Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 6 of 9 FirstFirst 123456789 LastLast
Results 51 to 60 of 86
Like Tree43Likes

Thread: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

  1. #51
    ronthepen is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 602, Level: 12
    Level completed: 4%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    87
    Points
    602
    Level
    12
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    32

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Quote Originally Posted by Xmrider View Post
    Just imagine you are all of a sudden mysterious and the information she is lacking she has to fill in with her imagination.
    (...)
    Do you have a female friend that she does not know anything about? Spend time with that female friend and if she call you out on it tell her that she is a friend and that you care about friends.
    I am taking this advice seriously into account. I have a friend of mine that will be perfect to do that once she comes back from a business trip in two weeks from now. I'll see how things go and decide if I take the jealousy path or if I don't.

    Quote Originally Posted by Xmrider View Post
    It seems to me that she feels that she has you.
    That's a very good observation. Since I read this insight I refocused my strategy so that I'll turn the tables a little.


    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    -Good for you and nice that u withheld sex
    -U're a good guy to think like that.
    -No, why is it extreme? i'm not saying go fark like a bunny rabbit but go out on other dates as well.
    P.S.: Since when do u question what i say? :P
    Xavier, I've read almost all of your posts on the forum. I have used every one of your advice and they all brought me what I wanted. Hell, in my opinion you're an obvious contenter for the title of the best PUA on earth. The BF destroyer routine and your other teachings are gold to me.

    I admit that I had doubts when I realized I hadn't been listening to your latest advice. Although it did give me some thrill to challenge you a little hahahaha

    The reason why I acted like I did was mostly because deep inside I believe I just have to hang in there a few more weeks and she'll end up with me - no matter what I do. She just needs time, I think. I did refocus my actions to make her chase me a little and it's working. Her blind date didn't give her the chills I can provide anyway and she's been all over me since it happened.

    Just yesterday, she texted me saying she would come to my place at night to give me my valentine's day present (which was her naked body). We made love until the early hours of the morning and she just left to work. You should've seen her and how she's floating over the ground. She looks like a girl in love. She's an amazing woman. The more I get to know her, the more I feel like she's the one.

    Despite the fact that nothing is set, that she didn't say she loves me yet and that I don't know what will happen in the future, still, I'm her only valentine. I'm the one providing the great sex (thanks to the sex god method and my personal experiencs), the emotional connection and the romance she needs.

    All I need to do, based on my current analysis, is to find a way to appear to her as the ultimate husband - the one who will be the father of her children and who will never abandon her. This is the most difficult thing so far - I can't be too direct so I don't scare the hell out of her. If I can't find ways to make her believe in me in the next two weeks, then I'll use the jealousy method.

  2. #52
    xavier's Avatar
    xavier is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 15,104, Level: 79
    Level completed: 51%, Points required for next Level: 246
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social31 days registered10000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    Paris, France
    Posts
    1,120
    Points
    15,104
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts
    Rep Power
    667

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    -Read that last part again
    -Do u see where u're wrong?
    -u don't have to prove anything.
    -Do u think u would make a great father/husband or not?
    -to hell what she thinks or sees
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

  3. #53
    Xmrider is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 634, Level: 12
    Level completed: 68%, Points required for next Level: 16
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Location
    Poland
    Posts
    132
    Points
    634
    Level
    12
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    35

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Do you have other female friends that you meet casually?

    Concerning the husband thing don't you think that it slightly early to be hinting it? I mean she just went on a blinddate and the L word still has not appeared in her vocabulary!

    You are living in her reality and not yours!
    Make the impossible possible!

  4. #54
    ronthepen is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 602, Level: 12
    Level completed: 4%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    87
    Points
    602
    Level
    12
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    32

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    I realize I still need your help, guys.

    It's been way over a month since my last posts. I was determined to solve my issues my own way and I think I did okay. I didn't play the jealousy game mostly because she knows oh so much how much I'm into her and I just can't lie anyway

    The "I want to see my other options" era has been dealt with nonetheless - we now have an agreement of sexual/intimate exclusivity and I'm confident that it's still just a matter of time until we are officially together.

    Still, I would really appreciate your opinion about this:

    I have a tiny fear that she kind of already gets all that she wants in our current "dating" situation. She gets my attention, the great sex, the affection, the emotional connection, etc. without the problems of a real relationship.

    Now, I just want to make sure that our current status is escalating toward a real relationship - I want her to invest more. It's been going on the right path so far, but I just want to make sure it won't stall!

    Any ideas without going on the jealousy path? I thought about playing a little harder to get, things like not responding to her messages in the next few days and even refuse to have sex with her on our next date (it worked last time to reinforce her attraction for me - I wanna try again)

    For the record: My girl is a "free spirit". She doesn't do long term plans and she doesn't really know what she wants. Right now, in her life, she is trying to know and love herself and be happy on her own a little... which explains why she doesn't just jump into a new relationship. I really want her to feel like I let her the time she needed. I just want to make sure I get her to "jump in the water" in the end: I don't want to only become a temporary passenger in her life.

  5. #55
    Xmrider is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 634, Level: 12
    Level completed: 68%, Points required for next Level: 16
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Location
    Poland
    Posts
    132
    Points
    634
    Level
    12
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    35

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Bro you are the prize! Not the other way round! With that attitude she will have to chase you or leave!

    Leave for holidays or for work for a period of 2 weeks. For work would be even better as you will not have time to think about her and call her too often.
    Make the impossible possible!

  6. #56
    ronthepen is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 602, Level: 12
    Level completed: 4%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    87
    Points
    602
    Level
    12
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    32

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Quote Originally Posted by Xmrider View Post
    Bro you are the prize! Not the other way round! With that attitude she will have to chase you or leave!

    Leave for holidays or for work for a period of 2 weeks. For work would be even better as you will not have time to think about her and call her too often.
    I can't leave since I work from home hehe but I did put my plan into action:

    Before the weekend, I made sure to stimulate her hormones to the ceiling (by phone/text). Then we had a late-night "booty call" date planned last weekend and I cancelled it at the last minute: I really am ready to give up some short-term moments of greatness for a long-term Mindset.

    As soon as I cancelled the date she gave me 4 texts in a row telling me she wanted to "see" me this week if she can. I didn't reply except for a few text kisses so she knows I had seen her texts.

    It's been three days without contact now but I am not perturbed or obsessed. just doing my things.

    I will wait for her to do the next move and keep the "I am the prize" mindset.

  7. #57
    xavier's Avatar
    xavier is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 15,104, Level: 79
    Level completed: 51%, Points required for next Level: 246
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social31 days registered10000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    Paris, France
    Posts
    1,120
    Points
    15,104
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts
    Rep Power
    667

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    If yo feel that that is the right thing to do than it is the right thing to do.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

  8. #58
    ronthepen is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 602, Level: 12
    Level completed: 4%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    87
    Points
    602
    Level
    12
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    32

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    I am confused today.

    I don't totally understand what happened yesterday night, I feel like I am in a bad position.

    We had a date and she came to my place with a different vibe than usual. She was a little distant and clearly wanted to spend the evening talking instead of making out. She wants to talk because she feels like she doesn't know me and she mentioned that maybe we are just meant to kiss/make out/fark and I suspect she means that she doesn't see me as bf potential, which is obvious or else we'd already be together I believe.

    I believe she's testing me, that everything is not lost yet, but that I need to REACT quick or else I'm gonna loose her. My "Play hard to get" strategy just isn't working, it was easy to pull it out while we're in between dates but impossible to keep when beig together. I am to blame here, it's just not my strenght. I'm a seducer, a charming man, but I open myself too muh, i'm too emotional I guess. AFC and beta you would say.

    What should I do now to win her heart over? Am I reduced to try the jealousy game? If so, how should I pull it off? Are there any other strategy left to try? No contact maybe?

  9. #59
    xavier's Avatar
    xavier is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 15,104, Level: 79
    Level completed: 51%, Points required for next Level: 246
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social31 days registered10000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    Paris, France
    Posts
    1,120
    Points
    15,104
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts
    Rep Power
    667

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    Tell her the truth. Have you done that yet? If she says no then turn ure back and walk away. It's been too long a time for her not to know what she wants.
    If when u turn ure back to her she says stop plz u don't turn u keep walking and make her beg for u to come back. I mean it Ron BEG! I know it may be hard but suck it up and do it u deserve better than this I know u do.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

  10. #60
    ronthepen is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 602, Level: 12
    Level completed: 4%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    87
    Points
    602
    Level
    12
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    32

    Default Re: I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years

    It's over.

    This long quest to get the girl of my dreams ended last Sunday.

    She ended the relationship with respect for me and in tune with her instincts and her own quest for the perfect mate. She told me I had been her greatest passion - and that she really came to me with her heart, but that she realized that I am not what she's looking for in the end.

    She also told me we weren't the same, in her opinion, because of our different hobbies and lifestyle. I really thought we were on the same page when it comes to communication, spiritual and emotional connections etc. but she doesn't see things that way.

    She's already seeing someone else, by the way. Girls are so predictable. I think her decision was based on this new fling that was hitting on her while I was doing great overall... but definitely scared her with my intensity and my weakest point was that I have always been honest with her, telling her my true feelings, which ultimately created too much pressure.

    All and all we've been dating for 4 months, which will always be cherished in a corner of my heart. I know I am blessed to have had the chance to share these moments of pure bliss with her. Now I know it's over. I want it to happen again, in a few years after we both grow a little (she has to quit getting into the same patterns and I have to learn to manage my intensity) but I do not want to waste my life waiting so I will move on.

    I've had the worst week of my life. I've had suicidal thoughts (although I am not in danger, don't worry - I just think it's part of my early emotions of despair when I was still in a state of shock)and I have been through a lot of pain. My mind is slowly healing though, but my heart is either emotionless or else I get these uncontrollable bursts of tears coming out. My body is in bad shape though - I feel intense pain in the chest-torso area which is probably due to the stress. I started to do some meditation and breathing techniques to relax my body. I also have not slept more than 2 to 3 hours per day in the last five days. I'm enumerating all these symptoms so that people who will read this thread in the future knows how it feels and what is the cost of losing in the bargain of love.

    Despite all the bad things I just said, I must say that I'm actually getting a little better everyday, which is very positive because when I wake up in the morning I'm thinking that this new day just can't be worst that the last, in comparison with the first morning when I didn't want the sun to rise so I don't have to live through another sh1tty day. Also, I am glad I have taken this bargain even if I lost, because what I lived with this girl was the ultimate experience of my lifetime so far. The fall is enormous, but I think I will someday feel like it was worth it.

    I took a week off from work of any kind - I don't even have to eat or clean the dishes because I am not hungry and I don't eat. See? I still can see the positive in everything

    I know I will bounce back soon, but I'm taking baby steps to get there. I don't want to go too fast and fall again later. I want this life experience to be the occasion to refocus my life choices completely.

    By the way I feel free.

    You cannot imagine how much energy I've put into this endeavor and how I can now enjoy the fact that I don't have to worry about anything. I can simply live without thinking, planning, hoping, elaborating strategies etc.

    My current concern is onto my spiritual beliefs that are falling apart. I came into this life experiment with a belief that there was a greater force, somewhere, that would make things work. I had illusions. I believed in the existence of soulmates. I believed in fairy tales. I did live this fairy tale for a while, but now I realize that we, human beings, are living in a world that has no magic or force or God-intervention whatsoever. I feel stupid, like if I just realized at 33 years old that Santa Claus is BS.

    I am not turning my back on love for the future, though. I think I will have matured a lot with this story. I still like to believe that someday I will have another chance with my High School sweetheart (I still love her obviously) and that I will be a better mate for her because of that maturity, but I know that the chances are that I will more likely give this new improved version of me to another woman.

    When I will regain my energy, I will come back to the forum to improve my social skills and seduction techniques. I will probably never use the BF destroyer technique ever again - despite the fact that it's working oh so well - because I have seen how it put me in the "rebound" spot. I will try to stay away from women in couples. That's my pattern that I want to break. I want a new life. I don't know yet what it will be like, but I think I will find out soon.

    Thanks for reading, thanks for the advice, and thanks to my Highschool sweetheart: Because of her, I now see how I wasn't ready, not mature enough emotionally, and I thank her for all the amazing moments we had together, how she screamed her orgasms in my ears, how she will keep me in her heart forever for being the passion of her life. Now I think we can both benefit from relationships that will be more serene.


Similar Threads

  1. can you win back a hopeful romantic?
    By mpage1950 in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 1
    Last Thread: 11-13-2012, 05:07 AM
  2. regaining trust with a hopeful romantic
    By mpage1950 in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 6
    Last Thread: 06-30-2012, 01:10 PM
  3. Seducing "The Hopeful Romantic" in accordance with Vin DiCarlo
    By RammyTorontoBoy in forum Isolating And Pulling
    Replies: 1
    Last Thread: 12-31-2011, 10:03 AM
  4. What if she uses back d c/f line "u tryin 2 pick me up?"
    By skullring92 in forum General Questions
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 06-23-2011, 12:15 PM
  5. For the Chodes who write "get back my gf" read this!
    By PAPAWOLF1 in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 02-01-2011, 09:50 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com