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    Default Shy Girl, stalling?

    Hey fellas,

    Hi. How are you all doing?

    Please give me some advices as to what to do. I would really appreciate your help.

    I met her while night street sarging. I made an impression and made her laugh. Then went for a Number Close. Two days later we met up for lunch on her turf. I could not get her on my turf on my dating terms. Which I plan to do on a second date.

    It was our first date. The thing is she is this really shy girl. She has 7 siblings and shes the youngest in her family. Which may explain why she is shy. She is a real simple girl. Likes simple things like watching movies and shopping. She does not go nightclubbing.

    It seems like she does not like to be around people or a crowd.

    Basically she will make an ideal wife eh.

    She is Thai-Chinese. They are usually considered reserved but not always. She is cautious of playboys. She was really quiet. But I tried my best to be make conversation and make her laugh and be cocky and funny and keep composure.

    I teased her a little bit here and there. I made her smile and laugh once every 5-10 minutes.


    Now the issue is, when I asked her out for a second date which was supposed to be this week, she said she was busy this WHOLE WEEK? I was like WTF? She said, maybe the week after this week.

    I told her fine I understand and that I'll call her after 2 days.

    What do you guys make of this 1 week of farking stalling?

    I live in Thailand by the way.

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    Default Re: Shy Girl, stalling?

    Shy ones tend to respond well to strong leader types. Also don't be afraid to let her know her behavior isn't impressing you. Get upset with her and don't keep trying if she's not investing. She has to know that her behavior is unacceptable. With a stern, kind hand.
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    Default Re: Shy Girl, stalling?

    Hey Batman,

    Thanks. I invited her to Try Indian Food. She said she is afraid of Indian food cause its smelly.

    Shes simple and likes to watch movies and eat japanese food. She does not go night clubbing.

    I was insisting on Indian food under the context that IT WILL BE FUN. IT WILL BE NEW. IT WILL BE ADVENTUROUS. But i read somewhere that not all women are into adventures, and some women are really just very simple. This may have been a wrong strategy on my part.

    I told her I will call her up again after 2 days. Should I?

    It looks like shes from a wealthy and traditional family. She cant cook. she continuously says she is stupid. I mean WTF. she says in relationships, to really get to know a person, it takes time.

    She says I'm funny. She talks less cause her English is not good. But she is just also shy.

    Maybe I should try to get her to talk more about herself. Ask her inquisitive questions so that she can invest more in the conversation.

    And I should change strategy and tell her I going to this Japanese restaurant and that she should join.

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    Default Re: Shy Girl, stalling?

    You want your world to affect her. Not fall into her world. Anytime she says something about her views on life she is imposing her world onto yours. This is a good opportunity to impose your views and get her sucked into your world and view of things. Once you do that it becomes a bit easier. You want to get her to a point where it would be rude to not kiss you, so she will.

    Only ask her out on her high points. Not yours. If she says something unique, follow with, "Wow that's interesting. Never took you for someone that blah blah blah. You know what. We should get together. At my favorite place. Right now!" Of course you don't mean right now, but have fun with it. See if you can get her to suggest the date and time.
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    Default Re: Shy Girl, stalling?

    Okay, fark it! If i lose her I lose her. I will call her up tomorrow and tell her I dont appreciate that you are busy for the whole week! WTF?

    And I sometimes also get girls calling themselves "I'm dumb, I'm stupid" I always reply "okay" and change topic. Is it that they are trying to disqualify themselves to kill attraction with me?

    I am also planning to playfully mock and make fun of her being so busy. like "Ohhh, I'm always busy. I have no time to take a shower"

    Maybe I should try to disqualify myself. heh.

    I'm even gonna tell her that "you're boring"

    How do I effectively impose my views on her? Never learnt this.

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    Make sure you have enough value before "punishing" her. Otherwise it's a risk. Also it's better to do it as soon as she does something rather than come out of no where like you were meditating on it.

    Imposing your views is really frame control. Setting yourself up as the prize to be won is a good frame to set. There is a lot of info about frame control that I suggest you get into. You want to suck her into your reality so that you play by your rules.
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    I'm also starting to think that her stalling for a week was a massive shit test. That she is trying to take control of things, to co-ordinate, and lead activities (by stalling?) testing my male gender role.

    How does one responds to a woman when she says "busy this whole week?"

    I'm formulating a strategy so as never to be trapped in this crazy long stall ever again.

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    Default Re: Shy Girl, stalling?

    Okay, its confirmed. Shes really fucking rich dude. A rich Asian woman.....I'm middle class....what are the chances for a LTR? heh.

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    It's possible. My current LTR comes from a good family where mine comes from the ghetto. It's all about your game. Think Uptown Girl by Billy Joel.
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    Default Re: Shy Girl, stalling?

    I wont worry about losing her or not. I'll do my best to be the best I can in my inner game.

    The most important thing is I learn something from this experience. (Being a PUA for 5 months seriously)

    Lets see where it leads. I'll update this thread and I will surely appreciate any advice you could give me as I continue to update and till it ends. Thank you so much!

    It'll be sad if i lose her though. Shes a great gal with or without the cash.


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