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    evertking1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default PUA that bumped his head and need help!

    Ok, need help.. this girl and i have been dating for about 6 months she has a one yr old, works and takes online classes, so she is very busy but we did find time to see each other.. and in the last two weeks she was sending me pics of wedding rings and dresses and telling me that she loves me!! which was cool i am also crazy about her! but we both know not to rush anything and she admits that she is afraid that i will hurt her, cause i do have the rep of a player and people remind her of that alot!! but i have put the game down for her.. but her ex has been coming over and seeing the baby cause he works long hours and just stops by on his way home, but this guy still loves her and wants her but she assures me that she is over him.. but when her text messages slowed and also the call, i caved.. and and became inscure.. and full of questions, which she became tired of quick! and let me know of it. so... i stopped and i do not text her untill she text me.. which has been few and far.. but yesterday she called and told me she loved me and that she just has been busy with school and her child and that she got tired of me and my questions.. and text last nite and told me Good nit and the she loves me... im soooo confused!! if she is busy, she could find time to just send a quick text saying "hey, thinking about you" or something... Im not the inscure type and have had MANY girls, but have fell in love here and im afraid that im getting played!! what ya think?? any words of wisdom?

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    Default Re: PUA that bumped his head and need help!

    Don't we all need some time for for ourselves now and then? Relax and let her deal with her thoughts for a while, sheŽll come back for sure!

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    evertking1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: PUA that bumped his head and need help!

    Thanks, i hope so. I have not got a call or a text today, im going to just sit back and let her miss me, if she even does. I hope that by being inscure that i have not pushed her away. I just have this gut feeling that the ex may be coming back in the picture. I told her if that is the case to just let me know and i will move on. She said its not and that she loves me... i just do not understand why im getting the cold shoulder, is it a active test or just loss of intrest? why does she say i love you? is she playing games?is she trying to push me away, get me to give up? uugh... is karma coming back to get me? lol... sorry guys... i really care about this one and the one time that i give my all, this happens! Thanks for your help and i will post back if and when she comes around.. i have told my self that i will not contact her today and see if she misses me and contacts me.

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    Default Re: PUA that bumped his head and need help!

    Stop stop STOP! Lol

    One thing I want to mention is that emotional states are contagious. If you are insecure about the situation then you run the risk that your behavior will convey that (which it did). If you are confident and KNOW that ex has nothing on you (he is an ex for a reason) then your behaviour will convey that. If it is strong enough then she will accept this emotional state aka frame.

    Another thing is DO NOT tell her that if she loves her ex to just let you know so you can move on. That is NOT alpha. An alpha would always assume attraction and know she isn't going anywhere unless YOU want her to. You are a man and should protect your woman emotionally and physically. This may sound old school, but that's only because society has been shaping women to be more masculine and men to be more feminine. Now everything is out of wack!! Now if there is a masculine woman with a masculine man, or a feminine woman with a feminine man it's just a bad mash up. SOMEONE will eventually assume the dominant role and it just may be her instead of you.

    Understand that our attention/focus is considered energy. When you put your attention so much on your situation you add energy to it and possibly unnecessary energy. Whatever you put your focus/attention on, you give it power. Have you noticed the situation getting worse ever since you started to show your insecurities and KEPT showing them?

    Everyone does need their space. You don't always have to talk with each other. Also she has a CHILD. If you don't have one then you have no idea what it takes to just keep your sanity lol. So while you have the free time to ponder your situation with her, she probably does not have that luxury since her energy (focus/attention) goes towards her child. Which is probably why she is so frustrated with your insecurities. She may be thinking "I've got more important things than to deal with this stuff." You have to be a man and watch over your own feelings. At least most of the time. So take care of your woman. And don't bail on her because of what you THINK might happen. Hang in there til something ACTUALLY happens and don't speculate. How will you know if she does something? Trust me, as long as you aren't suspicious and cause her to try harder to hide what she's doing, it will always come to light.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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