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Thread: So am I in the Friendzone or not (aeromyth)

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    Default So am I in the Friendzone or not (aeromyth)

    Hey everyone,

    I wanted to ask for your advice concerning this one girl I know. I met her last year and we have been getting along quite well. The problem came when I found a job in another city (300 km away), which farked up my plans concerning her. I didn’t make any move in the end as I was not interested in a long-distance relationship. We still meet occasionally (like every 3 months) and I wouldn’t mind getting a bit more intimate with her, since both of us are single. The thing is that I have probably fallen in the friend-zone after all that time.

    She keeps telling me about how she is desperate to get a boyfriend; she fantasizes how the French must be great lovers (she lives in Paris, btw), etc. Now, all these are indicators that I have fallen into the FZ. However, the thing is that everytime we meet, she keeps touching me… A LOT: my arms, my shoulders, etc. She even kept once her hand on my arm non-stop for 5 mins while calling her parents. What does this farking mean? Is that an ioi? This chick is quite immature and I have noticed that she has trouble sorting out her feelings (she sometimes still hopes to get back with her ex-bf 3 years after splitting up). She either feels something for me or she just finds “comfort” in my friendship.

    For example, the last time we met, she had her arm on my back while we were walking, so I tried to put my arm on her shoulder as an experiment. She immediately withdrew her own arm just after 10 or so seconds. Now, that would be clear that she is not interested, but then she grabbed my arm and kept pressing her own against me. Ok, there were some weird guys in the street at that time, but still… WTF? I didn’t really expect something to happen between us, but it would be a shame to let this opportunity go if she’s really interested.

    Now, she is coming to my place next month to visit the city where I live, and I guess that I should make a move, but I might as well freak her out. Please note that I am not looking to start a LTR with her. If nothing happens, I will simply move on. However, if I have an opportunity, I will be kicking myself if I miss it.

    Could you please give me any advice on this? Any help will be greatly appreciated!

    Thanks, bros!

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    Default Re: Friendzone or not?

    her telling you that she's desperate for a boyfriend is a ioi, also talkin about the hole "french fantasy" thing is a game to see how you react to it, what she's realy trying to say is "i'm desperate for a sexual fantasy, give me one"
    you need to Kino escalate and countinue flirting with her, i don't think you got friendzoned, you need to watch the link and related video's (parts 1-5) it will help alot with the proccess of seducing her, enjoy!!
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    Default Re: Friendzone or not?

    Cat String Theory

    She's escalating because she likes the comfort sure, you need to tease her with it

    disqualify yourself -
    Too bad you're not my type
    That's it we're getting a divorce

    She wants to see you pursuing her, it's validation for a girl like her. Make her wonder why you're not and she'll try harder to put it back, bit by bit, so bring her in that way

    If you try to put a move on her directly you give her what she's looking for and you won't get anywhere

    Play it cool tho, she does sound interested, just not yet solidified
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    Default Re: So am I in the Friendzone or not (aeromyth)

    Thanks guys! Very useful information!

    The bad news is that she will not be staying at my place
    She's visiting the city in the first place because some ex-colleague invited her and he has offered her to stay at his house...
    Well, at least, I won't have toaccompany her on her sightseeing tour, lol

    Anyway, I gave some more thought about this, and I have the suspicion that she's playing with me. Everytime I go back to Paris, I warn her well in advance so that we may arrange something for the night. She then claims that she doesn't have time for me and that she has made some other arrangements (and simply offers to see me like between 7 and 9, if she does at all). I have always assumed that I am not on her priority list, so I didn't bother calling her most of the times I went there.

    Yet, her way of touching me implies something different, thus my confusion. Serves me right for being stupid. Won't bother anymore with her...

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    Default Re: So am I in the Friendzone or not (aeromyth)

    she is definately playing you, you should forget about her as anything more than a friend. i know it sucks, but you just gotta move on

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    Default Re: So am I in the Friendzone or not (aeromyth)

    Yea tough situation. You have to find a way to re-ignite that spark. use every attraction technique. Disqualifying is a good one just like Red Baron mentioned.

    Also use push/pull "I'm so glad to see you. Now when are you leaving so I can meet up with my date." Jokingly of course with a sly smile. Use push/pull with your body to. "You're amazing. We have to meet up. Let me call you right back so we can plan something." Then just disappear on her for several hours or a day.

    Push/pull is my favorite attraction building technique. You don't even need dhv stories if you have that mastered. This gives her mixed signals and let me tell you...mixed signals deserve mixed signals.

    Lastly it's about your Kino. It's not just important to initiate kino, but also to end it. If she touches you again, then remove her hand. Tell her "This sh1t ain't free" or just remove it while saying "Stop you troublemaker." Then after a min grab her close to you. Even let her think you're going to kiss her, then push her away again. Keep doing this like an accordian while slowly going further and further with each pull.

    Try staring into her eyes lovingly for a few seconds. After she smiles and says "What are you doing weirdo." or whatever, just say "I think you have a boogie." All push/pull.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: So am I in the Friendzone or not (aeromyth)

    Wow, excellent advice!
    I admit I am still new to PUA, so I am still clumsy in my game.

    The thing is that I am not even sure if she interests me anymore. She was average to begin with... Yet, I could tease her using your technique just to teach her a lesson

    I will come back to you in a tenday to give a complete report.

    Cheers!


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