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Thread: Help please guys! Former one-itis strikes back

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    Default Help please guys! Former one-itis strikes back

    I was here, having a pretty good month, thinking things are definitely good and then this happens today... I need first to tell the story of my last One-itis and how it all went to hell.

    There is this one girl my wing sarged one day, because of destiny, my wing got dumped on the second time she met her but i kept her phone number, i kept regular tabs on her for several months...

    Long story short, we ended up hitting it off instead, i took her out, it was great, we ended up texting for hours a day (i had to tell her i was eating, showering or driving to get a break from it), for over a period of two months, i took her out some other nights, we kissed, we were speaking of BF/GF stuff, i actually stopped seeing other girls (doh) and then...

    ...I ended up failing a shit test and that was that, she told me she wanted to be just friends, we argued a couple of weeks and that was it. The last night i talked to her i knew it was really over, so i opened up, dlv'd and sounded like a chump. She was telling me how she was all over some other guy she had previously dumped a couple of years ago and had a date with him, we ended up talking until 3 am. She begged me to keep her as a friend, i told her i couldn't. Next morning she sent me an email saying "I'm now going to stop using all forms of social media, its taking too much of my time, its been a pleasure meeting you, have a nice life"

    Now, i had only started to get into PUA by the end (i actually started reading the game 1 day before she dumped me) so i screwed up a couple of times there, since then i got on with my life, i've sarged some other girls and its all been going pretty good, however i still think about her sometimes when she posts on facebook, how i really liked her and how other girls just don't compare... Regardless, i thought i had seen the end of her, that is until today.

    With Facebook open, she messages me out of the blue:
    (just fyi, we both speak Spanish so translation is not 1:1)

    Her: "(My name)!, you don't like me even as a friend anymore, rude."

    Me: "Of course not, i don't like friendships"
    Me: "How are you?"

    Her: "Haha silly"
    Her: "Fine and you?"

    Me: "Great, all kinds of success is coming my way"
    Me: "I have a question for you"

    Her: "I'm glad for you hon! Ask me whatever you want XD"

    Me: "Whatever i want? I'll have to keep that in mind for later haha. Tell me, how much time passed without Facebook until you decided it was a stupid action?" (alluding of course to her statement of not using social media anymore)

    5-6 hours passed without a response, i started to get really anxious and panicky, until Mystery whispered in my ear to chill and i forgot about it, i thought she left me hanging there. Until...

    Her: "haha, i don't know, like two weeks"

    Me: "hmmm i thought you would be stronger and hold out for three weeks"

    Her: "Haha, but i decreased my level, i used to spend hours looking at stupid things, not anymore."

    Me: "And now you're so productive, i know this because you're telling me so"

    Her: "Thats right, i'm actually going to sleep, i just saw my messages i had because i left this thing open."

    Me: "ok, very good (name), have a good night. I'm going to stay here playing guitar"

    Her: ""
    Her: "Like me as a friend (name)"
    Her: "Don't be silly"

    Me: "hmmm, all the benefits for you with nothing in return for me? So tempting"

    Her: "I'm an excellent friend... I'm so underused"

    Me: "i know right. and you're such an excellent person, so much to offer"

    Her: "Hey, tone down the sarcasm, i'm serious"

    Then it was bla bla, she told me a whole spiel about how she needed more male friends that could boost her ego and tell her the truth about things, how it was good to have both women and men friends

    Her: "So now you know, whenever you need me as a friend.."

    Me: "You're there for me, how sweet of you"

    Her: "I'm there"
    Her: (:

    Me: "" (that was our thing btw, posting two smilies in unison)

    30 seconds or so passed

    Her: "I was expecting a 'me too' as an answer"

    Me: "I know, i was thinking the same thing"

    Her: "haha"

    Me: "haha"

    so we said our goodbyes and i left her as the last one responding.

    I don't really want her as a friend guys, i have too much baggage with her. I just want to know your opinion.

    Does she desperately want us just to be friends like shes saying? Do i have an infitesimal chance to fix things with her? Should i freeze her out again?

    Or should i just lay it down for her as it is? Tell her we're never going to be friends?

    Please help me out guys please with the honest to god, soul crushing truth. This shit just brought my whole day down

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    Default Re: Help please guys! Former one-itis strikes back

    Hey Bud,

    I feel ya man. The way I found the game 4 years ago was when the "LOVE" of my life(thought) broke it off with me. And, like you, I wasn't even REALLY her Boyfriend... I too went all AFC and told her I liked her a lot, and that I think of her all the time, and I haven't moved cities yet cause of her!!!! haha... man what a pussy I was back then...

    Sorry for my trip down memory lane. Anyways, my suggestion is simple. This chick is no good for you bro. As harsh as that may sound. You don't have to delete her off Facebook, just block her status updates and everything else. If you like her and keep looking at her Facebook shit everyday it will RUIN your life dude!!! .... I personally think FACEBOOK is the worst thing when you end it with someone. You build her up even more in your own head and she gets put on a higher pedestal!!! DOnt do that!!! .... If she sends you a message just don't respond. She'll probably send you more and more, but don't even answer. You basically want to FREEZE her out but probably for good... Once time has passed and your emotionally in control enough to see her, then you can initiate contact or what not, and proceed to have a friendship with her.

    If she throws you off with one message bro, imagine a meet up or a friendly date??? .... Ive been in your shoes and the longer you build this chick up in your head, the more your gonna suffer..... Trust me if she wanted to fuck, it would of happened the first time. If your not emotionally strong enough to handle a friendship with her, just ignore her. It will probably make her come at you stronger but that doesn't necessarily mean she wants you back bro. I strongly suggest to let A LOT OF TIME PASS, and when your unattached to her, GAME the FUCK out of her. Girls are social and get what they need and move on.

    SOrry if its not what you wanted to hear but it will help you more than you will know. I used to always give my friends false hope back in the day. I knew it was a lost cause, but I didn't wanna be a dick to them. I found out now that I was being a bigger dick by not helping them move on and finding the better girls sooner!!

    CHeers bro

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    Default Re: Help please guys! Former one-itis strikes back

    BRO!, you're 100% right. I took some time and evaluated it. I know i absolutely appreciate her but life just took us in different ways.

    I just went out tonight and met other girls, i'm going to field report of course.

    Thanks a TON for responding, this is a brotherhood!


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