Are there any aspects of pickup that can hurt chances of getting into a long-term relationship?
I have no problems hooking up, or having FWB relationships, but only recently (last 6 months or so) I've been interested in a long-term relationship. So far I've found two girls I'm interested in dating long-term (at different times).. The first one I saw for a couple weeks before she started ignoring/avoiding me and dating some other guy. No biggie. The second one I saw for a month or so, after which she brought up 'the talk' and had decided she couldn't handle a relationship anymore. I told her that was ok, but we'd just be friends and if she changed her mind we could see each other again (Mostly just because I couldn't be f'd dealing with that shit at the time). She literally begged me to keep seeing her until she decided what she wanted.. And then two days later started exclusively dating some other guy.
The main problem I have with these is that in both cases, mutual friends have come to me later and told me that the guys these girls chose over me were less attractive in every way and had no game.. And both are 'really nice'.
So that's the backstory. To elaborate on the question, is there some part of game that is completely different when it comes to finding long-term material girls? Or is it just a matter of first-in sometimes?