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    Default She likes me BUT...

    Hello everybody,

    I've been tracking this chic a long time now and she has been giving mixed signals when we communicate at times. One minute she's into me and next minute she seems disconnected. She has comfort in me, we hanged out, i do some Kino at times but i don't over do it cause i sense she gets a bit freaked out. Last week i told her that i would like to be her bf and she told me that she would get back to me but she was completely normal after that... no awkward moments anything.

    We met a few days later to discuss what i said. Of course i didn't apologize and i told her straight up that i don't regret what i said. I also told her about the mixed signals she has been giving off and i wanna know what's the deal.

    She admitted to me that she has feelings for me but she doesn't feel ready for a relationship just yet. She wants to keep things casual and slow. She was in a 5 yr relationship that ended badly so she enjoys the past 2 years being single. She even told me that if i found another person to go ahead . I shrugged it off and i agreed that we'll take it slow... but i don't know what to do LOL! I don't want to move too slow that she will loose interest but don't want to move too fast either to freak her out. I want her to commit to me and i know jealousy helps accomplish this once used correctly. Any advise members? Thanks!

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    Default Re: She likes me BUT...

    A man should never ask a female into a relationship. NEVER. Her response is valid.

    Read up please My observation about women and other guys out in the field

    Quote Originally Posted by DarrenA View Post
    Hello everybody,

    I've been tracking this chic a long time now and she has been giving mixed signals when we communicate at times. One minute she's into me and next minute she seems disconnected. She has comfort in me, we hanged out, i do some Kino at times but i don't over do it cause i sense she gets a bit freaked out. Last week i told her that i would like to be her bf and she told me that she would get back to me but she was completely normal after that... no awkward moments anything.

    We met a few days later to discuss what i said. Of course i didn't apologize and i told her straight up that i don't regret what i said. I also told her about the mixed signals she has been giving off and i wanna know what's the deal.

    She admitted to me that she has feelings for me but she doesn't feel ready for a relationship just yet. She wants to keep things casual and slow. She was in a 5 yr relationship that ended badly so she enjoys the past 2 years being single. She even told me that if i found another person to go ahead . I shrugged it off and i agreed that we'll take it slow... but i don't know what to do LOL! I don't want to move too slow that she will loose interest but don't want to move too fast either to freak her out. I want her to commit to me and i know jealousy helps accomplish this once used correctly. Any advise members? Thanks!
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    Default Re: She likes me BUT...

    Quote Originally Posted by topgunningit View Post
    A man should never ask a female into a relationship. NEVER. Her response is valid.

    Read up please My observation about women and other guys out in the field
    Her response is valid? please explain.

    I read your article, great read I didn't beg her or anything like that. I asked her bluntly alpha style. If she said yes, no problem, if she said no, i would move on to another chic. I think i am ready for a relationship and not into the flings anymore and she peeks my interest. I'm still new to the PUA thing and some of the techniques so i am open for criticism and tips. Wanna commit and even close with this chic.

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    Default Re: She likes me BUT...

    First question is she a HB10?

    Her response is valid because it creeps her out. You have to understand where she is coming from. Thats not being an alpha. Being blunt about your emotions thats being a beta\AFC\a nice guy. Do you think James Bond\Tony Starks, I know they are fictional characters, would ask a girl to be their girlfriend? You cannot wrap your head around it because its not in their character right? Exactly, its not in a man's character to do that. Its sad, but thats the rules of the game.

    First approach in locking down this chick is to remove that relationship thought from your processes. Then the next move is keep in contact with her but freeze her out.



    Quote Originally Posted by DarrenA View Post
    Her response is valid? please explain.

    I read your article, great read I didn't beg her or anything like that. I asked her bluntly alpha style. If she said yes, no problem, if she said no, i would move on to another chic. I think i am ready for a relationship and not into the flings anymore and she peeks my interest. I'm still new to the PUA thing and some of the techniques so i am open for criticism and tips. Wanna commit and even close with this chic.
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    Default Re: She likes me BUT...

    Quote Originally Posted by topgunningit View Post
    First question is she a HB10?

    Her response is valid because it creeps her out. You have to understand where she is coming from. Thats not being an alpha. Being blunt about your emotions thats being a beta\AFC\a nice guy. Do you think James Bond\Tony Starks, I know they are fictional characters, would ask a girl to be their girlfriend? You cannot wrap your head around it because its not in their character right? Exactly, its not in a man's character to do that. Its sad, but thats the rules of the game.

    First approach in locking down this chick is to remove that relationship thought from your processes. Then the next move is keep in contact with her but freeze her out.
    She's a 7-8. I hear you about the fictional characters but i'm a bit confused on the telling her about how i feel part tho. I read some other posts endorsing it but just don't come across needy/beta. I told her straight up... no crying, no bit**ing, no AFC stuff. Because i'm thinking is either yes or no so time would not be wasted and move on to the next chic, as the alpha male does. If you are into me, lets deal, if not, see u later.

    I agree with you on keeping contact and Freezing Her Out, which i am planning to do. Need some clarity on what exactly freaks her out so i'll know how to adjust. Thank you for your patience topgunningit.

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    Default Re: She likes me BUT...

    it might freak her out that you are so blunt about it.

    You WANT to be her bf and you are sure about it.. in that aspect i can see how that is AFC.

    instead maybe try dropping hints that she has POTENTIAL but hasnt proved yet, that she is worthy of being your gf.

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    Quote Originally Posted by juanverde View Post
    it might freak her out that you are so blunt about it.

    You WANT to be her bf and you are sure about it.. in that aspect i can see how that is AFC.

    instead maybe try dropping hints that she has POTENTIAL but hasnt proved yet, that she is worthy of being your gf.
    Ok i'll do that and of course keep in contact but freeze technique. I think i'm a bit confused. As an Alpha male, you are not supposed to say at all that you are interested in a girl and would like to take things to the next level? as i mentioned earlier, i wasn't beta at all during that conversation. It's like i asked a simple question and if no, your problem and not mine. I'll just move on to better things. No rejected feelings, beta behavior at all. Is it a case that even tho i showed Alpha behavior during and after the discussion, the whole setting, the stage set was AFC?

    I hope that i am articulating this well because i'm still learning Alpha male stuff. Thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by juanverde View Post
    it might freak her out that you are so blunt about it.

    You WANT to be her bf and you are sure about it.. in that aspect i can see how that is AFC.

    instead maybe try dropping hints that she has POTENTIAL but hasnt proved yet, that she is worthy of being your gf.
    This ^ is right. It's cat-string theory. Offer yourself to a girl and she'll lose interest, take yourself away and she'll lose interest, make it clear that she is sooo close to having you and she will pursue you.

    Depending on the circumstance, yes, telling a girl that you want to take things to the next level can be a dhv - only if (a) you've already f-closed, and (b) you are already pretty much at the next level (going on dates, meeting eachother friends or family, taking little weekend trips together)

    If she is over 25... if she is an "iNvestor" in Pandoras Box... if she both (a) and (b) ^ above are happening... if she is very into you (lights up - with happiness, not just excitement when you enter a room)... then bringing up the "take it to the next level" talk will show high value because it shows you are a man who has invested in her and are looking for a more meaningful realtionship with her.

    If she is under 22 yo... if she is a "Tester" in Pandoras Box... if you have not f-closed and if you don't do a lot of "relatioshippy" things... if she doesn't react immediately (or only with excitement) when you enter a room... then bringing up the "take it to the next level" talk will dlv because it will imply that - even without extensive investment and qualification - she is your best option.

    These are fairly generalized tendencies, but pretty consistent shades of grey.
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    Default Re: She likes me BUT...

    Autismus,

    This ^ is right. It's cat-string theory. Offer yourself to a girl and she'll lose interest, take yourself away and she'll lose interest, make it clear that she is sooo close to having you and she will pursue you.

    what are some lines you would use to suggest this^^^ that she's so close
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: She likes me BUT...

    Genrally anything that is a disqualifier + openmindednss. Like a 90% disqualifier.

    I saw a video of Mystery, as per usual, sitting on a couch between two HB8+ and talking about pickup. He said something like:

    "Kassandra here is a model, normally that's a big turn off for me. Most models are valued for their beauty and they don't bother to have any further value. I've only ever met a handful models who I liked as people, and that's why I don't bother with them, but I am curious." *strokes her leg with his finger absently*

    Some I've used (not all are lines):

    Her: "If you're too tipsey to drive you can crash at my place"
    Me: "Sure. Do you have a comfortable couch?"

    Me: "I don't date redheads, never have."
    Her: "So you don't know what you're missing"
    Me: "Ignorance is bliss"
    Her: "So are redheads"
    Me: "I wouldn't know "

    Me: *Pushes her away after a kiss*

    Her: "I'm a model"
    Me: "that's too bad, most models are mean, nasty, b1tchy girls."
    Her: "I only do it part time"
    Me: "Well then I guess I can talk to you part of the time" *turns to engage her friend*

    For me cat string is disqualifier + cuirosity, it's IOD + IOI, it's Neg + dhv + Kino
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