This girl has been driving me crazy for a year now....please help
A little background about myself: 21 year old pre-med college student, athletic thin muscular build, decent looking, not alot of money right now, unfortunately live in a one story house with my Mother for now with very little privacy, still a virgin although I have picked up a decent amount of girls and done everything else. Have been flirted on and offered sex before. Just didn't feel the connection with those girls. I have loneliness issues, childhood issues, and abandonment issues due to being an only child with a divorced Mother.
A little background about her: High maintenance, VERY attractive, insecurity issues, childhood issues, loneliness issues, and daddy issues. She was adopted and just lives with her two parents. Her dad is an abusive alcoholic who used to hit her. She loves sex. She's a nympho that has tons of toys and loves to mess around with girls as well.
A little background about the situation: Started being strongly attracted to her last summer and liking her. She unfortunately got a boyfriend right after that who ironically had no money, lived alone with his mother, and was a college student (see above). The difference between me and this guy though is that he was a scumbag who smoked weed every day and treated her like shit (maybe that's why she liked him). She would still come over and be all over me in my bed but would never kiss or anything due to respecting the relationship. Long story short they broke up around last winter; her and I started hooking up and liking each other (little did I know she was doing the same thing with another guy) then she leaves with some guy who has a shitload of money a year older than me because she can't stand living at home with an alcoholic Father. Talked to her throughout the 6 months she was gone and now she is back. She states she felt nothing for the guy but just loves money like any girl. Now that she is back we are in the same situation as before except she states that she doesn't like me and likes the other guy (she probably felt the same way before just never got the chance to tell me since she moved away with the rich guy out of nowhere). He offered her to move to CA in Sept with him and she doesn't know if she is going to or not yet. I know she likes me but wants her cake and a strawberry on top too. I know this because she calls me every day to hangout, (sometimes ditches at night to hangout with the other dude though :/ ), wants me all over her, we still hook up, she wants to cuddle all the time, and she wants me to hug her all the time; I get the feeling I am very comforting for her to have around, someone stable unlike the others in her life. Also the other guy found texts between the two of us saying that we were slowly getting to know each other better and like each other and made her promise not to talk to me anymore..... but she still secretly does
Breakdown: She is the sexiest girl I know and I love her flirty personality as well. I feel so comfortable with her when I am with her. I care deeply about her and want her body like a madman. We barely know anything about each other because we hide it from each other and the fucked up things we do know about each other we find out from mutual friends. I get along with her family great and she has stated several times she finds that extremely attractive. Her Father is a racist and the other guy she is seeing is not the same race as her. Even if she does move with him in Sept I do not think it will last.
I wish I could tell her everything about how I feel about her, when I do she gets scared I want more then a friendship, which I understand, you just can't tell someone everything at once. Yet when we hangout she is always flirty, she invites me over to family dinners, calls me everyday, gets jealous when I'm with other girls; shit doesn't make any sense. At the very least I could probably share my past with her and get to know her better as well but every time we hangout all she wants to do is drink and have fun with me. She never really wants to just chill and talk and every time I do think we have a chance I get the feeling she has other plans with the other guy and I get pissed and want her to myself for the night.
Overall I have made progress with her since before we weren't even talking due to the guy not wanting us to and I was barely around her parents before as well. Maybe she wants to hangout with me so often is because she isn't supposed to. She makes sure she looks 100% before seeing me often taking an hour or two to get ready.
I want to convince her to stay but I don't have as much to offer as the other guys besides my compassion, stability, and caring. I know I am the better long-term choice but she might just not be looking for long term right now. I don't know. She did date that other guy for one year and thought he was the one and he is very similar to me lifestyle wise. I know things will not work out with either guy and I will probably have another chance in the future but I am sick of not being with her. My only ideas to win her over are to: start acting like a jerk and badass, ignore her calls and texts and make it seem like I am unavailable so she wants me more (this would drive her crazy since I am the only stable and comforting thing in her life right now), or just talk to her and share with her my past, get to know hers, and let her know that I am the better choice and she should think about things deeply before making a decision to move anywhere (this might scare her away though)
Sorry about the long post guys, this is just making me crazy even though I shouldn't let it be. I know the smart thing would be to just move on but it's been a year and I haven't been able to remove my feelings from this girl so it must mean something. I am in my last year of school and will have money in a year and a better life but I want her now. I am impatient. I deserve her more than any other guy and it sucks not to have her. I will do anything to have her so any methods or tips just to start the relationship would be appreciated. I know this should come naturally between us but maybe we just need a push to get to know each other better and bond. I'm afraid I am getting pushed into the friend zone if not already there. I did her a favor today and she made me take money for it..... One more important detail is that she lives one block away from me and the other guy lives an hour from her. Thanks for the time reading this.