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    JShred is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Friend is attracted/interested in hooking up, but I'm at a sticking point..

    So here's the story...
    I have recently aquired a new female friend that I had been aquainted with (coworkers) a few years back. We bumped into each other randomly and started hanging out, eventually becoming really good friends. Initially I lightly gamed her to keep her as a potential option for later, and to avoid being LJBF'd. There is a lot of sexual tension between us, and the idea of hooking up has actually come up in conversation once or twice.
    A few things of note:
    -She is not a relationship kind of girl. She tends to only have FWBs and rarely commits to an actual boyfriend/girlfriend scenario.
    -I know for a fact that she is attracted and interested, because she has expressed it both with subtle IOI's and blatant, casual comments like, "I'm pretty sure/wouldn't be surprised if we fuck sometime".
    -I also know I've reached a sticking point because of her hesitation due to our friendship and how close we are. Another casual, quasi-logical statement from her might give you some insight: "I think we just need to get drunk enough to fuck the first time, then it won't be awkward any time after that."
    -She may also be apprehensive because she is both attracted to me and really enjoys my companionship, and therefore risks developing romantic feelings for me, which works against her preference for no-strings-attached relationships.
    So far, I think I've done pretty well with building attraction and avoiding the friendzone. I've refused to listen to her issues with other guys or submit to any other asexual friend behavior, and I've used a few LJBF destroyers with success.
    My question is, how do I get past this sticking point? I don't want to just say, "Look, we're getting drunk tonight and we're going to fuck" because that would blow it, wouldn't it? I'm considering a small takeaway/freezeout - couple weeks or so - to make her rethink her apprehension, but I dunno if that is a good starting point or not.
    Any thoughts? Thanks in advance!

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    jkwan23 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Friend is attracted/interested in hooking up, but I'm at a sticking poi

    Invite her out to a bar or something with some friends. Say "hey a few of us from work (or somewhere) are gonna grab some drinks this weekend, you should come along." This way it doesn't seem like you are too interested since you aren't asking her out, you are just inviting her to join your plans.

    Then, since it seems like she is interested, I'd just continue to spit game, flirt with her, push/pull etc. and see how she reacts. A PUA never worries about "blowing it," don't be afraid to flirt with her.

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    Javin is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Friend is attracted/interested in hooking up, but I'm at a sticking poi

    You two are as you say "really good friends" correct? If what you are saying is true, then just flat out invite her over to your house say you are going to show her something.

    Then just use basic seduction game like making her a drink, getting her to give you a massage, giving her a massage, then go for the kiss. A PUA should have no problem doing any of those things and especially since she's a friend who's blatantly stating she's attracted to you, it means she is just waiting for the moment you do that with her. The alchohol comment was just another way of her saying "grow some balls and fark me ;D"

    If there is any hesitation when you escalate just freeze her out, especially since she isnt some random one night stand you just met, she's more susceptible to this technique.

    You got this man don't worry.

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    tracy84 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Friend is attracted/interested in hooking up, but I'm at a sticking poi

    Quote Originally Posted by JShred View Post
    So here's the story...
    I have recently aquired a new female friend that I had been aquainted with (coworkers) a few years back. We bumped into each other randomly and started hanging out, eventually becoming really good friends. Initially I lightly gamed her to keep her as a potential option for later, and to avoid being LJBF'd. There is a lot of sexual tension between us, and the idea of hooking up has actually come up in conversation once or twice.
    A few things of note:
    -She is not a relationship kind of girl. She tends to only have FWBs and rarely commits to an actual boyfriend/girlfriend scenario.
    -I know for a fact that she is attracted and interested, because she has expressed it both with subtle IOI's and blatant, casual comments like, "I'm pretty sure/wouldn't be surprised if we fark sometime".
    -I also know I've reached a sticking point because of her hesitation due to our friendship and how close we are. Another casual, quasi-logical statement from her might give you some insight: "I think we just need to get drunk enough to fark the first time, then it won't be awkward any time after that."
    -She may also be apprehensive because she is both attracted to me and really enjoys my companionship, and therefore risks developing romantic feelings for me, which works against her preference for no-strings-attached relationships.
    So far, I think I've done pretty well with building attraction and avoiding the friendzone. I've refused to listen to her issues with other guys or submit to any other asexual friend behavior, and I've used a few LJBF destroyers with success.
    My question is, how do I get past this sticking point? I don't want to just say, "Look, we're getting drunk tonight and we're going to fark" because that would blow it, wouldn't it? I'm considering a small takeaway/freezeout - couple weeks or so - to make her rethink her apprehension, but I dunno if that is a good starting point or not.
    Any thoughts? Thanks in advance!
    damn dude, I'm close to being in the same exact boat...lol i just posted a thread about it in the seduction forum.

    I feel the same way you do about it...not really trying to say 'ok tonight it's goin down' and I've been closer friends with my target. I am currently doing a freezeout myself, I'm confident the sexual tension will remain and hoping that when i do make my move...any possible apprehension in her head has subsided. I say "hoping", so that's why i posted the thread i did. good luck and lets do this!


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