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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    Best advice I could give you on pride and ego is, you can't win them all. Trying to win them all you just frustrate yourself. Think of it as trying to make money. You have to spend money to make money. So make sure you win most of them, but understand you can't win all of them. And that's ok.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    there is nothing worst then getting cheated on n when u approach them about it she laughs in your face n gives u a sorry a out of pitty lol that there is bad.....wat u got my friend is nothing that crazy its just something that happens eventually when there is no lable put on anything but hey at least she kept it real n told u n that earns points there....its gonna b tough to get over but your job now is to smash like no tomorrow that every time she looks at u she has an orgasm lol it wont happen again lol

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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    Look man think of it this way. You consider yourself a PUA. For all you know this guy that she slept with could be a PUA as well and maybe his game was a bit tighter then yours at that given time. Use this as motivation to work harder to make sure it never happens again.

    Yes you have a bruised ego but try take the positive away from all of this. Being you obviously had good game and set strong enough hooks that caused her to tell you the truth. Man women can be conniving motherfarkers so consider yourself lucky that she told you. Speak to her about it. That shows that you man enough to hear her out, you will be reeking AMOG and you can learn what you did wrong or what that guy did right.

    Then when you see her again seduce her like you have never seduced a women before. Show her whose boss and make sure she will never forget how sex with you feels. Boom another hook

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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    I need advice from you guys...will these thoughts ever go away?

    I'll repeat a little of what some guys have said already, but I have a completely different take on this than most. Mostly because I'm a product of my past, and that is a place full of pain.

    Right, you two weren't together. What she did wasn't technically cheating, but I think the definition of cheating is beside the point here. She hurt you. You admit to dodging the bullet but after doing so wish you would have taken it, but at the same time do you think you would have done the same to her? You said the equivalent that you wouldn't. What is fair and what is right are really irrelevant when it comes down to you and what you want. If you are anything like me you have double standards, but when you're high value and come from a place of power, beggars can't be choosers.

    [I believe] The measure of a man is not in his ability or capacity to love, but rather his devotion to being impartial, unaffected by influence, unwavering in his convictions. Justice is blind. This is justice. Would you make the same decision for any other girl? If not, where does that stand in your moral code? Are you willing to accept that you are a man willing to make exceptions (or maybe even a better word, excuses)?

    And please understand that I don't mean this as an attack on your character, I just want to give you food for thought.

    By that which has been previously mentioned you can probably gather a pretty good sense of what kind of man I am, but let me explain a little bit further in case it helps you decide where you fit in this binary. If you find yourself agreeing with me then it may be in your best interest to coincide with other aspects of my thoughts, and the same applies likewise (obviously :P).

    I am high value and a leader. Because of this I can create social groups from scratch, but when I do I do so with the understanding that practically all of them have an expiration date. In time they will crumble, and when that time comes I will walk away to make another. The former will fall apart because I was the Anchor, which is too bad because if I had cared enough I could have stitch the seams and everything would have carried on fine, but I don't. I'm the kind of guy who would rather walk away from a situation than try to fix what's broken. I know when to fold.

    I am a great pickup artist, not because I have studied endlessly (though that has helped) but because I have no social inhibitions. I don't care about other people, which means I don't care about their validation. The few people I have let close to me in the past have hurt me, so I have become very good at detaching myself from others quickly and easily. I drop girls in seconds, which is why they want me.

    I hold grudges. To me, some things are unforgivable. For me, those thoughts would never go away and they would eat me alive. I understand that is by choice, but just the same.

    For all these reasons and character traits, I would walk away.

    But having said all that, I'm definitely not trying to persuade you one way or the other. There are huge flaws in this kind of man, one of the most important being the potential to never find happiness. Sociopaths make CEO's for a reason. Being great and being happy usually don't follow suit. My goal is to be great. What's yours?
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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    I guess everyone shared some knowledge I guess I can share mine.

    First of she didn't have to tell you, which meant something. Some would consider female characteristics cat like, and due to that resemblance she could have gotten away with it. The point of the matter is that yes your ego and feelings for her got hurt but as some already said it wasnt exclusive.

    So the question is what do you really want from her? Her body or her mind? Her affection or her addiction? Her loyalty and openness or her unworthiness and lies?

    Personally I would friend-zone her and build the trust bridge so you both can get over. When you both establish trust once more a relationship can then form.

    Good luck.
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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    It basically comes down to whether you like her enough to get over it or not? Simple as lol

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    Whether it was cheating or not.. She was well aware it would hurt you. It seems like this was her odd way of letting you know she has options and to pull the trigger on the relationship front. Her plan backfired on her, she doesnt understand that dudes take it much worse when another man touches his woman. We have too much pride to get over it like they seem to be able to do with relative ease.

    So... It seems there are 2 choices...

    Understand where shes coming from, put a label on it, and see what she did as a cry for help of sorts. It seems you could love this girl and this would likely be my route of choice.

    OR

    Cut all ties... Do your PUA THANG and smush smush smush lol. In time... If the connection you have was important enough to either of you, you will contact eachother.

    As for your bruised ego.. As the lord said "my son... This too shall pass"

    Good luck player.

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    Default Re: Possible Girlfriend SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER GUY.

    I've made my decision.

    I'm hers essentially. She can do what she wants with me.

    These past few days have been so painful for me because I know ultimately it was my mistake in the first place.

    So I've started a new thread on the board: How to show LOVE/EMOTION without being AFC

    The big question I need answers for now is, how do I keep my cool and keep her guessing and excited...when I've reverted back to the head over heels AFC that lead me to The Game in the first place?


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