I am currently in a relationship with this girl who I have progressed into a "friends with benefits" scenario. Now while many would love to have this situation under their belt, I do not care for it. I desire a real relationship where I have the opportunity to share emotion and passion with another individual, not empty sex nonstop. This is actually the mutual opinion of the girl in question, and we even tried to establish that we did not want to progress into friends with benefits prior to our engagement. She's scared. She is afraid of commitment because of past experiences: excuses, excuses, excuses. I blame myself for not evolving the relationship into something "romantic" instead of what it currently is.
My question is this: How can I take a girl that I am "friends with benefits zoned" and turn her opinion of me into emotional attraction as well as physical. We have many common interests and communicate well with each other. There seems to be something that I am lacking, even though I always present myself as confident, attractive, and of high value. Thanks!