Re: Possible Orbiter in desperate need of PUA advice!!!
WEll welcome my friend, its good to have you here, fisrt things fisrt
asking if she wants to kiss you isnt anoob mistake, infact the Mystery method use's it as akiss gambit it goes like this
"shh would you like to kiss me?" maybe/not here/why means yes but becasue of the situtaion it would be awquard and she feels abit too open, simply being abit funw ith it or carrying on as normal you can kiss her later, shes into the idea of it but just scared whatp eople willt hink, iscolate her or make her feel mroe comfortable with you and you'd have been fine
if she says no say" WO! woman i didnt say you could! it just looked li ke you had something ony our mind!" carry on your game
dont worry if you dont get a kiss-close on a fisrt meeting, if you get a number that she agree's to meet with you with its better thena kissclsoe 10-times over though you should barein mind if you didnt kissclose on the fisrt 1 on 1 date you've lost it. your now a friend lol
fromw hat you've described it does sound like your now in friendzone so move on, give it soem time start up, call her on it, invite her out to help you find a girl, making her jealous and see you as a alpha male with DHV may win her back. you see as you invite her out"as friends" and she see's women all over you and you having a good time without her,b ut still involving her(pretending that she is a freind to you tooa nd nothign mroe) she will see you as a potencial mate and a worthy one too.
-kino is easy, fisrt time(best tip) match your breathing with hers, subconciously she will feel more comfortable with you.
-make eye contact(not constant break ti occasionaly) doing this will give the impression toher you've lnown her longer then you have
-hand contact is good, get into "cold reading" like for reading palms so you can stroke her hand saying you will read her palm, be soft gentle make it look like your actaully looking for something but just think of some"cover all bases" reading. touching her hand will make her feel more close to you and give her subconciouse some memories of relationships where the same thing ahs occured ie you now resemble po tencial mate.
- for ki no in general, after 1 or 2 IOI's start your kino(it is safer for 3 after every level of escelation) but if it seams right it seams right, eventually you'll get intothe habbit
-kino only works if it isnt noticed. simply tou ching her when you talk, softly squeezing her shoulder when you try to emote with her, pushing her gently when you neg her, ( maybe pulling tor eally confuse her) aslong as she doesnt notice your golden.
-a good one is feet and legs, when sitting down humans dont generaly notice what happens to their feet unless they conciosuly think about it. when sitting down together brush your leg up on hers or touch her foot withy our sfor a moment.
want to know how well your doing? lean in,
leaning it invades her personalspace, do it for any number of reasons, maybe to wave at an imaginary friend passed her, maybe rocking forward to hang your head inshame as ajoke, maybe becasue you';ve laughed any reason when you invade her personal space the key is to look at what SHE does,
if she steps back - shes not yet trusting you too much
if she stays where she is - she is not sure what to do
if she is smiling leans it or smiligna nd stays where she is - thats an IOI old boy and dont waste it!
my favoriate little way to tell if people are interested int eh fisrt 3 seconds is to shake their hand, asking for names is awaste of time as it can waste an IOI(if they ask your name its an IOI) but asking for their name can be just a signof politeness if it seams its part of your character, so what i do is i dont give them my name but i ask theirs.
i shake their hand. if they step forward as tehy shake, they are interested in you, if they step back they really arnt, if they stay int he same place they should be assumed uninterested and if you cant break that ice already(you should already have opened at this point) it may be best to leave the grou p withy our Fake time constraint.
Now for YOUR personal situtaion you be fucked lol your a friend now, do thet hing with the, getting her out to hav ea night out as a friend so she can get jealous thing but back off alittle, try again later, but do try and kiss her to get it in her head, even as afriend on the cheek when you can blame the dri nk would be ok!
remember these key things for your game
- confidense is your greatest weapon, no matter what gambits or routtines you use, Confidense i s what pulls it off, frankly if you were just confident you would be far better withw omen then just having a routine. So just be sure of yourself.
- shes not 1 in 3 billion, there are actually alot of womeno ut there, ones that catch your eye aside their are plenty of females to talk to. dont let one get you down, and dont let one hold you down. if she isnt interested keep her asa friend, theres nothing wrong with th at if you failed to close her a friend is still good, feelings change but she may have friends that are hot you can talk to, and with her as a nice entrance is easy as she can certenly help you.
-just relax, have fun with all the skills you should pick up, there is plenty to learn, dont be ina rush to succeed.
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let me know how it goes, best of luck old boy!
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