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    makavelijr is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need help being confident

    How can I stay confident when I get turned down by every girl I try to go after?

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    Immortal Technique is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Need help being confident

    Don't let it show that it phase you really you haven't lost anything here. You're in the EXACT SAME SPOT YOU STARTED! Even if you get turned down you still have done something out of your comfort zone. Building confidence is like building muscle or a drug tolerance. You have to push yourself beyond your limits! The more you force yourself to do something you aren't good at or uncomfortable with, the better you get! "Remember what you are now, is not greater than what you will be!
    Pick yourself up player stay focused and driven, cuz when you stop chasing your dreams is when you stop livin!"-K

    Listen to this song it picks me up when im down!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UuLliYsFyhU
    Last edited by Immortal Technique; 12-16-2011 at 07:10 PM.
    *Dance With The Devil*
    Remember That You're Not On My Level

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    TheBattleBot is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help being confident

    Ask yourself "What am I good at?" and "What are my strengths socially/ Why do my friends like me?"

    If you are funny, embrace it and show off your humor. If you are fun to be around, keep reminding yourself of this while you are talking to girls and it will be communicated to them. Make time in your life to keep up with activities you enjoy whether its sports, music, reading, writing, etc. This will make you more interesting when talking to women, and anyone else for that matter.

    But ABSOLUTE RULE #1 make sure you are staying POSITIVE! This is a tough thing to do, but once you are able to catch yourself having a negative thought, and change it to a positive one your confidence will begin to build exponentially.

    Think of it like Immortal said above me. Learning your game (which is really just gaining social skills) is just like working out or lifting weights. When you work out muscles in your body that have not been worked out before, it hurts. Just as getting rejected hurts. But as you begin to develop that muscle, the pain is less and less each time. In fact you will begin to seek out that pain because you know it is essential to your growth, and reaching your desired goals. Eventually you crave the pain and feel unfulfilled if you are not sore after a work out. You begin to add more weight, and train harder to find that pain because you know the pain and hurt are key indicators that you are in fact engaging your targeted area, and it is getting stronger.

    It's the exact same thing with approaching women!!! Being uncomfortable is good! Being rejected is good! You just learned what not to do! You just became better! You're social muscles are being worked out, are sore, and are becoming stronger!

    Overall, like I said stay positive, and look for the positive aspects in everything. Be confident in the fact that you are even talking to girls and giving yourself a chance to be rejected. I know a sadly large number of guys who are sitting on the sidelines, staying home, or waiting for fate or chance to bring a woman to them. This is bad as it stunts growth, and is pretty effing boring if you ask me. But when you are out there talking to women, you are taking control of your life. You are making things happen. You are conquering your fears and becoming better. You are evolving and growing. This is the essence of life. Keep embracing it man. Keep looking for ways to get better and keep negativity as far away form you as possible. Your confidence will be soaring in no time.

    Hope this helps!


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