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    Jaz
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    Default Regret or rejection Ė may never get this girl?

    There is this foreign girl who works in the same wider team as me at work, who is on a 6 month placement. So far, and as explained in my previous post (http://www.puaforums.com/ask-expert/...he-leaves.html), there has been lots of flirting (loads of kino, teasing and laughing) but Iíve never hooked up with her. Now there is under 2 weeks left before she goes back to her home country and Iím starting to get that sinking feeling of regret.

    In the past 3 weeks over Christmas I tried to arrange a date with her but as her friend was visiting, she invited me along with them both which didnít give me a chance to escalate, though it was a good evening. Also, I tried sorting something out just before New Years but as she was away for a few days it has had to wait.

    Then, and what I thought was finally, last week I sent her a text on Tuesday evening asking if she wanted to go for a drink Wednesday after work. She didnít reply until Wednesday morning at work when she sent me an email saying she is going into town after work and yes we could go for a drink then.


    Though, I think partly because I wasnít feeling like it that day (feeling very tired), partly because I was irritated with her for taking so long to get back to me and partly due to stupidity, I said no I would prefer the next day (Thursday) for a drink. She didnít reply, so on Thursday afternoon I sent her an email asking her if she was coming for a drink, but she said no as she was going to the gym straight after work (which she usually does).

    I feel I canít keep asking her out as itís getting ridiculous and that if she doesnít propose something in the next couple of weeks before she goes, then that could be it.

    Iím not quite sure what to do as Iím starting to feel major regret wishing I had gone for a drink with her that first evening. Iím not sure if feeling regret is a worse feeling than feeling no regret and getting rejectedÖ..

    Perhaps I should give it one last go, or just feel regret and accept itís not going to/meant to happen?

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    Default Re: Regret or rejection Ė may never get this girl?

    Give it one last go! I mean if she's leaving in two weeks, what is it going to hurt? Just invite her out somewhere, but don't ask her, just tell her that you're getting a drink, and she can come along if she wants

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    Default Re: Regret or rejection Ė may never get this girl?

    PinkFloydFTW has the right idea here, just go for it! A simple casual drinks session is not too demanding of her and you will get some private time to try and escalate things

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    Default Re: Regret or rejection Ė may never get this girl?

    Thanks for both replies, PinkFloydFTW is absolutely right. I decided I should just go for it today. I wouldn’t want to look back on this in months/years time feeling regret and thinking “what if?”. Found out something positive today too.

    On Friday she was meant to be going out for drinks after work with some people from the office (I had other plans), but she told me today as everyone else pulled out and it ended up only being her and one other guy (who I know clearly likes her), that she didn’t go for drinks with just him as she is shy. I emailed her later on saying that we should finally go for drinks when we both have time, and mentioned “just the 2 of us, but if ur shy lol….”. She replied saying “for you, I’m not shy lol.” That was good but…

    After I emailed her if we could do Wednesday this week, she said she is away from Wednesday onwards and asked me if next Monday was ok. As she leaves on the Friday next week, it’s looking like it will be make or break on one date. No room for error, no second chances etc, and all the pressure on one date…

    Not confirmed the day with her yet, but I certainly am not feeling the regret anymore. Just hoping I actually go for it on the date!


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