Re: Self Realization.. Help
Yeah the whole putting her on a pedestal thing is absolutely correct. This is what I needed to hear. I think this will certainly help me out here and in the future. Its easy to keep other girls in focus because you see no long term relationship between yourself and them. However as soon as you invest you feel like shes special and should be treated to a higher standard when in reality shes still the same as the others and should be held at the same standard. I have a friend from my AFC days that I put on a pedestal and for the longest time now I've looked at her and wonder what ever made me go so crazy, but thinking about it now it makes perfect sense. Even if you do manage to get in a relationship with a girl you've given so much value to after a short time she won't be able to hold that value and she'll either become frustrated and leave or you lose interest quick because she isn't what you though she was all this time. This helped me bridge a major gap wannabe. Kudos!
In life you get what you put into it.