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    josephstuart1234 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    I'll try and summarize as best I can. Worked with this girl, she knew the stigma attached to me (500+ women), she's also seen me in action. Never really put her in a take down column because she had a boyfriend that's just too much effort. She breaks up with the boyfriend, we start hanging out a bit, she knows i'm interested in her, she shows interest in me. I'm currently sleeping with 2 other girls she knows, another guy pursues her as well and snags her. Oh well. Keep up a mild friendly relationship while she's with other dude, nothing major just occasional group activity, had lunch once. I was at this point now 'seeing' another girl from work that she knows so we were both 'spoken for' if you will during that time. Not a big deal because she's a girl I actually like to listen to what comes out of her mouth with her clothes on.

    Fast forward a few months, guy she's with cheats on her, goes traveling. Girl I'm with gets way over attached and obviously is much more into me than me to her so I cut her loose. Now I decide to go ahead and take what I want and go after this girl. We start hanging out, fool around etc. She invites me to her mom's for Christmas coffee after Christmas dinner. I figure she must like me because no girl does that. And you know what, I'd be pretty happy giving an honest shot at a relationship with her so I accept the invite and spend the evening with her. Now back at her place after, fooling around but she won't sleep with me. At this point I do call her out on it because I can't quite get a read and I don't want to play high-school games. So I ask her straight up what's wrong, if she considers me just a friend, if she doesn't find me attractive, or if she's just not into me. I'm a big boy I can deal with it. She explains that she does like me, she does find me attractive and that she does want to sleep with me but that she's only slept with a few people and that then she would have slept with "Joe Stuart" and there's a stigma attached to that (fair). I said if that's the hold up then I'm not sure what there is I can say for myself. I said I'd never act the way I'm acting for just a take down.

    Anyways, I spend the night at hers for our first sleepover, as I said we fooled around, she grabbed my arm after and threw it over her and slept right beside me. She does have other ex's that are trying to make some moves back at her now that she's single and I genuinely don't think she's interested.

    Anyways, this girl is very intelligent and she can see past any lines or basic bullshit moves so I do have to bring an A game, which I forget sometimes as she's still young and most young ones are a simple emotion push pull exercise. There isn't a huge age difference. As far as I can tell she's probably still hung up on her ex that cheated on her because all girls are emotionally attached to rejection. Anyways, that's where I'm at with this one. I'd like to obviously sleep with her and this is the first girl in 4 years that I could see any kind of relationship with.

    So riddle me that player professionals. And of course I know all the text rules etc, not my first rodeo, I got her a nice xmas gift but nothing over the top, and I ask for qualified advice on this one because I am a professional, but for whatever reason I'm having an issue here. Thanks in advance.

    I should probably conclude with as with many other pro's, I'm attractive and fairly successful. Extroverted and athletic.

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    First I'm assuming youve been up front when you're dating other people right?

    Tell her what you posted, something along the lines of...

    I've been in date mode so long but I'm genuinely looking for a real connection with someone, and honestly you're the first person in 4 years I've felt we may be able to develop a real relationship out of. I want to see where this develops but for now understand I really do like you
    Add some reassurance
    - I don't lie or tell these things to a girl just to get with her and I swear I wouldn't say them If it wasn't true (that's the first question that will pop into her head)

    And finally assuming youve been honest like a true PUA-
    -I've been honest with where I'm at the whole time, and yes I've been in date mode but when I enter a real relationship I absolutely don't cheat. It takes a little bit to develop that commitment but I want to see where this goes


    I hope that's what you're looking for. Im pretty good on the date mode gambit and juggling multiple LTRs, and If I really really dig someone that's the approach I take

    If not clarify and I'll see if I can offer you any other perspective
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    I put it all out there, I told her how I felt and I told her exactly that she in fact is the first girl in 4 years out of hundreds who's got me to this point and that if she had other guys on the go or if the feeling wasn't mutual then to tell me and be straight because I think I deserve it. She spent the night at my place and I think we're going to see where this goes. I think she's pretty into me. Thank you for the advice. It's nice to know that when it counts, honesty and a direct approach can really speak volumes. May you always share your bed with a warm body. Cheers.

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    Haha happy for ya. Every pua is searching for the one somewhere

    Happy you found someone you want to be with
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