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    Default I am a virgin: How should I proceed?

    Hello,
    I'm new to the game. I'm also a virgin. I'm reading Rules of the Game and The Mystery Method, and I want to start practicing the things that I've learned from Style and Mystery in their books, but I'm unsure of what to do if it comes to a sexual scenario like an f-close.

    I keep hearing people say that I should lose it to someone special, but I've also heard people say that it shouldn't matter that much. I'm afraid that my uncertainty about how and to who I should lose my virginity is getting in the way of me running good game.

    So I've basically got three main questions:
    1. Should I care about who I lose my virginity to? On the one hand, I hear that you regret it if you lose it to just some random girl, but on the other hand, I feel like my lack of sexual experience will be holding me back from being my best self when sarging.
    2. If I decide to lose it to someone that I happen to meet and seduce (if that scenario occurs), should I tell her that I am a virgin? Some female friends of mine say absolutely and that it's a dick move not to, but I don't think that admitting a lack of sexual experience is the most encouraging thing for a woman to hear.
    3. Any suggestions for material that I could study ahead of time so that my first isn't a complete disaster?

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    Default Re: I am a virgin: How should I proceed?

    How old are you?
    I there a particular woman you like?
    How far have you gone before?
    What have your relationships been like, in the past?
    I have failed more than most men have tried.

    Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.

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    Default Re: I am a virgin: How should I proceed?

    I'm 19, attending a public university, and about to join a fraternity (which only adds to my concerns about this lol).

    In terms of an actual person, not at the moment. I have female friends, but none that I'm romantically attracted to. I also am very uninterested in serious relationships; I'm in college and can barely commit to getting up in the morning, let alone have a gf. So, shallow romantic experiences seem to lie in my future. In terms of types, I have a few, but am fairly open to most types of women, but I notice I have higher standards of beauty than my friends (some are virgins, some are not).

    Physically, the farthest I got was grinding at my college foam party: I got up under a girls shirt, but never saw her again. I consider the farthest I ever got to be when I met a girl in a club on Halloween, danced with her for most of the night, made out while dancing, got her number (she lives in the same dorm building as me), and then had her over to my room the next night. We just talked, and she didn't want to do anything, and all this happened before I'd even heard of The Game, so I was pretty lame. She stopped responding to my texts, got into a relationship, and now we just awkwardly avoid each other.

    Relationships have been non-existent in the past. I used to be very religious and (a little too) scholastic; so I was uninterested in dating or sex until I transferred to my current college and started living on my own for the first time. Now I'm just as interested in meeting girls and getting laid as everyone else in this forum.

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    Default Re: I am a virgin: How should I proceed?

    I wouldn't stress too much man, I was a virgin at your age and my game has pretty much surpassed all of my friends who lost theirs in highschool. It is not about the past (i.e. how many lays/gfs you have had) but about the present--that is, how good you are with women right now. I don't worry about past accomplishments.

    My advice is not to focus solely on getting laid, but instead to work hard on improving your social life and improving your game. Getting a one night stand might feel good at the time, but overall it doesn't mean you are good with girls nor does it mean you will be able to repeat it in the future.

    What I'm saying is this: improve your game, and the results will follow. If you can improve, then you will have all the options at your disposal--dating, random play, relationships, whatever. Only you can decide what you want, and your tastes might change as you get older (i.e. you might get tired of random kiss closes and such).

    As for your first time being special/what to tell her, it's all personal. Some people don't value virginity at all--the first girl is the same as any other--and doesn't affect them. Some people get really emotionally attached and view the first person as special. Others (more religious people) feel that sex is at its purest and most sensual in a committed relationship, with a special person (love > lust).

    But at the end of the day, everyone has sex eventually. You gotta think about your own happiness--will you be happy if you don't tell her that you are a virgin? Are you content losing it to a random girl? If so, then go for it, work some game and enjoy it. If you answered no, then maybe think about doing some dating first. There's really no wrong answer (other than don't lose it to a prostitute or pay for sex). Whatever you choose, this forum can help you succeed with women in whatever way constitutes success for you.

    Best,

    Jkwan

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    Default Re: I am a virgin: How should I proceed?

    I couldn't agree more with the post above.

    For 1. I think both sets of advice are correct. If you are a sensitive guy, then you should probably wait for somebody you at least like, or it could affect you badly afterwards, otherwise if you want to be a more of a player or you can hack it, just do it, and get it over with. I can't say if the perfect ideal first time sex fantasy exists, but it might be out of the reach of many people.

    For 2. Honestly it probably matters to you more than to her.

    For 3. Is a good question, because I really wish I knew a lot of what I know now for my first time with a gf.

    Apparently only 1/3 of women climax during sex, so it pays to have a couple of tricks under your belt.

    For videos, I watched a good one put out by Nina Hartley once. I think it was Nina Hartley's Making Love to Women - quite brilliant, she jumps in and shows you exactly what moves to make.

    That video is pretty useful for foreplay too as I recall. Don't forget you can always ask a woman what she likes for foreplay too. Less guesswork. After a while you learn some tricks from women you sleep with, but that won't help you now.

    Getting serious:

    Try and make sure she orgasms first, and at least once if you want to ever have sex with her again. Simultaneous orgasms are unlikely for a newbie, so try and have her go first.

    Make sure that you can go for long enough - a trick is having slow sex for a while then hurrying it up but without too much sensation until your d1ck becomes somewhat numb, and then you can go forever, at least long enough for her to climax.

    For positions, check the net for what you want to try, but your best bets for starting out are simple missionary because it's an easy orgasm position for a woman who can orgasm easily. Failing that, having the woman on top where she can control the movements will pretty much guarantee that she can climax as long as your d1ck is a bit numb and you can hold on long enough.

    Check out some videos to find out where the clitoris is, so if you want to try going down you put your tongue on the right spot lol. They can be elusive at first. Don't apply your tongue too directly onto the clitoris, or your night could be over before it begins. I've heard doing the alphabet is good with your tongue, but personally I think moving your head side to side is a lot easier as the tongue doesn't get worn out.

    If you do all of that you're already doing decently.

    There was also a great video made by a pua who was showing people how to find the g-spot (on his gf) and giving her multiple orgasms, but I can't remember what it was any more sorry. Understanding the g-spot helped me go from a bad lover who's first gf actually avoided sex, and wasn't open to trying new things at all, to my last gf who would well basically hound me for it. Give them orgasms, keep them happy
    Last edited by DamonNZ; 02-04-2012 at 10:05 AM.

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    Default Re: I am a virgin: How should I proceed?

    you should read sex god method by Daniel rose.

    basically you want to dominate the situation with the girl. many guys are to obsessed with trying to satisfy her with various technique, forget this.

    escalate from making out to fingering her to putting it in her. take off her clothes smoothly as you go.

    basically put it in there and screw her as hard as you can without hurting her.

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    don't tell her your a virgin. if you dominate the situation she won't think your a virgin.


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