If that title confuses you, imagine being me.
Why am I fighting so hard for her? Because she's the one I gave up the game for.
The title also pretty much says it all, but here's a bit of background info - my girl of 2 years broke up with me, next morning she texts me asking if we can go on a break instead.
So the first week of the break I act all distant, going no contact as well as getting some space which i felt like i needed - she text me a bit during this week, week 2 she texts more so i start being happy, fun and playful in my texts. End of week 2 we have a bit of a talk and she tells me she doesn't think I want this anymore and she thought i knew that she wanted me to win her back (hang on, you broke up with me!? she mainly broke up with me as i spent a few months being a grump, moping round and being a bit of an AFC)
So i ask about this, tell her I want to fight for her back, she said it might be impossible as she has assumed I didn't want it etc I said this won't stop me fighting - talk about confusing me.
So we're coming to the end of week 3, I've been happy and fun on the texts, making the effort to show I want her back, that i'm no longer the grumpy AFC and she admitted that in week 2 she felt like I was back. She was still being a bit one word answers on the texts, not really giving responses at times etc, making me work hard to get answers but she is in the final weeks of her final year at uni and I know she is super busy.
This week we met for coffee and things felt like they used to, it was great talking in person, not awkward and felt like nothing had changed. We had a laugh, spoke to me about her worries of leaving uni etc Made accidental Kino early on and throughout, and got a playful shove at the end. I probed her about the meeting and she said she felt like she was talking to the old me - I thought things were going great, I'd proved I was me again and the guy she fell for and I was en-route to relationship status again.
Last night I was very tired, and got thinking about the relationship stuff, how she still wasn't making loads of effort on the texts - well sometimes she does, but she is doing uni work a lot, and after coffee she text me lots all happy and re-initiating when I didn't reply.
I asked her if she was free next Sunday, she said I'm not planning too far in advance may have work or something - completely blew me off!
So I snap a little and say "this winning you back thing, i dont have a chance do i?" So she asked why, I said it's the vibe i'm getting, she said "It will be hard, I won't lie" So naturally i'm taken aback, I asked why she hadn't ended it if it would be so hard to win he back and she said "I'm intrigued to see if you can do it" So I said "Playing games with me, seriously?" she then sharply denied this, saying I'm not as I have had games played with me and i don't do that.
She then said "I want to be won back, i'd love to be. But i don't know if it's possible" I asked what is stopping it being possible and she said "I don't know", She then said she was bored of having long chats about the break etc and said she enjoyed coffee but can only do it occasionally due to uni work. I suggested I could come and chill when she does uni work, like she did last year when I was in final year and she was working.
So, Any ideas where to go from here? If it was a normal break I would go no contact and run that game. But what game do you run when she wants to be fought for without being a total AFC? I think i've been a bit AFC so far, but how do you fight for someone without being an AFC?
I want her back but don't want to do this with the whole dinner, flowers etc as why should i spend money on someone who isn't my girlfriend and doing this will probably push her away?
Any ideas what game to run? I think it's a line of treating her like a girlfriend, bit of running game like she's an ex with a bit of basic game to re-initiate the attraction. I move flat next week and I am thinking of saying "do you want me to drop your stuff of somepoint this week" just to push her away a bit.
But any moves, advice from you guys would be great and much appreciated! The sleepless nights aren't doing me any favors.
Why am I fighting so hard for her? Like I said, Because she's the one I gave up the game for
If you read all this of this then respect and your advice is most welcome.