for her and something about cultural differences and... down again.

    Another problem I have is language, she is Chinese and we communicate in English. I'm actually not very good at English (Spanish is my first language), sometimes I want to say something I don't know how to say it in English and it breaks my rhythm and makes me loose concentration.

    I'm afraid I'm getting the "Just friends" label.

    Any advice from you on how to advance?

    Thanks in advance

  2. #2
    Al101 is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 103, Level: 2
    Level completed: 6%, Points required for next Level: 47
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Posts
    19
    Points
    103
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    10

    Default Re: from casual friend to lover, help

    Next time you see this girl have some kino with her, play with her, punch her in the arm lightly ofcourse. You said she turned you down when you tried to kiss her. That's probably because she wasn't comfortable yet. Look language dosent really matter, if you mess up can't get a word right just play it off. Watch her body language as well and the tone of her voice. Hope this helps man!
    Good luck

  3. #3
    uluvtheLD is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 336, Level: 6
    Level completed: 72%, Points required for next Level: 14
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Posts
    49
    Points
    336
    Level
    6
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    21

    Default Re: from casual friend to lover, help

    Since you two have verbal communication issues....as AL101 advises.....speak in terms of BODY language. You cant find the words?....let a look, touch, etc do the talking.

    In my opinion....if you guys cant communicate with each other verbally to express thoughts and emotions, it wont workout in the long term. But if you are only seeking a physical thing....then go for it!

    Her sh1t tests are kinda letting you know that as well....she doesnt want something so intimate (kissing) and "cultural differences". Dont be creepy about it...but kino escalate and seduce her. If shes going out with you, but saying all these things...seems like she likes you physically and probably not much beyond that.

  4. #4
    gingu is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 72, Level: 1
    Level completed: 44%, Points required for next Level: 28
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Posts
    3
    Points
    72
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: from casual friend to lover, help

    Thank you all for your answers
    Well, I'm just returning from dinner with her.
    Nice food, nice chat, but nothing more.

    I tried also some soft kino (touching shoulders, arms, removing hair from her face), sometimes she tried to, discretely, evade the touch (doesn't feel good to notice that). Also put my arm around her back (always smooth) while walking back to her place and she accelerated her steps. And more, when we were close to her appartment she stopped me and said goog bye (bye, take care, kiss on the cheek, bye again). That was half a block before we arrived to her place. When we where chatting she didn't keep very much eye contact. I can even say I felt like I was scaring her or she was feeling a lot of pressure.

    Now, the good stuff. We chatted and laughed for two hours, I could make some jokes about her, one of them provoked her to hit me in the shoulder (but she contained and didn't, I could notice that). She also gave me a clue about her behaviour, talking about cultural differences she said that Mexican girls were very dependant on guys, and her Chinese female friends would let guys waiting for going out with girls. I think she's not very interested in guys right now, that's make things harder.

    Well this girl is quite a challenge for me, I've got other girls with much less effort, I've kissed (passionately) some on first or second dates. I know this girl six or seven months ago and cannot escalate.

  5. #5
    Keis is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 81, Level: 1
    Level completed: 62%, Points required for next Level: 19
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Posts
    10
    Points
    81
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    10

    Default Re: from casual friend to lover, help

    i got the same prob with this girl.. exactly the same.. i have been talking to her for some time.. but can't escalate.. also together we have a great time.. but no ioi for more like a kiss or something.. i guess end of the road .. need some fresh meat

  6. #6
    prescriptions is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 599, Level: 11
    Level completed: 98%, Points required for next Level: 1
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Location
    Kendall, Fl
    Posts
    72
    Points
    599
    Level
    11
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    30

    Default Re: from casual friend to lover, help

    IMO, you need to play a bit harder to get. If she's smart, she's probably gonna need some intellectual seduction until she feels ready to let her body get seduced too.

    Try putting a list of your personal goals out there for her to see, and let her know what you expect from a girl/relationship, such as touch, kiss, attention, intimacy. She might not understand how valuable your time is to you, and how she giving the run around isn't gonna work out...

  7. #7
    gingu is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 72, Level: 1
    Level completed: 44%, Points required for next Level: 28
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Posts
    3
    Points
    72
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: from casual friend to lover, help

    I went to a party with her last night, all was going fine lots of fun, dancing, drinking, by the middle of the night she wasn't rejecting my touch. So when party was about to finish we left to her place, when we arrived there I touched her shoulder, looked her in the eyes, put my hand smoothly in her neck and approached to kiss her. I was almost there and... down again. Then she told me she didn't want to involve in any kind of relationship and she's returning to china next week. Due to my personal stuff I won't be able to date her again so, that was the last chance and didn't work.

    Thanks for your replies and advices.

  8. #8
    Keis is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 81, Level: 1
    Level completed: 62%, Points required for next Level: 19
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Posts
    10
    Points
    81
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    10

    Default Re: from casual friend to lover, help

    sorry dude.. that sucks.. well keep your head up and go for the next.. best of luck


Similar Threads

  1. [Advice needed] Question of values on virginity and casual sex
    By calmclass in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 12-16-2011, 12:31 AM
  2. Are You Her Best Lover Ever?
    By Bill Preston in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 05-31-2010, 05:53 PM
  3. Casual Intro
    By Casual in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 1
    Last Thread: 01-27-2009, 10:34 AM
  4. How to avoid a relationship, and just keep things casual.
    By Exprt PUA in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 11-17-2008, 01:18 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com