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    Default maybe i just need to sit down with her and talk it out

    It was either this section or general questions, if you want me to repost just let me know.

    This girl is the double forbidden fruit.

    She is a coworker, and so is her bf.
    I've never gamed a coworker before, but i do have somthing about me that attracts girls with bfs to me. It's a blesssing and a curse at the same time.

    The only response I don't care for is, "dude move on, its not worth it"
    or "if she leaves him for you, she'll leave you for the next guy" those aren't what i'm asking.

    her looks: 8
    personality: 12

    Me and coworker have been working together for about three months. Even since the beginning i noticed she was always checking me out, and anytime her bf would embarrass she would look over at me (almost in a seeking comfort way) Just recently in the last couple weeks, the flirting has escalated and so has the physical touching. (we work at a gym)

    There are times when she compares the two of us toghether, and she even went as far as asking me and my buddy if she should break up with him.

    Theres been a lot of back and forth discreet sex\ual tension over the last couple weeks, but at the same time theres been a lot of push/pull involved. Almost like a "i like you, but i dont want to feel to vulnerable and feel like a slut because i have a bf" I'm not sure if her bf is extremely controlling or extremely insecure, but he shows up randomly towards the end of her shift and just watches us, so it makes asking her out after our shift ends a no go. Last saturday we had a little frusterated argument almost as if we were already a couple it was weird but by the end of the night we were laughing and talking again.

    She gets jealous when I flirt with other girls, but also told me she doesn't trust me the other day. I wasn't sure how to take that but didn't ask her what she meant when I feel I should have, and now I found out I'm transferring to a new gym this wednsday and she will only be working two shifts a month which makes the coworker/bf-coworker problem disappear.

    My question. Do I just put everything on the table and actually talk to her about everything thats going on and stop playing these back and forth games, or continue with this back and forth tension bullshit that doesnt seem to be going anywhere. The ONLY reason i'm hesitant about talking to her is what if theres a 0.01% chance i'm wrong and she's not into me and then i look like an idiot. But with all the tension and clues and flirting, theres no way she doesnt want my dick deep in her pussy.

    thank you for any feedback.
    the funny thing is, i do ok for myself with women, but this chicks got me feeling like a chode at times

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    Default Re: maybe i just need to sit down with her and talk it out

    You answered your own questiom by stating "or continue with this back and forth bullshit that doesn't seem to be going anywhere". Girls that are unsatisfied with either the emotional or sexual part of their relationship will cheat. Get her for a drink and lay the cards on the table.

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    Default Re: maybe i just need to sit down with her and talk it out

    Thanks for the reply, but I'm confused. You answered yes to both options. Do i continue with the back and forth with out any verbal statements of interest or do i sit down with her and we both put our cards on the table.
    The other day I told her its obvious she wants me and she starts laughing and saying no, and then i said that she was either in denial or she didnt realize it yet but she wants me. and she starts blushing.

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    Default Re: maybe i just need to sit down with her and talk it out

    "or continue with this back and forth bullsh1t that doesn't seem to be going anywhere". He said you answered your own question with this one. It's NOT going anywhere you need to take it to the next level.

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    Default Re: maybe i just need to sit down with her and talk it out

    Yeah, that's indeed what I meant. You said it's not going anywhere - so put your cards on the table. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.


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