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    Question Cute girl at work. Odd situation.

    Hey guys, this is my first time making a thread and I'm pretty new to this forum but I have been studying how to game girls for almost a year now and I've got pretty good. There will be a wall of text but please be patient, I will appreciate any kind of advise.

    So cutting to the chase. I am a guy at University who's working on campus this summer (I get free accommodation and everything). There is this nice, cute girl that works with me and she lives basically in the flat next door. Recently I have come out of a 3 month relationship and she knew I was seeing her but she lived back home (My Ex) and the relationship basically collapsed due to this job and the time apart.

    At work we get along really well and she has an awesome personality, very outgoing and we both have similar principles. She is also a smoker like me. We sort of knew each other before this job because we have mutual friends and I am quite a well known person around campus due to my confidence and my ease at making friends.

    Where we live back home is not even an issue aswell as we are both from North London but still a 30 minute drive. Most nights we hang out, chill with our friends and smoke or have a fun time. There are a good 6-8 of us who are good friends and we have made a sort of friendship circle over the past 3 weeks of working in which we are both part of.

    Even when I was with my Ex I was starting to have an interest in her but I was being too nice (such as buying her lunch and giving her fags, I have also been quite complimentary which I know can be damaging). One of the first nights we starting hanging out was around 3 am when she couldn't sleep and I came around and we had an hour long conversation, especially her about her Ex who was a massive dick and I did tell her that.

    Over time (last 2 weeks or so) I have been doing all the alpha traits such as being confident, having a no care attitude towards a lot of things but also being a leader and commanding things in and out of our jobs, especially when it comes to socialising. We do spend quite a lot of time together whether it would be with other people or just us two. She also saw I was upset/annoyed when I broke up with my Ex.

    My problem is that while I'm escalating Kino (such as touching her around the shoulder and back from time to time, making our legs touch when we sit next to each other and also brushing her hair along with some tickling), teasing her and having a little banter now and then, I am not too sure whether she's interested in me (I need to find ways to tell if whether or not shes interested). I get mixed signals such as sometimes she responds to the kino and sometimes she doesn't. She always claims she has a black guy fetish (I am brown skinned like an indian). One night she had a fight with one of our friends and I offered her a hug and she said no. She also mentioned that I've lost weight from the first time she saw me all the way in Septemeber which I said "Thanks" to.

    I am thinking of implementing some mixed signals such as telling her she's awesome and confident but contradicting it by saying I normally go for shy girls and leading on to a story and using some more kino when we're talking. I can't do a Freeze Out because she is literally unavoidable but I am keeping a slight distance. I would like us to have an LTR because I think we click very naturally but I just need to know when I should make a move and what strategies to go with.

    Also one of our friends who is also a girl said on the phone "Your girlfriend says Hi" when they were out shopping and she didn't say anything negative about it. A few of the older workers at work make a few sly remarks about how close we are, but I am still in a puzzle over whether she likes me or not.

    If you have read this far than I thank you with all my sincerity and I am open to any feed back whether it would be positive or negative. If you any worthy advise or have been in a similar situation, please let me know because I really do like her and I have all the tools to get her but I am just not sure how to apply it.

    Thank you for your time!

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    Default Re: Cute girl at work. Odd situation.

    It seems like you are doing everything right. You can just ask her out to drinks. It seems like you are looking for her to come to you saying she likes you but she most likely wont. Just ask her to drinks or a movie and see where things go.

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    Default Re: Cute girl at work. Odd situation.

    Thank you for your feedback, I haven't asked her out due to some annoying circumstances last week.

    This is what happened: We all had a party on friday and she was there. I was being a good person in general and drank a few lethal drinks (dirty pints and shots) because it was unfair on certain people and I am a guy who is more than capable of handling his drink, I was slowly getting more and more drunk even though I didn't really intend this (I did not buy any of the drinks, my mates did).

    So at the party I was doing all the usual stuff but I was more or less escalating Kino and alot of dhv's (Talking to other girls and controlling conversation, one girl was really flirty but she's in a relationship and I'm not entirely attracted to her). One part of this escalation was going to her room for a piss then coming back and I said "Your room smells nice", took her hand and leaned to her neck, smelt her and said "Just like you!" I winked and walked off and started talking to other people.

    Then we went outside where things started to get ugly and I had barely any recollection of this, my best friend who lives next door to me told me all of this the next morning. I had apparently started ranting at some people who were doing other work on campus and lived in some of the other flats. I then went on to do what some people described as a charismatic speech but yet I was talking absolute nonsense. Then my boss who also lives on campus came out and tried to calm me down. I apparently started to become really apologetic. I then proceeded to go back inside when I saw my best friends girlfriend and the girl I like standing and I was going to talk to her but my best friends girlfriend tried to stop me, to which I pushed her to the floor. My best friend got really angry and I went to my room on my own terms (they said I just disappeared). I had also ranted at my friends (including her), telling them stuff like they're ass kissers and yes men (I am normally depicted as the guy who's against the system and sort of a rebel).

    One event that also happened which was the thing that annoyed me the most was that I had apparently been hitting on her badly and calling her pretty when we were outside (we all established that I must of been on some kind of autopilot and the break up with my Ex was the cause of all this). I know this all sounds like AFC behaviour but trust me I had no control on this, any other night this would not have happened.

    The morning after the girl left to go back home for her birthday and at the time I was not awake. So on the next day was her birthday and I sent her a text saying "Happy birthday Sophia, Look I know I did some sh1tty things on friday but when you get back to campus we can talk about it, but none the less, have a great day x". She returned the next day and when I saw her I said, "can we talk at some point today! (we were just about to start work).

    She said not to worry about friday night and I was drunk so it doesn't matter but we didn't discuss what I had said to her. Later that day we where sitting on the bench and I turned and said "You know on friday, Steve told me I was hitting on you, what exactly did I say?", She replied by saying "You said you had feelings for me" I started shaking my head and laughing saying "For God's sake". She said "Don't worry about it, I found it flattering (she giggles) but I'm not interested" As I was going to say something another one of our friends comes to sit with us and the conversation was inevitably changed and I didn't get to say anything back, plus it would have been extremely awkward if I did with this person now here.

    We are back to normal and today we worked together like we do usually and talk about random things. I know she is comfortable with me because she says how genuine and real I am. Nothing was weird at all. I was doing more kino, I held her hand when she was getting up from sitting down, I touch on her arms and hand every now when we talk.

    Today she had something stuck in her hair and I said "turn and face me" and took it out, then I laughed and said "It was there for a long time and it was annoying me". Also in one of our conversations she spat as she was talking and I said "Yuck, you spat on me" I turned my head then turned back and smirked, then walked away. She at one point needed to fix something and got Steve who was in another room to do it for her. She came back in and I said "Ok then, get Steve to do it for you. I see I'm redundant." and I turn get back to working. She said she was sorry, ran over and hugged me tightly. I thought nothing of it and said "Ok" and went back to work.

    My question right now is: Where do I go with her? I am not sure if the events on Friday have blown it for me and I have a lot of work to do before she's comfortable/attracted to me like she was before or whether I should think she's put it behind her and I should carry on doing what I'm doing and ask her out in the next few days.

    I Need to know which direction to go with all this. If I can get advise or better what steps I should take and when I should take them I would be really grateful. Thanks!

    P.S. I would like to reiterate that my behaviour on friday was soley due to the alcohol I had and I was the most drunk I had ever been. I have never been on autopilot like that in my life. I know that me admitting I had feelings for her was a completely wrong thing to do and I know it destroys my chances with her but like I said, any advise would be appreciated. Thanks again.

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    Default Re: Cute girl at work. Odd situation.

    You got drunk and did dumb stuff it happens. Since she said she was interested shes either really not interested or waiting for you to say something or ask her out while you are sober. Dont say you have feelings for her just ask her somewhere and escalate your Kino. Tell her you like her and see what she says. Kino kino kino. Gl

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    Default Re: Cute girl at work. Odd situation.

    She said she's not interested and thinks she completely rejected me (the same girl I pushed told me). Going to freeze her out and when I do see her, I'm going to give a lot of Push-Pull and mix-signals. Plus we're all going out on monday to a club, I'm going to practically ignore her the whole night.


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