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Thread: Re-Kindling a First - Should I? & How?

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    Default Re-Kindling a First - Should I? & How?

    My first GF / First Makeout / First Sex / First anything really - I was also her first anything - was when I was 19 and she was 18 (like four years ago). She lived in my nieghborhood and we met in a dance class at college. What sux was we were both virgins (didn't know how lol) and I was crazy-religious-dogmatic then - so we didn't do that much.

    She's HB9 (is now a professional trapeze artist) and I'm about done kicking myself since getting a handle of PUA lol

    We hung out once or twice since breaking up (she's been touring with a circus company) and I've always sort of imagined myself meeting her for lunch sometime after college when we both have started our careers, have lunch, see where it goes - like a RomCom.

    Right now she is performing (and living) 2 hours away from where I go to school (we're both now 5+ hours away from home and close to New Orleans.

    The last contact - since hanging (a walk in our old neighborhood) out once like a 1.5 or 2 years ago was her liking a very smart political comment I made on fb - prompting me to think about her.

    But I digress, MY QUESTION:

    Am I correct in assuming that I should NOT contact her about hanging since we're in similar areas because two hours away is NOT so very close (especially for an HB9 XGF) and a fb like is NOT and IOI (especially from an HB9 XGF) - ??

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    IF this were likely to be rekindled would it ONLY be done so after I'm out of college, have a car, have a job, and financially well off - ??


    Conclusion

    I'm not goin AFC about it (at least I hope) just got reminded by fb about this re-kindling idea I've had in the back of my head for a while. My 5 year plan is to spend the next 2 yrs finishing school, refining my game, raising my value, getting a job, starting grad school; then spend the next 3 years looking for a HB8 or HB9 with a good personality - maybe it'll be her, maybe it won't.
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    Default Re: Re-Kindling a First - Should I? & How?

    Hey man I feel ya. We all want to work on the ones that got away before we learned game. I totally think you should go for it IF she has a car lol. Would be very difficult otherwise. If it's too much going on to actually build something then at least keep her arms length. Start conversation now and keep it scarce. Just so you are always within view of each other so one day you can make the effort without having to go from 0-60. Of course this is just my opinion so feel free to be skeptical.
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    Default Re: Re-Kindling a First - Should I? & How?

    Thanks again BatMan! Just for an update, I fb messaged like a week or so ago basically "random question, what's good to do in New Orleans - non-touristy"

    She responded positively and wrote a few paragraphs about what to do, asked how I was; I replied with a paragraph or two, asked how she was; a few sentences from her; a concluding sentence from me. Pretty typical fb convo. I guess next step will be to go to New Orleans and message her how her advice turned out - build rapport.

    I'm wondering how to game her (if at all) if - after college and having a job and my value is high - we meet to hang or whatever. Again, this isn't until years down the road in the realm of maybies and theories, but I do think of her as a keeper.
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    Default Re: Re-Kindling a First - Should I? & How?

    That's great that she responded so well. Yea just keep talking and flirting while building your game with other girls. Only experiment with new techniques on new girls btw. I've made that mistake lol. Keep doing what you're doing and keep her in arms length.
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    Default Re: Re-Kindling a First - Should I? & How?

    I agree, keep her close enough to remain in the back of her mind until the timing is right, and keep working on yourself until then.


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