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    newbcake3 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need help with opener in unique situation

    Hi! I have a pretty unique situation here and I have a feeling I know what a lot of responses might be but here it goes. About 2 years ago I was dating a girl (dated for a long time) and she worked with a girl that I've always had a crush on (I think we'd be much more compatible and we have similiar interests etc.) The girl that I had a crush on ended up going on some dates with my old roommate and that fizzled out. Anyways now that my ex gf and I have been apart a while I'd like to pursue this other girl but the only connection I have to her is that we are facebook friends. I feel like there's really no way to message her on facebook and letting her know I'm interested without sounding desperate. I remembered her because she popped up on my minifeed on facebook and now I figure why not. The whole situation seems dismal and I should probably be glad there's hundreds of other girls around but I figure I'd give it a shot before removing her from my mind. I haven't talked to her in a like a year or two but I know we have a few common interests... Any ideas on what to open with?

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    Default Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    Id say somehting totally simple but playfull out there at her and see how she responds..

    "heyy there trouble, long time no talk :P "

    She should respond playfully,and from thereyou can take it in w/e direction you think will work based on the type of girl she is.
    She may want to continue to be teased, or you can simply be honest with her and tell her you have waited long enough to allow her to finally date you.

    Depends on the type of girl she is but more than likely all that will work lol

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    newbcake3 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    Hmm ok I might try that. We never talked a whole lot the few times I did see her though so it's going to be more of a cold opening than a reconnecting. Do you think that still works though?

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    Default Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    well you at least know a little more to her personality and likes than I surely do lol..

    But I know any woman likes a guy with confidence, and a bit of swagger...just dont come off as too cocky or arrogant.

    If shes not looking to date right now and is playing the field...the more teasing you do the better.

    If shes genuinely looking to date a guy, than the direct confident approach will work.

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    newbcake3 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    ugh! okay so to ease the long time ive went without talking to this girl and making sure she didnt think i had a virus that was msging all of my fb friends (these seem to be common) i said (changed names here)

    "Hey Kayla! Are you the girl that used to work with Kellie? and loves Ocarina of Time?"

    her response was

    "Haha yep. That's me! What's up Todd?"

    Now I feel stuck. I have no idea how to transition this conversation into what I want it to be. This is probably my biggest problem, not necessarily building rapport but making it known im interested in dating and not just chatting about whatever. Any advice would be appreciated! (I know I'm new here and I don't want anyone having the whole conversation for me but getting started would really help!)

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    Default Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    idk if any of your names changed statement was true...

    But if shes into ocaraina of time(a video game)
    Id probably jump on that...

    Tease her with something along the lines of ...well if you;d ever stop playing video games 24/7 I might actually consider taking you on a real date cause you always thought she was kinda cute....
    Tell her not to get any crazy ideas though..
    Your roomate told you alll about her and you have to check and see if any of what he said was true

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    Default Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    Thanks for your help. I ended up saying

    "nice, if you're not too busy playing video games want to go on a date with me next time i'm in town?"

    and got this

    "Swap "playing video games" with "studying" and it would be more accurate. I would definitely be up for that. Where are you living now? My number is ###_###_####. Feel free to text me anytime."

    I think I can handle it from here hah

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    Default Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    You got lucky with that response. I'm glad it worked for you, but next time try reducing the amount of neediness. Don't ask so much as tell her. For example "hey I'm going to get some food at *blank* if you can break away from the video games you could meet me there" when you ask a girl something it makes them feel power over you, which puts you a step behind right off tops.

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    Exclamation Re: Need help with opener in unique situation

    Ok so I'm new here. But here we go. So I went on a snowboarding trip with my dads family. My little sister had a gorgeous friend but she's a couple of years younger then me so I decided not to make any moves. Well I wanted to add her on Facebook but decided not to because I didn't want to give her the upper hand. Well I was laughing about it with a friend when I look down at my phone and see that she's added me. Can someone help me out with what to write her and how I should take the conversation? Help with some openers and topics to talk about? On a side note I just started reading pandora's box, is that going to help out with this?


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