Woah man yur outta line..
Yu may contribute or not...
Woah man yur outta line..
Yu may contribute or not...
I think being weird is something I've been dealing with my entire life...honestly...I feel like love is something so many women don't even understand...
You guys are interesting...not gonna lie I'm kinda intimidated...it's nice to hear "weird" is welcome...
Last edited by whatiswrongwithme; 03-10-2014 at 04:03 AM. Reason: could be misinterpreted what I said first
Cool,what makes some women confused in that area, i wondered.sometimes when you tell i girl what you feel shes tends to see it weird but i can't help it.i gotta drop bombs(literally).i had to control it.
I met some pretty interesting women in my..i think latinas and whites are very friendly.
let out what you may..no censorship..knoe you can handle it
you seem confident and very self aware..
I made a move. I'll answer and comment these questions first and tell you what happened next.
Thread: I really hope you will read this thread. Even though it's LOOOOONNNG like hell, still, I think it's entertaining nevertheless! The guys over here have been my guides and I am really glad to look back at what I did thinking that I have lived some great life events mostly because of them... and because of my courage. It takes guts to do all I've done - I am not going to take pride with this but acknowledge that I discovered that in this life, if you want things to happen, it's better to act and make things happen
1. Have you kissed or been close to kissing ever?
Actually if you read the thread in its whole you'll find that I'm not a teenager. I met the girl when I was 16 but we are now in our 30s and I have been dating her for a few months a year ago. We kissed and had sex many... many times...
2. Do you two text?
No we don't. After the "breakup" a year ago, I went NC for two months, then we exchanged some words and she froze me out for the last 10 months.
3. What is her current boyfriend like?
I don't even know if she's still with the guy she went with right after she left me. That guy was probably a beta male from what I know, but he had more activities in common with her - similar hobbies etc.
4. Has she cried in front of you?
She did drop a few tears, but never had the chance to see her cry for real.
5. Do you know things about her no one else knows?
I know many, but at the same time I am conscious that she never gave herself 100% to me. I think she was scared to fall in love with me - she left me two weeks after a beautiful moment we shared when I'm pretty sure she felt love for me. I was intense and was asking for way too much - marriage/kids and other insane stuff, so she couldn't give in into love all the way, I believe, by fear of going too far too soon.
6. What is she like as a person? If you told me more about her specifically it'd help.
She's a secretive person. She's mysterious, keeping things for her sisters and friends - not telling her BF everything.
She melts for me - she always did - but she doesn't see the old "me" (intense, passionate, romantic) as her BF.
She has a pattern with her BFs - they are always liking the same stuff as she does (hobbies like gardening and other hippy stuff lol) and they are more beta (she doesn't like feeling dominated) but she always end up leaving her BFs because they don't satisfy her - loss of passion.
She's sweet, she likes my confidence and my guts - I like her capacity to live in the present moment and to take care of other people.
She comes from a religious family - I don't. She's not a Jesus freak, actually I don't think she's a believer, but she definitely feel guilt and other religious conditioning.
She likes bio food and cycling, theater, opera, etc.
Overall I'd say that what we have in common is similar referents and background, a really strong sexual and emotional connection, but we have yet to develop a deep communication and to find activities in common.
**The update, finally**
I have been pondering my next move for months, among other things. I had been making plans and strategies. Last week I must have been a little out of my mind but I just wrote her a quick email for the first time in the last 10 months. I told her I was wondering if she had changed jobs (but didn't ask for it, just saying I was asking myself the question) and made a joke about a sexual nickname I use to call her. I pressed the send button while my brain wasn't working and spent two days wondering what the fark I had done.
I was expecting no response at all. Or if I were to get a reply, that it would be cold and that she would make clear that she doesn't want anything from me.
She answered me this morning. Nothing amazing, just friendly, but she did ask me a question back and ended with an open door to eventually see each other again. I don't expect anything from her at this point, but this positive reply was a surprise. I would really want to get some insights about how to keep things ultra-slow while trying to regain her confidence and comfort... I'm looking for a few ideas about what I should write her back, when to ask for a coffee or something. I am patient now. My Mindset is that I have no expectancy at all and that I know I am starting things over. All I want right now is for her to see what I have become - I am proud of my evolution, of my more realist philosophy, of my zen approach (detachment). I don't know what to do - I don't want to screw this up again! Any advice, anyone?