I am quite ready to admit that I am not up to the standard of many people that are on these forums, but I am here to share my story thus far.
A girl I knew from my time at University is currently dating a lad she knows from back home. I was always quite attracted to her and she has a beautifully fun personality but as I was previously dating someone else at the time I never allowed myself to take things further.
Since leaving my girlfriend and discovering this community I have learnt a number of things. Things I decided to put to use on stealing this girl away from her current boyfriend.
What follows are my own observations about what's been particularly effective for me.
The ideological boyfriend
First important tactic I learned was something I had read/watched somewhere online regarding how to speak of her boyfriend in conversation. I've personally found in the past (and this is true of men as well as women) that attacking something somebody owns or is currently proud of, causes people to feel defensive.
What I was told was to build the thing they have to be something far greater than it is. Whenever the topic of her boyfriend comes up I will usually create an ideological boyfriend figure that he can never hope to be. It's quite easy to see thereafter the shift in their attitude as they realize that their boyfriend isn't so ideal.
Secondly, I've been surprised to find out how effective creating mystery is. It's quite easy to give a straight answer to a question but the less she knows the more she will be wondering. I love the idea that you can fill somebody's mind with the image of yourself so that they can think of nothing else. Leaving open ended threads of conversation such as 'perhaps I'll tell you tomorrow' or 'oh I can't tell you that, that's a secret' I have found to be torture to somebody who was asking with genuine inquisition.
Stating true intentions
I have also found that you should never state your true intentions. I haven't yet told this girl that I have even remotely considered being with her, which has caused her to try and win over my affection. This is somewhat related to keeping a sense of mystery.
Insides games are the best thing ever. The more little things that just you and someone else share the better. We currently refer to each other by prefixing our surnames with Mr and Miss. It's terribly 50 shades of grey I've been told. I remember playing the 'Cube' routine on her in which she'd picked the most ridiculous things...
Small cube hovering above a swamp
Horse eating flowers on one side of the swamp
Ladder sinking into the swamp on the other side
Instead of getting all serious I just told her what each part symbolized and described her ideal man was one that eats children (as flowers meant children in this version). The next time her boyfriend visited I asked if he had managed to eat any children and boom she was right back in the same state she was when we played the game thinking about how her current boyfriend isn't her ideal man (however ridiculous the premise). This is always a much more fun way of initiating conversation rather than with just 'Hi' or 'Hello'. I think this was described a little bit by Mystery in the Game DVD.
Right now I am at the point where she's describing to me the parts that will send her into a 'flustered heap' and telling me how jealous she is when I go out into town to pickup girls.
Do I have any moral objections about what's happening? Who you talkin' to?