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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    That is a cool story to read and to see the advances you are making! Nice advice from Xavier! Hope it works out for you. Keep us posted as it is very interesting to read!
    http://www.puaforums.com/dating-advi...e-hb9-5-a.html u might wanna read this too
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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    I prefer this thread ... it has a more feelings... hmm sounds like the vaccation thing is helping me (if you wanna read up on my story: http://www.puaforums.com/game/18074-...otionless.html)
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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    ** Update **

    It finally happened.

    To make it quick: We met twice in the last week and both times it ended up in a make out session. Actually,we spent 7 straight hours making out last Tuesday. It was amazing. My cock hurts - no f-close because she's not ready yet (she needs time to get over her ex before she feels ready) and because I don't want to f-close too soon - I want a LTR and right now the anticipation for sex is "through the roof" (on both sides) which is fun.

    I did some mistakes here and there despite the fact that everything went oh so well. First, I talk a little too much and sometimes I can pull a bad joke that kills the heat for a few minutes. I'm a quick learner so I started to talk less and kiss more. Second, I am a little dominating without knowing it: At one point she told me she thought I was an alpha male when she felt contrived by my hand that was on her neck. She told me she thinks she is an alpha female and she's not used to be dominated - I don't know what to with this - I'm not sure if she liked it or if she was uncomfortable.

    Anyway, everything seem to go well - she definitely likes me and she wants me sexually - I think she's definitely thinking about LTR. I'm just not sure she's as much "in love" with me as I am with her. We obviously haven't talked about any of that and I didn't tell her anything needy except that I had hoped this would happen and that I thought she had the hottest body in the world.

    My new issue is that I want her to chase me a little. It's been 2 days now without contact and I want her to do the next move because I feel like she needs time to think. I do not want to make any pressure - I'm even thinking that the next time we see each other it should be in a public places so that we don't go right away in the bed and play with fire.

    What would you do?

    ** Special note **
    I want to thank everyone that helped me in my quest so far. Really. These last days have been the best of my life and I am living a dream with an amazing woman - the most gorgeous and wise oneitis I've ever had. I now realize that my dream is not fulfilled yet, I really want this passion to grow into a relationship. I think I still need your help so I don't fark everything up

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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    -U just discovered the hand on the neck thing? She'll like it, all girls like it but keep showing her that u dominating her is the right thing for her to do
    -U can't really know that cuz girls can keep their frames better than us. Hot body huh right on
    -Look she's an investor so she likes beeing chased but if u really don't then don't, she'll find a way to contact you.
    -I like that u r thinking of taking her to a public place so smart.
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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    ** Update **

    Mission: Complete.

    We're taking things slow. We're not officially together but we're living a beautiful passionate relationship. Step by step, little by little, we get more and more intimate, more and more connected and in tune. None of us used the "L" word yet but I can feel it. You just know it when it's there.

    I have no doubt that this love story will get a happy ending. I just wanted to let people know that it's not a mission impossible to win over the heart of a long-lost high school sweetheart.

    It's not easy... but it's not impossible. Just keep your faith in yourself and dive head first. If you don't try, you won't win.

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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    **Update**

    I need a quick advice, guys.

    We've been having a relationship that looks like a bf and gf but without being official, in the last few weeks. We make love a lot and she started to give me hints about us two eventually being togeher, like saying stuff about our future and things like "you'd better get used to my shortcomings", which I see as a sign she sees us togeher in the future. I've lived the happiest days of my life lately.

    The problem is that she wants space and time as well as meeting other guys to see her options before she engage herself further.

    How should I react? She asked me what i thought about it and told her she should follow her instincts and meet other people because anyway i'm the ultimate mate and i'm not scared to lose her. I told her we are destined to be, but that if she choses someone else it will be her loss.

    She went to a blinddate yesterday and ive had no news since. Im thinking about Freezing Her Out or to play hard to reach. I am under a huge stress because i don't want to fark things up... im so close to my goal.

    Any tips, anyone?

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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    -Tell her no i won't, i want u to be the best that u can be and i will give u shit about them.
    -Did i take u under my wing for u to make such an idiot mistake tell her no u either want or u don't
    -Why did u do that!? ROOOOON!!! *sigh*
    -Get a new girl so when she wants to talk again tell her u're seeing someone.
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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    -Tell her no i won't, i want u to be the best that u can be and i will give u sh1t about them.
    -Did i take u under my wing for u to make such an idiot mistake tell her no u either want or u don't
    -Why did u do that!? ROOOOON!!! *sigh*
    -Get a new girl so when she wants to talk again tell her u're seeing someone.
    You're asking me why I did that and I will try to explain. I had a feeling that some things can't be forced. I can't make her love me and make her be 100% ready to engage herself into a relationship. I want her to want to be with me. I am pretty sure she is in love with me so I made a gamble. I think I won the gamble since she did contact me since and she's more into me than ever. Looks like the date made her realize how awesome I am.

    She begged me to come to my place yesterday night (to have sex) and I said no. I punished her bad behavior. I'm giving myself a few days to think over what I'm gonna do next.

    My opinion is that the only way she can solve her current uncertainties is to do the opposite of keeping her options open. Once she'll take a decision, she won't look back at all the other alternatives. But I don't know how to make her realize that, actually I think she even must realize that by herself.

    I am not sure about the idea of making her jealous and seeing other women. Could't I just set my limits clearly and give her some time before I do such a drastic move?

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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Quote Originally Posted by ronthepen View Post
    You're asking me why I did that and I will try to explain. I had a feeling that some things can't be forced. I can't make her love me and make her be 100% ready to engage herself into a relationship. I want her to want to be with me. I am pretty sure she is in love with me so I made a gamble. I think I won the gamble since she did contact me since and she's more into me than ever. Looks like the date made her realize how awesome I am.

    She begged me to come to my place yesterday night (to have sex) and I said no. I punished her bad behavior. I'm giving myself a few days to think over what I'm gonna do next.

    My opinion is that the only way she can solve her current uncertainties is to do the opposite of keeping her options open. Once she'll take a decision, she won't look back at all the other alternatives. But I don't know how to make her realize that, actually I think she even must realize that by herself.

    I am not sure about the idea of making her jealous and seeing other women. Could't I just set my limits clearly and give her some time before I do such a drastic move?
    Xavier is right with getting another girl and letting her know that you are seeing someone, but I would be less obvious about it. If you tell her straight up she might see through you and think that you are doing this just to make her jealous!
    Men like to see things black or white, whilst women tend to see things in different tones, which is something that you can use to your advantage. Just imagine you are all of a sudden mysterious and the information she is lacking she has to fill in with her imagination. This gets her curious, thinkging about you and jealous if there is a female involved. Fear of loss.
    Do you have a female friend that she does not know anything about? Spend time with that female friend and if she call you out on it tell her that she is a friend and that you care about friends.

    One thing that really hit me that she broke of with her ex, is dating you and then goes on a blind date. It doesn't sound very coherent from her side. It seems to me that she feels that she has you. So it is good that you did not go that night for sex.
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    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    -Good for you and nice that u withheld sex
    -U're a good guy to think like that.
    -No, why is it extreme? i'm not saying go fuck like a bunny rabbit but go out on other dates as well.
    P.S.: Since when do u question what i say? :P
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