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Thread: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

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    Default Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    I am quite ready to admit that I am not up to the standard of many people that are on these forums, but I am here to share my story thus far.

    History
    A girl I knew from my time at University is currently dating a lad she knows from back home. I was always quite attracted to her and she has a beautifully fun personality but as I was previously dating someone else at the time I never allowed myself to take things further.

    Since leaving my girlfriend and discovering this community I have learnt a number of things. Things I decided to put to use on stealing this girl away from her current boyfriend.

    What follows are my own observations about what's been particularly effective for me.

    The ideological boyfriend
    First important tactic I learned was something I had read/watched somewhere online regarding how to speak of her boyfriend in conversation. I've personally found in the past (and this is true of men as well as women) that attacking something somebody owns or is currently proud of, causes people to feel defensive.

    What I was told was to build the thing they have to be something far greater than it is. Whenever the topic of her boyfriend comes up I will usually create an ideological boyfriend figure that he can never hope to be. It's quite easy to see thereafter the shift in their attitude as they realize that their boyfriend isn't so ideal.

    Mystery
    Secondly, I've been surprised to find out how effective creating mystery is. It's quite easy to give a straight answer to a question but the less she knows the more she will be wondering. I love the idea that you can fill somebody's mind with the image of yourself so that they can think of nothing else. Leaving open ended threads of conversation such as 'perhaps I'll tell you tomorrow' or 'oh I can't tell you that, that's a secret' I have found to be torture to somebody who was asking with genuine inquisition.

    Stating true intentions
    I have also found that you should never state your true intentions. I haven't yet told this girl that I have even remotely considered being with her, which has caused her to try and win over my affection. This is somewhat related to keeping a sense of mystery.

    Inside games
    Insides games are the best thing ever. The more little things that just you and someone else share the better. We currently refer to each other by prefixing our surnames with Mr and Miss. It's terribly 50 shades of grey I've been told. I remember playing the 'Cube' routine on her in which she'd picked the most ridiculous things...

    Small cube hovering above a swamp
    Horse eating flowers on one side of the swamp
    Ladder sinking into the swamp on the other side

    Instead of getting all serious I just told her what each part symbolized and described her ideal man was one that eats children (as flowers meant children in this version). The next time her boyfriend visited I asked if he had managed to eat any children and boom she was right back in the same state she was when we played the game thinking about how her current boyfriend isn't her ideal man (however ridiculous the premise). This is always a much more fun way of initiating conversation rather than with just 'Hi' or 'Hello'. I think this was described a little bit by Mystery in the Game DVD.

    Conclusion
    Right now I am at the point where she's describing to me the parts that will send her into a 'flustered heap' and telling me how jealous she is when I go out into town to pickup girls.

    Do I have any moral objections about what's happening? Who you talkin' to?

    Silencer

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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    I think you should have moral objections about what's happening, personally. There's plenty of single women in the world, and intentionally 'stealing' someone else's is pretty wrong. But to each their own.

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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    Great job i think u fully understood the bfd and what it is supposed to be. I personally don't have any moral objection to it.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    It isn't really up to me to decide whether she would want to upgrade or not. My goal wasn't to do this maliciously but to simply be the better choice in her mind.

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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    Quote Originally Posted by silencer View Post
    It isn't really up to me to decide whether she would want to upgrade or not. My goal wasn't to do this maliciously but to simply be the better choice in her mind.
    I know it was bro and your Mindset is the correct one to have.
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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    I guess that's true, and I can't fault you for that. Still, whether or not your intent is malicious isn't really the point. I just think it's bad karma to even try.

    Speaking from experience here...I've been the proverbial 'thief' in the past, and more recently the one who got robbed. It hurts the boyfriend in question quite a lot, and I'm sure you'd understand that a lot better had you been on the other side before.

    Just my two cents though, not trying to argue or anything.

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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    I completely understand. I certainly wouldn't want to be the guy having his girlfriend stolen, but I don't believe in Karma. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it I suppose.

    Thank you for your input

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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    Respect. The stuff in here is so good it could be used as a guide. I really like your use of inside jokes, and your open ended threads. I know from personal experience that they work.

    My favorite line: "You know, they're are two things that I hate about women. First, they never say what they mean or mean what they say, and second, I'll tell you after... (insert event here).

    I once used this on a chick straight before a lecture; two months later (we ended up dating) she was still asking for the answer. Secrets are irresistible to women. Why do you think that they are such gossips?

    Personally, I think that a chick is only off limits when she is your mate's girlfriend (or, depending on the situation, an ex), when she's overly insecure or emotionally unstable, or if shes married. Other than that, she's fair game!

    Good luck mate,
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    Default Re: Stealing a girlfriend, my story

    "You know, they're are two things that I hate about women. First, they never say what they mean or mean what they say, and second, I'll tell you after... (insert event here)"
    This is genius. I don't suppose many people will have written a proper guide on stealing girlfriends due to the already apparent questionability of it's morals. Perhaps if there's enough interest then I'll write a slightly more in depth post.

    One thing I suppose I didn't mention in my original post was about 'being unavailable'. I know from experience how difficult it is if you're texting/phoning/fb chatting to someone regularly to then not, but I've realized now why it's so effective.

    It seems to me that with enough mystery around you, a lot of affection seems to grow when you are not around her or talking to her. After all she can push for answers and find out more in your presence. But this only works if you've filled her mind with your image, with questions she wants to know or with stories she wished she knew the ending to.

    If you are always there when she wants to speak to you she won't ever wonder, 'Where is he? What is he doing?'. More to the point she'll know that you have a life (even if you don't) outside of speaking to her and that adds a lot of value.

    Tell me if I'm making sense.

    Silencer


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