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    Default Need help snaring girl at work! Advice please!

    I'll keep it brief. There's a girl at work I've had my eye on for a while. I've done my best to AMOG around her and IOD while peppering in occasional hellos with some good eye contact.
    On Friday, me and several coworkers are catching a movie after work. I'm going to invite her to come. Then I found out through the grapevine that she's actually been interested in me for some time.
    I don't want to mess this up. I want her as a girlfriend. I'm a little lost on what to talk to her about when the correct time comes when everybody's going home after the movie. If I want a long term relationship, should I avoid making out and stick with a brief kiss for the first time(D1)?
    By the way, dating isn't against the rules for us at our job.

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    Default Re: Need help snaring girl at work! Advice please!

    I'd personally ditch the movie after work on friday idea and go for a drink or somewhere else you can talk more. Something more casual and easier to get some one on one time with her. Maybe discuss that you have had such a good week will she join you in celebrating. 'what are you celebrating?' 'meeting you'. kidding. Fridays are party night! Movie theatres I find make everyone a bit sleepy and introspective. But that's just me.

    Whichever way make sure you do a little Kino like when you greet her outside of work to show its not just friendship your interested in. Also remember you don't fully know her yet and have no idea of how good a girlfriend she could be so take it nice and easy especially if you know she potentially likes you. That knowledge is awesome to have but can also sidetrack your game. I think every single one of my LTR's went like this: 1st date for drinks/casual meal just the two of us - lot's of talking (Ok I like her mind as well as body, wow we really connect personality wise), 2nd date: somewhere different like a gallery, out with friends or something she's suggested to counter my first date - escalated kino or first kiss. 3rd date: definately kiss and heavy making out.

    Act fast if you need to move on from your friends after the movie or talk to her beforehand and suggest you two so something else after the movie... if you're going straight from work have contigencies in place for if she's tired, has nowhere to freshen up, what her friendship circle is doing, what if your colleagues get in the way, what if she suddenly says bye at the end of the film. Maybe see a late movie but go for a casual bite to eat first so by the time your in the theatre you can hold her hands or be more physical and close?

    Best of luck!

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    Default Re: Need help snaring girl at work! Advice please!

    If she is interested and she is open about it with other coworkers then she bascially wants you to approach. Who knows, she may be thinking the same thing you are, about how she should try and engage you. Anyways the gf idea is a great goal and I think you should definitely strive for it, but be open to the idea that she may not be someone you're interested in having a gf. I know this Mindset will probably not be true, but it will help filter your behavior through the frame that " I don't know if this girl is worth making my gf" and you will be more relaxe when interacting. Having expections is great since you have a goal and direction, but it can also dictate our behavior in such a way that, if we are not careful, can convey desperation when it comes down to the big ball drop. So again just try to change your mindset that you already have her, she already wants to be your gf and that it is YOU that are not sure about her. Hope this helps and good luck.


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